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Supports
There is a girl in my addict class, she says to us, "my supports are you guys". Her family hates her and is against her. I can only imagine how difficult that must be, having everybody in your family hate you and your only supports are the people in your addict class.
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Those of us who love someone who struggles continually with alcohol or drugs really can't understand the struggle.....but someone else who lives the same fight can.
My husband and I can tell my stepson that we love him, but not only are we NOT his only option for support, we are most definitely not the best option for him in terms of helping him in his recovery.
Clean time and actions will help to bring the family and friends back into the life of someone who struggles with addiction.
My husband and I can tell my stepson that we love him, but not only are we NOT his only option for support, we are most definitely not the best option for him in terms of helping him in his recovery.
Clean time and actions will help to bring the family and friends back into the life of someone who struggles with addiction.
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Personally, I feel like any mom, regardless of how horrible a kid would be, I mean no matter what their son/daughter has done, if you're a mom, you still have to forgive your kid anyway. I've read some stories on here from recovering addicts whose moms hate them and won't talk to them. That's sad and terrible.
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It is very, very tragic when that happens. Any sort of addiction in one person affects the entire family. Not all addicts lie, cheat, steal, or are violent, but many are....and sometimes the damage to the family relationships are insurmountable. I don't think a parent ever truly hates their child, but sometimes all communication and contact ends.
This is also true if the parents are the ones with the disease....the adult child often has to sever all ties in order to begin to lead a happy and peaceful life.
I know for quite a long time, I was very afraid of my stepson and did not want him around me at all because he had threatened to kill 3 members of his own family. At this point, Mr. HG and I tell him we love him, but we do so from a distance and let him lead his own life...wherever that takes him.
There are many people here who have been in your shoes, Seared. Good luck!!!
This is also true if the parents are the ones with the disease....the adult child often has to sever all ties in order to begin to lead a happy and peaceful life.
I know for quite a long time, I was very afraid of my stepson and did not want him around me at all because he had threatened to kill 3 members of his own family. At this point, Mr. HG and I tell him we love him, but we do so from a distance and let him lead his own life...wherever that takes him.
There are many people here who have been in your shoes, Seared. Good luck!!!
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Seared, loving someone and accepting their repeated abuse are two different things. Sometimes it's easy to judge others when we haven't had the experiences in life they have had.
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