It's a bit rediculous
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It's a bit rediculous
Well I just joined the site today after spending a few nights in a dive hotel room. I have a husband that love with all my heart. He is an Iraq veteral and just finally realizing his PTSD.
When we met a few years back he was drinking a lot just to forget and I was drinking a lot to forget being beaten up and raped before I met him. He continually helped me through those things and tried to keep me safe when I would get to blackout and angry.
I owe him a lot and he has since quit drinking while he works through his issues. It is a very emotional process for him and I am doing my best to be his rock.
However a few days ago I hate to say it but I took advantage of a weak moment for him and bought a case of beer. I am only about 150 lbs but somehow I can and did drink quite a lot of it myself.
He hates when I get drunk because I become angry. I believe I take out on him my anger for men in my past. I didnt quite get it because I do not remember.
I get it now. I left drunk from the house after getting mad at him for asking me a question. Long story short I rerended a car. Talked to cops somehow passed a breathalizer and then was given a ride to a hotel. Then bought more beer and called everyone to rant about my husband.
I now have to pick up the peices and for the first time KNOW i have a real problem....
When we met a few years back he was drinking a lot just to forget and I was drinking a lot to forget being beaten up and raped before I met him. He continually helped me through those things and tried to keep me safe when I would get to blackout and angry.
I owe him a lot and he has since quit drinking while he works through his issues. It is a very emotional process for him and I am doing my best to be his rock.
However a few days ago I hate to say it but I took advantage of a weak moment for him and bought a case of beer. I am only about 150 lbs but somehow I can and did drink quite a lot of it myself.
He hates when I get drunk because I become angry. I believe I take out on him my anger for men in my past. I didnt quite get it because I do not remember.
I get it now. I left drunk from the house after getting mad at him for asking me a question. Long story short I rerended a car. Talked to cops somehow passed a breathalizer and then was given a ride to a hotel. Then bought more beer and called everyone to rant about my husband.
I now have to pick up the peices and for the first time KNOW i have a real problem....
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You absolutely have come to the right place. The people here are so kind and caring and will help you through this difficult time if you let them. I am new here too but have been reading daily for the last 45 days of being sober and have learned soooooo much. You can be okay if you let yourself.....
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Originally Posted by newgir1 
I owe him a lot and he has since quit drinking while he works through his issues. It is a very emotional process for him and I am doing my best to be his rock.
However a few days ago I hate to say it but I took advantage of a weak moment for him and bought a case of beer. I am only about 150 lbs but somehow I can and did drink quite a lot of it myself.
However a few days ago I hate to say it but I took advantage of a weak moment for him and bought a case of beer. I am only about 150 lbs but somehow I can and did drink quite a lot of it myself.
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Hi Newgirl,
The rape and bashing are very real traumas and should be addressed. Butyou need to do this sober.
You may not be an alcoholic that is for you to decide but your drinking is making your life unmanageable and not the person who you really are or can be.
It is an amazing opportunity for you to get your life in order and fortunately your husband wants to address his trauma.
I feel very much for you and I admire and respect your honesty, one of the main things you have to be to get sober.
I wish you all the best on your road to healing and recovery.
CaiHong
The rape and bashing are very real traumas and should be addressed. Butyou need to do this sober.
You may not be an alcoholic that is for you to decide but your drinking is making your life unmanageable and not the person who you really are or can be.
It is an amazing opportunity for you to get your life in order and fortunately your husband wants to address his trauma.
I feel very much for you and I admire and respect your honesty, one of the main things you have to be to get sober.
I wish you all the best on your road to healing and recovery.
CaiHong
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Welcome newgir1 
It sounds like you have both been through a lot in your lives. You have been given a wakeup call & were spared a DUI, please make sure you make the best of it. You & your husband have a chance to make changes & have a good life together without alcohol or drugs.
Its hard at first to get sober but so wonderful once you do, please get some help with you problems & put everything you can into making this work. You both deserve it.
Keep posting, reading & sharing. We are here for you.
Cheers ~ NB
It sounds like you have both been through a lot in your lives. You have been given a wakeup call & were spared a DUI, please make sure you make the best of it. You & your husband have a chance to make changes & have a good life together without alcohol or drugs.
Its hard at first to get sober but so wonderful once you do, please get some help with you problems & put everything you can into making this work. You both deserve it.
Keep posting, reading & sharing. We are here for you.
Cheers ~ NB
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The best thing I ever did was let the professionals take over for a while. It gave me the space and the courage to really look at the mess I had become, I was able to deal with hurtful and bad things from my past and slowly now, day by day, and with the help of a lot of people and my god I am a little better. My thoughts are with you and I wish you all the best ...
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