Introducing myself
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Introducing myself
Hello,
I an just getting started with this. I am not sure I am an alcoholic, but I think I may be. I have been experiencing night sweats every time I stop drinking. I am a closet drinker. I drink at home and started under stress in the evening to "unwind". Now, I drink whether I am stressed or not. Some have told me I only abuse alcohol because I don't drink all day. I have two 24 ounce beers a night so I can sleep. Now I am wondering if I have raised my poor children as a raging alcoholic and what they may think of me. What should I do now? I feel like I need to apologize to them. I think I am mostly "numb" when I drink but have not had fits of rage or anything to an extreme.
I an just getting started with this. I am not sure I am an alcoholic, but I think I may be. I have been experiencing night sweats every time I stop drinking. I am a closet drinker. I drink at home and started under stress in the evening to "unwind". Now, I drink whether I am stressed or not. Some have told me I only abuse alcohol because I don't drink all day. I have two 24 ounce beers a night so I can sleep. Now I am wondering if I have raised my poor children as a raging alcoholic and what they may think of me. What should I do now? I feel like I need to apologize to them. I think I am mostly "numb" when I drink but have not had fits of rage or anything to an extreme.
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Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Australia
Posts: 211,436
Hi ADH 
Welcome to SR
Forget about comparing yourself to others or how much they drink or how often -
I tend to think if you think it's a problem, then it is - and you're right to want to do something about it
You'll find a lot of support here - good to have you with us
D
Welcome to SR
Forget about comparing yourself to others or how much they drink or how often -
I tend to think if you think it's a problem, then it is - and you're right to want to do something about it
You'll find a lot of support here - good to have you with us
D
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Join Date: Jan 2012
Location: Dublin
Posts: 90
Best of luck in ur recovery .. Im early into my own journey ... 18 days to be precise and I still havent called myself an alcoholic but I do believe that I have problem with alcohol - dont worry about the tags right now .. just get YOU right and don't be too hard on yourself as AA has taught me "easy does it" xxx
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Join Date: Jan 2009
Location: Toronto, Ontario
Posts: 4,150
I agree with Dee.
If alcohol or anything else has become a problem for you it is time to do something about it.
Children are quite resilient and there is a good possibility they have not even noticed.
Stop feeling guilty and do what you need to do to make your life better. Make a plan and work it.
Good luck.
Good luck
If alcohol or anything else has become a problem for you it is time to do something about it.
Children are quite resilient and there is a good possibility they have not even noticed.
Stop feeling guilty and do what you need to do to make your life better. Make a plan and work it.
Good luck.
Good luck
Choosing Life
Join Date: Jun 2009
Location: Montana
Posts: 1,435
Nobody can say you have a problem except YOU. If you believe you have a problem with alcohol (your coming to a sober/recovery message board and posting this may be a clue to the answer), then you are in the right place.
My relationship with alcohol was ruining my relationship with my kids (and husband) too. But as was said above, children are amazing resilient and also very forgiving. My oldest (16) has been incredibly supportive of my sobriety and has forgiven me for all of my horrible, drunk behavior over the years. Both my kids saw and heard way more than they ever should have. I can't get that time back, and while I'm not beating myself up about it anymore, I am doing all I can each day to make it up to them by giving them a sober, present, available mother.
I hope you will make this Day 1. We're here to support you.
My relationship with alcohol was ruining my relationship with my kids (and husband) too. But as was said above, children are amazing resilient and also very forgiving. My oldest (16) has been incredibly supportive of my sobriety and has forgiven me for all of my horrible, drunk behavior over the years. Both my kids saw and heard way more than they ever should have. I can't get that time back, and while I'm not beating myself up about it anymore, I am doing all I can each day to make it up to them by giving them a sober, present, available mother.
I hope you will make this Day 1. We're here to support you.
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Join Date: Jan 2012
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Welcome ADH. You absolutely did the right thing by coming here and starting this dialog. Keep coming back and reading and posting. It's been a great source of support for me, and I think it will be for you to.
In my opinion, the best thing you can do for you and your kids is stop drinking now and start living your life to the fullest and become a powerhouse in the lives of your kids. As they say, actions speak louder than words.
In my opinion, the best thing you can do for you and your kids is stop drinking now and start living your life to the fullest and become a powerhouse in the lives of your kids. As they say, actions speak louder than words.
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