mazza

Oh wow..I cant believe It!

I had a big blow-up at my husband last night because he has been drinking for 2 days solid and we were meant to goto a bbq with friends and he was so smashed that I refused to take him. (Im currently on DAY 5). So during the fight he said things like its my fault he drinks etc etc, putting all the blame onto everything but himself for his problem..as you do

Anyways... as I was heading out the door he said to me 'Ok Ill quit drinking too'..and I really didnt take any notice as he was sooo intoxicated. BUT When he woke this morning he apologised and said that he agrees that he does indeed have a problem and is going to quit too as he thinks its a big problem in our marriage.

In the 10 years we have been together he has NEVER ever admitted he has a problem. Will be an interesting week I think..

Impurrfect

(((Mazza))) - great!! I know that when I started working on MY recovery, some friends/family realized "um, I think I have a problem, too" and chose recovery. Not all, but it felt good to see that living by example could help others.

Congrats on 5 days, and remember - no matter what he does, you're recovery is yours, and his is his. I've known many a couple who are both in recovery, and it's cool but they each work on their own recovery.

Hugs and prayers,

Amy

Zebra1275

Great! Between the two of you think of the money you will save.

mazza

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Congrats on 5 days, and remember - no matter what he does, you're recovery is yours, and his is his. I've known many a couple who are both in recovery, and it's cool but they each work on their own recovery.

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Absolutely.

Dee74

I agree with Impurrfect absolutely, but I'm really glad your husband's decided to start his journey too

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Exploring

mazza - great news!! It can be hard to stay sober when you live with someone who drinks. Now you two can support and encourage each other. So happy for you both.

Itchy

My SH still drinks as a normy and my sobriety has nothing to do with her or her alcohol in the house. If the roles were reversed I would drink in my own house too. Impurrfect makes a tremendously important point for you both. My recovery was mine and no one was going to co opt it, hurt it or help it beyond some support.

I am happy for you both for making the change each.

Anna

I hope your husband does decide to stop drinking, but regardless you are on your journey and that's very important.

Tigger41

Wow Amy - how great is that - but if he decides to back out you keep going forward.

NewWay

That is so great that he has realized that he needs to stop drinking too. That is an important step. I am happy and excited for both of you.

CaiHong

Mazza
Keep us posted, the best to you both

MerryChristmas
CaiHong

mazza

So far so good..Im on the eve of Day 6 and hes on the eve of Day 2. He just informed me he has no work on tomorrow but instead of having a beer which would be the norm hes sipping tea..

I cant wait to wake up tomorrow and it be a week..I just went for another run, I love waking up with NO hangover!

Sapling

What an awesome thread....Good stuff.

Scolova

That's great mazza, I wish ya'll the best.
I love tea, some days I drink tons of it plus I seem to enjoy most everything else a lot more now that I'm sober.