Looking for support
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Looking for support
I've only just registered and having read some of the posts I know I have a problem with drinking and could use some support. My demon is red wine but after a couple anything goes. I've had a very boozy weekend and feel rough this morning but I've been promising myself I'll cut down/give up for a long while now. I'm fed up with waking up not remembering much about the evening before and feeling insecure and depressed. I live an interesting happy life and I'm furious with myself for being so weak. Any advice, tips, support greatly appreciated. Like a lot of people I would like to enjoy a few drinks a couple of times a week but I'm not sure it works like that.
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Hi and welcome yelrihs88
I spent nearly 20 years trying to make it work like that...but it didn't.
I don't think it's about being weak tho - no matter whether you want to call it a disease or an addiction or whatever - everytime I drank alcohol, everytime I introduced alcohol into my body, I lost control - I drank until I was wiped out and I ended up doing stuff I would never have dreamed of doing otherwise.
Alcohol in any amount was toxic to me - and the few times when nothing bad happened to me would feed my resolve to somehow make a basically toxic relationship work.
The only way I found to start to change things was not touch alcohol anymore. That worked
If that sounds like you too, you're in the right place yelrihs - you'll find a lot of support here
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I would like to enjoy a few drinks a couple of times a week but I'm not sure it works like that.
I don't think it's about being weak tho - no matter whether you want to call it a disease or an addiction or whatever - everytime I drank alcohol, everytime I introduced alcohol into my body, I lost control - I drank until I was wiped out and I ended up doing stuff I would never have dreamed of doing otherwise.
Alcohol in any amount was toxic to me - and the few times when nothing bad happened to me would feed my resolve to somehow make a basically toxic relationship work.
The only way I found to start to change things was not touch alcohol anymore. That worked
If that sounds like you too, you're in the right place yelrihs - you'll find a lot of support here
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This is a life changing thing you are talking about here. Put the effort into it lke your life depends on it....In my case it did. You mentioned....
I'm furious with myself for being so weak.
Get this thought out of your head...I felt the same way...Then I realised I was just frightened...I was scared I had lost control...Fear was keeping me from getting better. It takes some courage...That's in you....Find it...And do whatever you have to do to change your life. The other option is to just keep drinking...And you already know what the results of that is. I wish you the best.
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Good advice, Sapling & Dee
Keep reading & posting. Good friends here.
I've learned alot by reading others struggles, mistakes, & how they got sober.
Alot of them like me, never thought I'd be possible, but it is.
You have to accept that you & alcohol don't mix. And close the door on it.
Welcome & best wishes.
Keep reading & posting. Good friends here.
I've learned alot by reading others struggles, mistakes, & how they got sober.
Alot of them like me, never thought I'd be possible, but it is.
You have to accept that you & alcohol don't mix. And close the door on it.
Welcome & best wishes.
Well, I had that thought recently, after several months of sobriety. Had 2 glasses of wine one New year's, then some at a party in February, then on a vacation in April that turned into everday of that trip, and them now and then after that. Fast forward to vacation in Augist and I was pretty much having wine a few times a week, and daily around and since the holidays.
It just goes and goes, even if you think it I under control.
And I am still struggling with that thought of being a normal drinker, but I just don't think it works for me. Once I have a little, even if i go awhile, I think about the next time, etc... I would like to just not think about it at all.
Day 7 here.
Welcome.
It just goes and goes, even if you think it I under control.
And I am still struggling with that thought of being a normal drinker, but I just don't think it works for me. Once I have a little, even if i go awhile, I think about the next time, etc... I would like to just not think about it at all.
Day 7 here.
Welcome.
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Welcome! I'm new to this site too. "Controlled drinking" never worked for me. Funny thing is..."normies" don't think about it. AA's working for me. I'm coming up on 2 years, after 30+ years of drinking. Keep in touch with people who are going through it and understand.
I think it takes a lot of strength and courage to ask for help, but I understand why you feel that not being able to control your drinking is a weakness. I felt the same way. But this isn't a test of your moral fiber or willpower. If you're anything like me, control was never an option -- I couldn't drink "one or two" when I wanted to with any consistency, and I couldn't quit drinking totally without help from people who'd been where I was. I was afraid, terrified, to ask for help and admit my problem, and I only did so out of desperation. Even then, I held on to the illusion that I might be able to learn how to drink like other people did, and I tried it several times.
There's no weakness in asking for help with something like this, and for people like me, abstinence is really the only solution.
--Fenris.
There's no weakness in asking for help with something like this, and for people like me, abstinence is really the only solution.
--Fenris.
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