Weekend benders arent THAT bad.
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That wouldn't be to fun being around a bunch of drunk people sober, I've done it before. Tomorrows my fourth day sober I had a sip of my friends beer he had at lunch because I've never had sweet water 420, it was delicious. I noticed I took the glass without hesitation and drank it only to realize I was trying not to drink till Friday. But I didn't crave it after. I passed the AA building today and started thinking maybe I should just go to one meeting with a friend. I've noticed my nights without alcohol are very boring, what do you all do that's fun and entertaining without drinking? I need to occupy my time that would normally be used for alcohol. I need something exciting and fun. Thank you all for your advice.
I think, like all of us, you need to make a choice whether you want to be a drinker or not FLA - if the answer is 'kinda', then I reckon you still have some things to think about.
It's not always easy to be sober in the early days, and it's not often fun or exciting, I'm afraid.
It was still probably the best decision I ever made - and the rewards will come if you stick to it, I guarantee it
There's a ton of support here if you decide you want to quit
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It's not always easy to be sober in the early days, and it's not often fun or exciting, I'm afraid.
It was still probably the best decision I ever made - and the rewards will come if you stick to it, I guarantee it
There's a ton of support here if you decide you want to quit
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That wouldn't be to fun being around a bunch of drunk people sober, I've done it before. Tomorrows my fourth day sober I had a sip of my friends beer he had at lunch because I've never had sweet water 420, it was delicious. I noticed I took the glass without hesitation and drank it only to realize I was trying not to drink till Friday. But I didn't crave it after. I passed the AA building today and started thinking maybe I should just go to one meeting with a friend. I've noticed my nights without alcohol are very boring, what do you all do that's fun and entertaining without drinking? I need to occupy my time that would normally be used for alcohol. I need something exciting and fun. Thank you all for your advice.
you seem like a smart person, there are so many options open to you to expand your leisure time.
That wouldn't be to fun being around a bunch of drunk people sober, I've done it before. Tomorrows my fourth day sober I had a sip of my friends beer he had at lunch because I've never had sweet water 420, it was delicious. I noticed I took the glass without hesitation and drank it only to realize I was trying not to drink till Friday. But I didn't crave it after. I passed the AA building today and started thinking maybe I should just go to one meeting with a friend. I've noticed my nights without alcohol are very boring, what do you all do that's fun and entertaining without drinking? I need to occupy my time that would normally be used for alcohol. I need something exciting and fun. Thank you all for your advice.
The other thing I'm getting back into is shooting - going to ranges. You're only 20 so you probably can't buy a handgun but I think you can rent one at a range if you go. Just a thought. (Make sure you take an NRA safety class before you do anything though!)
Thats a good question. And I don't have a answer for it. I feel like I'm still 16 and living the 'high school party life' still. I do put partying as a bigger priority than a job and school. But I don't know if it's the alcohol or just the social aspect i don't want to miss out on by having a job or going to school?
I also want to commend you on your honesty in this thread. You’ve admitted to thoughts and actions that I certainly had/did in the past. Good for you in examining these things at such a young age.
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I guess my weekend is starting on thrusday :/ I told my self that since I quit drinking on Sunday it's been five days now which is the same as going from Monday threw Friday. Oh well I gave it a shot sorry for the inconvenience to you all. I have been inspired by a lot of the things I have read here. Maybe some people aren't meant to be sober.
Maybe start with finding out what it means to be an alcoholuic and if you fit into that category.
I've done my share of partying and binge drinking in my twenties with drinking huge amounts of alcohol and having fun. It doesn't stay that way. The tolerance for alcohol decreases and the urge to drink increases. It really sucks when you badly want to get the effects of alcohol and you just can't get more than one sip into your body.
I've done my share of partying and binge drinking in my twenties with drinking huge amounts of alcohol and having fun. It doesn't stay that way. The tolerance for alcohol decreases and the urge to drink increases. It really sucks when you badly want to get the effects of alcohol and you just can't get more than one sip into your body.
Hey FLA, can totally relate to your situation as I am still young myself (24 years old). For me, weekend binge drinking is how it all got started. At 18-20 I was getting totally obliterated every weekend with friends because it was what everybody else was doing. Even back then I remember having some pretty bad consequences from drinking (blackouts, doing incredibly stupid things, driving drunk, minor car accidents such as dents and dings). I always rationalized that everybody else my age was doing the same things and I hadn't had experienced anything severe (hospitalization or legal reprecussions) so it was ok.
When I turned 21, I could finally drink legally and so begun my downward spiral. I worked in a restaurant and began drinking after every shift. In addition was drinking in any other possible situation. If I was hanging out with friends I was drinking, if I was out to lunch or dinner I was drinking, even when I had no plans I was drinking at home and playing my xbox or watching a movie. I was in college at the time, working almost full time, and doing volunteer work. Somehow I managed to juggle my drinking career and my responsibilities, but I wouldn't recommend it.
I'm not really sure when I first discovered I had a problem with alcohol. It could have been after my first blackout at 18 or countless other times when drinking got the best of me. All I know is at a certain point I was drinking to get drunk, not to have a 'good time' like my friends were. You have to be honest with yourself, you are the only one who can determine if you are an alcoholic. Please don't wait until you hit rock bottom. I did and now I am looking at two arrests in the last year from alcohol. And do not drink and drive. I also thought I was invincible until I got pulled over. Now, I am looking at losing thousands of dollars, my transportation and my entire life...not worth it!!!
When I turned 21, I could finally drink legally and so begun my downward spiral. I worked in a restaurant and began drinking after every shift. In addition was drinking in any other possible situation. If I was hanging out with friends I was drinking, if I was out to lunch or dinner I was drinking, even when I had no plans I was drinking at home and playing my xbox or watching a movie. I was in college at the time, working almost full time, and doing volunteer work. Somehow I managed to juggle my drinking career and my responsibilities, but I wouldn't recommend it.
