ElegantlyWasted

Here we go...

Bikeguy

Another sober day, you can and will do it!

IndaMiricale

Yes another day

Keep going.


Good love, Inda

ElegantlyWasted

GF just left to go to a friends and the naughty thought of "go to the store and get a beer" came out of nowhere. Who ever created this site thank you, writing this stuff down helps me so much. Still feel "edgy in general". Last time she went to a friends she got sloshed and had to go pick her up; I had had a few and didn't want her to know, so I went ahead and picked her up... Funny how sick (in a twisted bad way).

FlyerFan

One day at a time, that's the only way to handle something like this. I'm 30 days sober today myself and I have to say it has been tough. But I got through it ONE DAY AT A TIME!

When you start having those naughty little thoughts or urges to drink, immediately make yourself busy with something. Watch a movie, keep your hands busy such as with something crafty, i find jigsaw puzzles to be helpful and they keep your mind off things.

neferkamichael

before ya know, it'll be 6 weeks. Its the most annoying thing when the thought to use pops into my head. It still happens even after a year and a half of sobriety.

ElegantlyWasted

I'm trying and its working so far. Logging in here helps. I'm studying for the series 7 exam and the specific idea (naughty) was that I could basically blow of the rest of today because it would only be one time and I have plenty more time to study...
"jigsaw puzzles" I used to love those as a kid. I'm getting a visual of taking study breaks and working on it for a couple minutes. Can't even remember that last time I did one. Might go get one and put it on the coffee table. THX

FlyerFan

No problem. Anything that keeps your hands busy will keep them away from a bottle.

penny74

Time flies...when you look back..

artsoul

Yep - the old "one time won't hurt" trick...... When you start thinking about drinking, put up a huge stop sign in your mind. Any thought about drinking is just the addiction talking. Same old same old.

And we both know that drinking today isn't going to satisfy us. Once tomorrow comes, the urge will be back. So deal with it now - that will help you build strength and put you closer to the day when that booming voice is just a sick little whisper you can laugh at.......

Hang in there! :ghug3

ElegantlyWasted

Just as I suspected GF got sloshed over at friends and had to have friend's brother drive her home. Usually I would have drank with her or at least gotten a buzz by myself by now. She was in happy/sloppy state and I put her to bed. Arrrrgh. I don't want her to drink, but I'm not sure if I should tell her. Gearing up for day 7.

smartblonde

I'm no expert...only finishing day 4 myself, but it seems to me, you need to focus on your own drinking issues, before worrying about hers. You can't take that on too. She will have to come to that realization on her own, and you can't be responsible for her behavior, only yours.

If she is a good girlfriend she will support you by not drinking around you and perhaps cutting down herself. Time will tell...

StPeteGrad

While I think it is pointless and defeating to worry about other's actions in early sobriety is also VERY normal. I did more than my own fair share of it myself.

The problem with it is that when we spend time taking the inventory of others we aren't focusing on making ourselves where the root of the problem is. I found myself getting resentful and mean. After all, why should we have to go through all of this when they don't have to?

I applaud you, EW, for making a good decision tonight. I'm sure it was very difficult too. I realized a while back that we haven't had alcohol in our house in about 5 months. My wife drank quite heavily with me and took Xanax to boot in the last two years of my drinking career. I was sure she was an addict/alcoholic too in my early recovery. I spent countless hours dwelling on it. I never told her she couldn't drink, however. I figured things would settle to their natural level eventually. After a while, she just lost interest in drinking. Go figure. It turns out she drank primarily to be part of my life.

Nice job making a good decision, I know that wasn't easy. Tomorrow you'll have the opportunity to make more good choices but tonight you're sober and you have another 24 hours behind you. Job well done. Keeping it simple is 90% of the battle.

FlyerFan

I agree.....two drinkers = adding fuel to the fire and eventually things could get real bad. You wanna try to avoid that as best you can.