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Old 04-08-2012, 01:23 AM   #1 (permalink)
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Went to a kegger tonight and...


I went to a party tonight with all my friends, liquor, beer, wine, coke, ex etc... And I didn't touch one thing! When I first got there the urge was pretty bad to not pick a cup up and start drinking. So I played some beer pong and didn't drink. I realized no one noticed I wasn't drinking except my close friends I also noticed that it doesn't make a difference if I drink or not. It was a weird experience. I'm shocked I didn't drink, fcking crazy. So if I can do that I can do anything! See you tomorrow day 9 and I'll greet you without a hangover
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That is absolutely fantastic!! Well done you!!x
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Nice work, FLA!
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Old 04-08-2012, 01:46 AM   #4 (permalink)
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Good job FLA! But remember that tried and tested metaphor: If you hang around a barber shop enough, you'll eventually get a haircut.
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Glad you made it FLA....I'd go easy on people, places and things that might throw you off for awhile....I have 10 months coming up in a bit....I haven't been to a keg party or played beer pong yet....
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I'm glad you negotiated that ok FLA - just don't do what I used to do...

I'd think....'Ok I've done that once I can do it again'...it doesn't always follow...often times I'd go to another get together...and fall immediately back into my old ways....

or I'd think 'I did so well last time, I can just sit on one beer tonight'....nope.

The tendency to try and run before we can walk is natural...we want to be fixed...but I learned to respect the power of my addiction.

take it easy man

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Congrats! That is great! At my old apartment my roommate and I used to have AMAZING parties for about 75 people. We would provide all of the alcohol and everyone would bring a lot of food. Gradually it got nicer and nicer. We would do this for Christmas and also the Fourth of July. One time, maybe 4 years ago when I was in the beginning period of thinking I wanted to quit, I drank club sodas and limes all night. I felt guilty for fibbing but told people it was a gin and tonic, for those *annoying* friends that won't leave you alone....it was so hilarious (and not, for some people) to see how trashed people got. That sober day the next day was one of the clearest of my life. Thank you very much for your post. It makes me realize (not in a sad way, in a good way) how long my body and conscience have been telling me to STOP. Well, I have. Today is day 13 for me....It will be awesome to have 2 weeks on a Monday, of all days. I am like most people--don't care for Mondays, but obviously don't mind as much when I am sober. But I bet most people don't survive who try to quit ANYTHING on Mondays....just makes for a long, hard week. Congratulations on your accomplishment.........I do agree with the ever-wise Dee: just be careful that you do not assume you will feel the same way at every party. That breeds complacency, and that is why I ALWAYS feel back into my old ways. I would say that is the NUMBER 1 reason I could never stay away from drugs or alcohol...that belief, as Dee so aptly put it, that I could have *just one drink* at a later date. I most CERTAINLY CANNOT.
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Old 04-08-2012, 06:34 AM   #8 (permalink)
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I went to a party tonight with all my friends, liquor, beer, wine, coke, ex etc... And I didn't touch one thing! When I first got there the urge was pretty bad to not pick a cup up and start drinking. So I played some beer pong and didn't drink. I realized no one noticed I wasn't drinking except my close friends I also noticed that it doesn't make a difference if I drink or not. It was a weird experience. I'm shocked I didn't drink, fcking crazy. So if I can do that I can do anything! See you tomorrow day 9 and I'll greet you without a hangover
Sounds like you lucked out in that round of Russian Roulette.

You certainly like playing with fire.

All the best to you.

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Old 04-08-2012, 07:22 AM   #9 (permalink)
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Sounds like you lucked out in that round of Russian Roulette.

You certainly like playing with fire.

All the best to you.

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I agree. Luck and white knuckle on the first try. I wouldn't persist. If you like excitement try sky diving, bungie jumping, SCUBA, or something else safe. Being in the same room with alcohol isn't. Just my 2 cents.
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Not sure I would have gone to a kegger so early in sobriety, FLA ... but I'm proud of you for toughing it out. Great job. But don't get overconfident and hit up another one next weekend ... good time to be looking into some sober entertainment until you've got some more sober time under your belt, eh?
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Old 04-08-2012, 08:01 AM   #11 (permalink)
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Yeah, I tend to agree with those in this thread who say going to a keg party probably isn't a good idea at this stage of recovery. (Or at all, in my estimation.)

You might be able to do it once, twice, three times..........but eventually it will most likely catch up to you. So I wouldn't make a habit of it.