I'm not really sure when I first discovered I had a problem with alcohol. It could have been after my first blackout at 18 or countless other times when drinking got the best of me. All I know is at a certain point I was drinking to get drunk, not to have a 'good time' like my friends were. You have to be honest with yourself, you are the only one who can determine if you are an alcoholic. Please don't wait until you hit rock bottom. I did and now I am looking at two arrests in the last year from alcohol. And do not drink and drive. I also thought I was invincible until I got pulled over. Now, I am looking at losing thousands of dollars, my transportation and my entire life...not worth it!!!
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Weekend benders make me think of the dreadful Sunday when it's time to come down (or go back up) and the depression and anxiety are debilitating. Not something I will miss nor was any night ever worth it
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I'm now realizing being a alcoholic is bad. Having a party lifestyle is a completely different story I almost had a week without alcohol and I was fine. I became bored winnow I'm partying and I feel great. It's not about the weekends, it about when stuff is happening. When there's no more parties then there's no more drinking. Although I will most likely wake up sober tomorrow and not agree with anything I just wrote so untill then im out. Don't wanna run around in drunken sentences. Peace!!
I once felt just the way you do, FLA. I really intended to stop partying at some point and lead a normal life, but it didn't happen. I never learned how to be content without it, and everything seemed boring unless I was wasted.
I envy you for taking a hard look at your drinking habits. If I'd done that years ago I'd never have destroyed my life by spending it in a fog. Please be careful, FLA. Come back and discuss this some more when you feel like it. We want to help.
I envy you for taking a hard look at your drinking habits. If I'd done that years ago I'd never have destroyed my life by spending it in a fog. Please be careful, FLA. Come back and discuss this some more when you feel like it. We want to help.
Alot of us have been drinking longer than you've been aliive.
It is alot of fun when you first start out. I was just getting started at your age too. Not even every weekend. But then at some point it became every weekend. Then came my first DUI. Why did they pull me over? I wasn't driving reckless. Not even speeding. I was turning into a Hardee's parking lot and got over in the turn lane just a bit too soon.
That didn't stop my drinking. It eventually turned into almost daily drinking.
Then two more DUIs in six months. Jail time. No license for a year. Hell, I got off light.
I still didn't stop. Not until I couldn't live with alcohol or without it. Horrible place to be.
I'm just thankful I didn't kill anyone.
You don't have to wait until this happens to you. Because if you keep drinking and driving you will either get locked up, or covered up.
Tons of people here who are experts at what they are talking about. Why? Because we have lived this life.
You don't have to if you don't want to.
Best wishes and God bless.
It is alot of fun when you first start out. I was just getting started at your age too. Not even every weekend. But then at some point it became every weekend. Then came my first DUI. Why did they pull me over? I wasn't driving reckless. Not even speeding. I was turning into a Hardee's parking lot and got over in the turn lane just a bit too soon.
That didn't stop my drinking. It eventually turned into almost daily drinking.
Then two more DUIs in six months. Jail time. No license for a year. Hell, I got off light.
I still didn't stop. Not until I couldn't live with alcohol or without it. Horrible place to be.
I'm just thankful I didn't kill anyone.
You don't have to wait until this happens to you. Because if you keep drinking and driving you will either get locked up, or covered up.
Tons of people here who are experts at what they are talking about. Why? Because we have lived this life.
You don't have to if you don't want to.
Best wishes and God bless.
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My mind set is very reckless whether I'm drunk or sober. I make the same actions, only difference is when I'm drink I care even less. I love the feeling of danger and getting away from near arrest. I think that's why I'm attracted to drugs and alcohol. I'm not scared of death, arrest, or any outcome that will come with the reckless choices I make. Ever seen jackass? That's me and my friends X10 and honestly I've already seen wrecks, death, arrest, and hospitalization from dui with people I personally knew. I dont see my life going where I want it so fck it why not live it like I am? I'm deleting my account when I wake up because there's no point in aggravating you all and pushing buttons. Fck this.
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My mind set is very reckless whether I'm drunk or sober. I make the same actions, only difference is when I'm drink I care even less. I love the feeling of danger and getting away from near arrest. I think that's why I'm attracted to drugs and alcohol. I'm not scared of death, arrest, or any outcome that will come with the reckless choices I make. Ever seen jackass? That's me and my friends X10 and honestly I've already seen wrecks, death, arrest, and hospitalization from dui with people I personally knew. I dont see my life going where I want it so fck it why not live it like I am? I'm deleting my account when I wake up because there's no point in aggravating you all and pushing buttons. Fck this.
I'm not being judgmental about drink driving-I have convictions myself. But it's your blase casual attitude about it, almost bragging and you clearly have no intention to stop drink driving. If you think that is normal behaviour then yes, you have a serious drink problem
You came here for a reason. You've gotten tons of solid advice and support. Blatantly boasting of drinking and driving...that cockiness is disturbing to me. As it's been said, many of us have DUI's including myself, but I am deeply ashamed of my actions. I don't broadcast this sh*t, but I drove drunk with my precious baby girl. I'm lucky I only hit a mailbox. I'm fortunate I didn't cause harm to my small child. I cannot forgive myself to this day for putting my whole world in danger. This is not funny, not a joke. I hope you realize that alcohol isn't all it's cracked up to be. Weekend binges go on to be much more...straight into a nightmare. You do what you have to but putting others lives in danger and being proud of escaping arrest is like a slap in the face. No one is invincible, NO ONE. Sounds to me you do have a problem. When you have to question if you do or not, there is your answer. I'm not trying to be hostile and I am not judging you. I hope you can reach out for help when you are ready, we'll be here waiting.
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