Did I just relapse?!
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Did I just relapse?!
Earlier today I was at the beach and I picked up a beer almost instinctually after I drank it I realized I didn't drink any more and I said well I already had one may as well have another so I did, I drank seven solo cups of beer give or take on or two enough to give me a slight buzz and then I stopped got food and came home because o didn't want to drink anymore. I feel like tomorrow I'm going to feel guilty and hate myself for it but is that considered a relapse? I stopped when I could have got drunk and I came home to prevent it. I feel responsible and guilty at the same time?
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Well in my eyes a relapse for a alcoholic would be any alcohol at all. But at the same time I didn't take it over board and get completely drunk off my a s s.. So you can look at it in two different ways. I've read threads on here with people saying different things about relapsing. Hopefully when I wake up tomorrow I will feel fine and continue my sobriety, because that's what I want.
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Yeah, I think that's the key. Don't worry about it too much, but just try to stay focused on not drinking. Remind yourself of your past history of alcohol use. Does alcohol use usually end up being harmless like it was this time? I'm guessing not, so don't try to convince yourself that you're now safe to drink in moderation. 
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I have heard it said that for a relapse to be a relapse, you have to be recovered first. You are still drinking.
Maybe you just haven't got this thing yet. If everyone got it the first time, there would be no SR, AA, AVRT...
You can do this. Whatever you have done, isn't working. Try something different!
Maybe you just haven't got this thing yet. If everyone got it the first time, there would be no SR, AA, AVRT...
You can do this. Whatever you have done, isn't working. Try something different!
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It doesn't matter what term you use for drinking again, but it helps that you didn't go overboard. Just don't let that be an excuse to keep trying to "moderate" again in the future. There is not much else to say about the 7 beer test you just had, because you probably already know that drinking like that is not a good thing.
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Very true. Thank you for all of your opinions. I made it 14 days with no substances at all (except cigs). Even tho I messed up I am glad I did not take it over board. I will learn from this and move on.
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just a blip mate, i wouldnt worry yourself too much about it and try not to feel guilty...just get back on the wagon thats what matters god knows i had plenty of 'blips' before i finally got the message, its cool that you didnt go overboard though and end up right back into alcoholism, i think you had a lucky break there, learn from it...
best wishes
god knows i had plenty of 'blips' before i finally got the message, its cool that you didnt go overboard though and end up right back into alcoholism, i think you had a lucky break there, learn from it...best wishes
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Well... After 10 days in the hospital in 2010, which followed three weeks of torturous withdrawal, upon release I went home, bought a pint of brandy, and drank it in order to sleep.
Was it a relapse? No...I was still in the active phase of my addiction, after a month of so-called sobriety, and still drugged up with a host of prescribed psychotropics.
I wasn't sober to being with, and drinking that night was continuing my downward spiral.
So to ensure I had a sobriety date, which many worship, I picked a date a month after my release from the hospital and a week from the night I returned home and drank that pint.
I do AA, and it states that AA is a program of rigorous honesty which for me means being honest with myself.
I was released from the hospital Oct. 8, 2010, drank that night once, but still picked Oct. 15, 2010, as my "sobriety" date. Yesterday was my actual birthday, and also my 18th month of "sobriety."
Personally, two weeks after I began the withdrawal stage of my recovery -- perhaps like your 14 days before the beach beer -- I was hardly in any mental or physical shape to think I was sober.
In fact, 18 months later, without taking a drink or a hit of a joint or swallowing a benzo -- I still think I am more in the abstinence phase, and not purely sobriety, if that makes any sens to you.
Personally, I would wait until I had six months of total abstinence -- counting from those beers on the beach -- and ask yourself if it was a relapse or if you are still in the active addiction phase.
Was it a relapse? No...I was still in the active phase of my addiction, after a month of so-called sobriety, and still drugged up with a host of prescribed psychotropics.
I wasn't sober to being with, and drinking that night was continuing my downward spiral.
So to ensure I had a sobriety date, which many worship, I picked a date a month after my release from the hospital and a week from the night I returned home and drank that pint.
I do AA, and it states that AA is a program of rigorous honesty which for me means being honest with myself.
I was released from the hospital Oct. 8, 2010, drank that night once, but still picked Oct. 15, 2010, as my "sobriety" date. Yesterday was my actual birthday, and also my 18th month of "sobriety."
Personally, two weeks after I began the withdrawal stage of my recovery -- perhaps like your 14 days before the beach beer -- I was hardly in any mental or physical shape to think I was sober.
In fact, 18 months later, without taking a drink or a hit of a joint or swallowing a benzo -- I still think I am more in the abstinence phase, and not purely sobriety, if that makes any sens to you.
Personally, I would wait until I had six months of total abstinence -- counting from those beers on the beach -- and ask yourself if it was a relapse or if you are still in the active addiction phase.
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Our relationships and journeys are unique and personal but remember that many an alcoholic in recovery began a full blown relapse with some controlled drinking. If it was me, i would consider it a trip up and a lesson to learn from. There was a trigger there. Something led to the drinking and while it was under some kind of control this time, who knows what can happen the next time or the time after that. Alcohol can lure you into a false sense of security. I find it better to always have my guard up.better safe and sober than sorry.
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I had7 months, drank one glass of sangria, and considered it a relapse. New sobriety date. It doesn't necessarily take away from the 7 months of sobriety I had, but a big part of my sobriety is being honest with myself and with others, and I definitely relapsed. Most important I think is to pull yourself up and keep going with your sobriety. You can do this!
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