Bruno1979

Hi guys,

I run my own business and I've had a shite day at work, problem after problem after problem,

I'm basically posting this for my own sake so that I can read it later tonight.

I'm good at controling my drinking and will only have 5/6 pints but its back to day one again.

I definitely need a new form of stress relief.

Thanks,

Bruno.

Sapling

How about working some kind of recovery program??....Maybe one that has worked for people on this site....I think there are a few to choose from...It can't hurt.

Terminally Unique

You can start by getting rid of the supply.

eJoshua

Hi Bruno --

Sounds like you may be good at controlling how much you drink, but not at keeping yourself from that first drink, and if you're like me it's the first drink that gets you in trouble, not the ones that come after it.

When I was drinking I would find many reasons to drink -- bad day at work, good day at work, angry about something, happy about something, bored, lonely, energetic, social... I could find any reason to justify my drinking.

I can guarantee only one thing: in the long run drinking is not going to relieve your stress and it's not going to make your problems go away. As they say, there isn't a problem in the world that alcohol can't make worse.

Best wishes,

doggonecarl

If you have to control it, it's already out of control.

DayTrader

I dunno if you're alcoholic or not......or whether you get the a$$ kicking from alcoholism i get or not..... but I've found that real RECOVERY (aka - more than just "not drinking one day at a time") to be the best and most complete stress relief I've ever come across.

Sapling

You left out the weather...That got me every time..

Hollyanne

Dear Bruno,
You will have many shite days at work.
You can't even take a sickee coz you're the boss! lol
Start again. Try AA.
Eff secrecy!, minding your good name etc.
It is anonymous!

freshstart57

My drinking was always under control. I was always able to limit it to less than a fifth a day. Every day. For months.

As you have read here, it is common to find that your anxiety is caused by the amount of alcohol consumed, which makes it more difficult to cope with the anxiety. When I quit, I coped much better with problems that were now much smaller. This let me understand a little better what I had been doing to myself.

The common advice you will find on this forum, is that if you have problems with your alcohol consumption, stop drinking.

Bruno1979

Thanks for the replys guys,

I've dropped a major bollock,

I'm not drinking now and I'm on the diet coke, I'm currently listening to my 9 yo daughter talking about how she's played a trumpet in an after school club which I didn't make which is soul destroying, + our puppy has been admitted to the vets with a gastro problem and won't be back until tomorrow and that's if all goes well. I'm drinking horlicks and diet coke now, I don't know if any US guys know what that is, and I'm feeling almost sober but I know I've let myself down big time.

Bring on day 1 tomorrow. :-)

Dee74

Many of us faltered a time or two Bruno - try not to beat yourself up too much.

It's hard to change our lives - and it is hard dealing with stress and lifes ups and downs sober - most of us spent years trying to avoid that kind of thing, after all.

But the more you deal with stuff sober, the more skills you acquire, and I found living sober gets a little easier every time - you can do this Bruno

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desertsong

I've had a number of false starts myself, Bruno. You can get there are long as you're committed to doing this thing. Please don't be too hard on yourself - that only makes things worse. Just do what we've all done ... chalk this up to experience and keep trying. My signature line says it all.

You can do this.

Zebra1275

relapsed on day 2. where do people go from here?

Back to day 1 and start over.

But this time do something different so that you don't have to start over again.

sugarbear1

relapsed on day 2. where do people go from here?

get to an AA meeting like your life depended on it and get some help, please

Bruno1979

Sugarbear,

This isn't for me at this moment in time,

I've let myself down tonight but thanks to my lovely family I've gotten away with it.

I haven't found myself drunk, I haven't been to my daughters after school club but to be fair even if I was the best dad in the world then I wouldn't have gone as no other dads go there either,

I guess I just found myself beating myself up and to be honest quite rightly so.

Its coming up to 22.30hrs here soon and its almost time for bed.

Thanks for all of your advice guys,

Bruno.

Spinach

See you tomorrow. Good luck . The extra pressure of not drinking and shite day does end up as shite day without hangover or cravings quite soon and the thought of not missing kids performance will soon have you smiling with so much joy your a, there and b, sober .
Good luck.
John.

sugarbear1

Peace,

Amy2011

If you want to be sober you start over. If you want to be sober you listen to and follow the suggestions of the people on SR. You find a program of recovery to follow that works for you. I think most of us have found we can't stay sober without a solid plan for recovery. Instead of saying I can't do that you say I will try that. I decided I wanted to be sober more than I wanted to drink. I realized that my way was no longer working and I listened to the people in AA and on SR about what they did to get sober. I came to the conclusion that I was not unique and I would not be the one that was able to control my drinking even though countless others had failed. Nothing changes if nothing changes. Best of luck!

karilynn27

Im still new to recovery so not much advice here. I do know that I couldn't quit for the rest of my life, that was way too overwhelming. I did find out I could go 24 hours. Somehow those 24 hours keep stacking up. Eighty something days now. There are many different paths to sobriety so I'm not here to say which one works for you.
I am working a program but mainly I'm listening and learning and waking up everyday sober and a different person. Oh yeah, I love being sober

Bruno1979

Hi Guys,

Today has been a happier day,

Had a great day at work and our puppy is coming home from the vets in just over 1 hrs time.

No booze tonight, I may even treat the family to a chinese takeaway, depending on what the wife says ofcourse.

Thanks for all of the advice last night.

Cheers,

Bruno.

It was actually day 3 not day 2.:rotfxko