My view on amendments is that they are a method of permanently and intimatly changing the behaviors that led you to harm others. My biggest amendments are to my ex and my daughter. My kid's one I haven't made it formal yet, I am just trying to foster a relationship that was abandoned for fifteen years. My ex, I was up front with, and brutally honest. She has always been supportive, wanting only for a relationship between my kid and I to foster itself. There was no specific apology or act that I could do. We talk, a lot, about my life, and how it led me to the point I was at, and how those mechanisms led me to do the things I did. It is healing both of us. I have made most of my amendments this way, committing to my new lifestyle and being present for others, instead of being selfish and hiding, ignoring those who love me.
With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be cheerful. Strive to be happy.
Max Ehrmann, Desiderata