My husband is smoking crack
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My husband is smoking crack
Hello. I recently found out my husband was smoking crack. I discovered this last summer. Ever since then, it has been a total disaster.
In June of this year he went to detox/in patient rehab. When he got out, his brother offered him some meth, and he relapsed all over again with all drugs. Meth, xanax, and crack again.
His brother was very aware of his rehab and recovery. I can't explain why them two insist that it's okay, as long as your family gives it to you...?
It still makes me very sick thinking about that situation.
This past August he had gotten high on crack and pretty much went maniac. He took himself to my fathers house and fought my father in the front yard. Blaming my father for his problems. All random. My father has NOTHING to do with any of his issues with drugs. My husband had a real manic-moment that day. It was awful. Ever since then I have not been back home with him.
Along with his substance abuse problem, his mother enables him. They are very wealthy and she is constantly trying to fix his problems with money. JUST HIS PROBLEMS. She is in denial about his drug problem. She even denies that he went to rehab, when she is the one who paid for it because he cried for help.
Since I have not been home, I've been staying with my brother. Along with my 9 year old daughter. He has no plan for when we will fix our marriage or get me on my feet to get my own place with my daughter. He has housed and supported me for the past 6 years. And this living arrangement has been very tough on my daughter and I. But I simply cannot go back home to his drug behavior. It's terrible.
Another thing, he mother has bought him a new car to "help" cheer him up over our separation!!! It blows my mind. I don't know what to do anymore....what's going to happen to us ? What should I do?? Where should I go from here...?? He has yet to give me any financial assistance with my living. Is that wrong??
In June of this year he went to detox/in patient rehab. When he got out, his brother offered him some meth, and he relapsed all over again with all drugs. Meth, xanax, and crack again.
His brother was very aware of his rehab and recovery. I can't explain why them two insist that it's okay, as long as your family gives it to you...?
It still makes me very sick thinking about that situation.
This past August he had gotten high on crack and pretty much went maniac. He took himself to my fathers house and fought my father in the front yard. Blaming my father for his problems. All random. My father has NOTHING to do with any of his issues with drugs. My husband had a real manic-moment that day. It was awful. Ever since then I have not been back home with him.
Along with his substance abuse problem, his mother enables him. They are very wealthy and she is constantly trying to fix his problems with money. JUST HIS PROBLEMS. She is in denial about his drug problem. She even denies that he went to rehab, when she is the one who paid for it because he cried for help.
Since I have not been home, I've been staying with my brother. Along with my 9 year old daughter. He has no plan for when we will fix our marriage or get me on my feet to get my own place with my daughter. He has housed and supported me for the past 6 years. And this living arrangement has been very tough on my daughter and I. But I simply cannot go back home to his drug behavior. It's terrible.
Another thing, he mother has bought him a new car to "help" cheer him up over our separation!!! It blows my mind. I don't know what to do anymore....what's going to happen to us ? What should I do?? Where should I go from here...?? He has yet to give me any financial assistance with my living. Is that wrong??
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Welcome to SR, JJ408. I'm sorry you've had to deal with this, and yes- it's wrong! You might want to check out the Friends & Family section here at SR. Lots of people have been where you are right now.
It's hard to advise you specifically but it's great that you've worked to do what's right for your daughter. It might be time to look at the legal resources available to you. He almost certainly has a legal financial responsibility to you and your daughter.
You can't make him change, full stop. If he ever changes it will be because he chooses to. You can support him, you can help, but while you can lead a horse to water you can't make it drink. Now is the time to look out for yourself and your daughter.
It's hard to advise you specifically but it's great that you've worked to do what's right for your daughter. It might be time to look at the legal resources available to you. He almost certainly has a legal financial responsibility to you and your daughter.
You can't make him change, full stop. If he ever changes it will be because he chooses to. You can support him, you can help, but while you can lead a horse to water you can't make it drink. Now is the time to look out for yourself and your daughter.
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Originally Posted by JJ408 
Hello. I recently found out my husband was smoking crack. I discovered this last summer. Ever since then, it has been a total disaster.
In June of this year he went to detox/in patient rehab. When he got out, his brother offered him some meth, and he relapsed all over again with all drugs. Meth, xanax, and crack again.
His brother was very aware of his rehab and recovery. I can't explain why them two insist that it's okay, as long as your family gives it to you...?
It still makes me very sick thinking about that situation.
This past August he had gotten high on crack and pretty much went maniac. He took himself to my fathers house and fought my father in the front yard. Blaming my father for his problems. All random. My father has NOTHING to do with any of his issues with drugs. My husband had a real manic-moment that day. It was awful. Ever since then I have not been back home with him.
Along with his substance abuse problem, his mother enables him. They are very wealthy and she is constantly trying to fix his problems with money. JUST HIS PROBLEMS. She is in denial about his drug problem. She even denies that he went to rehab, when she is the one who paid for it because he cried for help.
Since I have not been home, I've been staying with my brother. Along with my 9 year old daughter. He has no plan for when we will fix our marriage or get me on my feet to get my own place with my daughter. He has housed and supported me for the past 6 years. And this living arrangement has been very tough on my daughter and I. But I simply cannot go back home to his drug behavior. It's terrible.
Another thing, he mother has bought him a new car to "help" cheer him up over our separation!!! It blows my mind. I don't know what to do anymore....what's going to happen to us ? What should I do?? Where should I go from here...?? He has yet to give me any financial assistance with my living. Is that wrong??
In June of this year he went to detox/in patient rehab. When he got out, his brother offered him some meth, and he relapsed all over again with all drugs. Meth, xanax, and crack again.
His brother was very aware of his rehab and recovery. I can't explain why them two insist that it's okay, as long as your family gives it to you...?
It still makes me very sick thinking about that situation.
This past August he had gotten high on crack and pretty much went maniac. He took himself to my fathers house and fought my father in the front yard. Blaming my father for his problems. All random. My father has NOTHING to do with any of his issues with drugs. My husband had a real manic-moment that day. It was awful. Ever since then I have not been back home with him.
Along with his substance abuse problem, his mother enables him. They are very wealthy and she is constantly trying to fix his problems with money. JUST HIS PROBLEMS. She is in denial about his drug problem. She even denies that he went to rehab, when she is the one who paid for it because he cried for help.
Since I have not been home, I've been staying with my brother. Along with my 9 year old daughter. He has no plan for when we will fix our marriage or get me on my feet to get my own place with my daughter. He has housed and supported me for the past 6 years. And this living arrangement has been very tough on my daughter and I. But I simply cannot go back home to his drug behavior. It's terrible.
Another thing, he mother has bought him a new car to "help" cheer him up over our separation!!! It blows my mind. I don't know what to do anymore....what's going to happen to us ? What should I do?? Where should I go from here...?? He has yet to give me any financial assistance with my living. Is that wrong??
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