I used to do stuff like that all the time. Go to the strip club, casino, parties, bars, etc. And you know what? Sometimes I would stay sober. Actually, a lot of times I would. But then I would get cocky, and think I've got this thing licked, and would always end up drinking again.

Now, I'm not saying you can't go to any social function where drinking is involved. Of course not. Just go when your presence is warranted. For instance, at a wedding, or if you have to drive somebody home, or something along those lines.

We can't hide from alcohol, but we also shouldn't put ourselves in the line of fire either.

Just my $0.02.
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Not sure I would have gone to a kegger so early in sobriety, FLA ...
I came to the realization that I do not belong at keggers .. there is nothing there (positive thing) for me.

Wishing the best to everyone.

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Good job, but remember, if you play too close to the sun, eventually you WILL get burned.

(Sorry All, to have stooped to such a cliche metaphor, but it seemed apropos.)
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FLA, your resolve not to drink is great! Glad you made it out sober.

Do remember that at 9 days you are still fragile, so be careful, as suggested. At least you know that you can be with those people and not cave in. Just don't make it a weekly thing!! Stay strong and stay stopped!
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Well done FLA.

If you're going to "make it thru" something this early, make sure it's bloody worth going.

Could have been a powder-kegger .

Again, well done. I know it's hard. I tested myself a few times in early sobriety...thought I had it under control and I didn't.
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I went to a party tonight with all my friends, liquor, beer, wine, coke, ex etc... And I didn't touch one thing! When I first got there the urge was pretty bad to not pick a cup up and start drinking. So I played some beer pong and didn't drink. I realized no one noticed I wasn't drinking except my close friends I also noticed that it doesn't make a difference if I drink or not. It was a weird experience. I'm shocked I didn't drink, fcking crazy. So if I can do that I can do anything! See you tomorrow day 9 and I'll greet you without a hangover
The bolded parts are really scary!

Please be careful! I don't know why you would put yourself right in temptation's path.

You may find you are unable to start a new life/lifestyle for yourself while you still have at least one foot firmly planted in your old life/lifestyle. If I were you I would invite your friends to things that didn't include being surrounded by all the things that got you into trouble in the first place... so that you can start building ,and then maintain, a more sane, healthy and happy life for yourself.

Best wishes.
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Well done FLA. If you know yourself well and know what you want then you are safe in any situation.
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Well done FLA. If you know yourself well and know what you want then you are safe in any situation.
Soberlicious you know that I completley agree with your comment, and have put myself intentionaly in clasic "at risk" or "slippery" situations before intentionaly, I did it knowing that I would not drink. Knowing and not doubting in any way that I could go there in that environ and not drink.

At the same time this discourages me from telling FLA that (he she?) should put themselves in that situation again for a while just like another poster said;

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When I first got there the urge was pretty bad to not pick a cup up and start drinking.... I'm shocked I didn't drink, fcking crazy. So if I can do that I can do anything!
When in this type of situation yes I suppose that it could be kind of a shock/booster to your confidence, but that is not the impression that I got while reading. I got the notion that FLA might have been going into that situation questioning (his/her) ability to not drink. That I am not sure is a good thing. At the same time though this encourages me to think that (he/she) is not far off.

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I realized no one noticed I wasn't drinking except my close friends I also noticed that it doesn't make a difference if I drink or not.
I am glad that you noticed that and that is awesome, may I sugest that if you are to repeat this senario you hold onto that knowledge and know that you will not drink, that you can be anywhere in any situation and drinking is simply not an option ever. If you can embrace that mental standpoint and use it on a daily basis then i have no doubt that you will be the "voice of reason" at many fun times to come.

Also sober beer pong is possible?! YES!! I was so going to miss playing that, now I just have to find me someone that will drink my cups for me, or a very understanding partner
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Job well done, FLA!!!

InsertName pretty much nailed my feelings on the subject. I don't see anything wrong with going to a party if you're at the point where you KNOW that's the last thing you want to do to yourself. Where you've completely changed your attitude towards booze & drugs. But if there's even the slightest twinkle of want residing somewhere in your head, you could be playing with fire.

I can go into a drinking environment now and instead of it making me want it, it has the opposite effect. I see people acting like lunatics, making poor decisions, fighting for no reason, putting themselves in danger, etc and it reinforces my desire to never drink again. BUT - I can also say that this is the first time in my life I've ever reached this point, and every other such time would have been a temptation for me rather than a deterrent.

Anyway - don't mean to **** on your parade, FLA. You did good!!!
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Whilst it is OK to go somewhere where alcohol is sold. We can't avoid those. But it seems silly to go a place where drinking is the only activity
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