[QUOTE=Impurrfect;3181692](((Seared))) - Just MY experience, but even at the end of my using, I didn't really want to quit using - I just wanted the damned consequences to go away. I wasn't really happy using when I relapsed, but I didn't want to let it go. WOW! Now THAT is a profound statement! |
Sounds like maybe you aren't ready to give it up. I always find it funny how we can on one hand say we have this devastating affliction that we do not know how to manage, but on the other hand pretend that we know what will/won't work. Well, sometimes alcohol can be our best advocate. It wasn't until I lost everything that I was willing to open my mind to a solution that I had continued to write off previously. Good luck to ya, hopefully you hit some sort of bottom before something terrible happens. |
My grandfather didn't have a bottom either, he died of an alcohol related heart attack at the age of 55. |
Originally Posted by TheTinMan
(Post 3181995)
I'm sorry about your grandfather, but death itself is the ultimate bottom. |
Originally Posted by Seared
(Post 3182005)
And that is the bottom to which I am doomed, because I will never learn my lesson. Fight the battle today. |
You will definitely need to change your belief system if you want to live a sober life. It's hard work, no question about that and it involves making changes. I hope you find your way. |
Originally Posted by Anna
(Post 3182026)
You will definitely need to change your belief system if you want to live a sober life. It's hard work, no question about that and it involves making changes. I hope you find your way. |
You need to think positively, believe in yourself that you can do this. |
What you're going through sounds really horrible and very painful, Seared. I wish I had an answer for you. I mean an answer that not only worked well, but one that you liked a lot. The future doesn't sound too rosy from what you say. Hope something turns up. |
Well I have been quite stubborn. Why am I being so stubborn? |
because if you are like me, you are proud, smart and embarrassed. I've been there. One piece of good news for you. You've made a choice to be here for now. It's a step in the right direction. Take solace in that at least for today. Tomorrow is another day. |
Originally Posted by Seared
(Post 3181952)
I'll never be able to learn my lesson, I just have to live with that. Some people are able to learn their lesson, but I can't. And that is the bottom to which I am doomed, because I will never learn my lesson. Everybody is capable of change - everybody. I believe that categorically. The question really is are we willing to put in the time, effort and commitment to make the change work? D |
I found it hard to truly want to quit unless I could believe there was something else in life that could fill the role that my various addictions did. That came in fits and spurts and there was some back tracking, bargaining, foot stamping, etc. It took faith. Not the religious kind, but faith that I could live a different kind of life, a life not at the mercy and doom of my addictions. The people here are living proof. When my doubt and frustration get the better of me, I tune in here instead of tune out with a substance etc. And I get real humble and put down my pig headed "I KNOW this won't work" attitude and try a suggestion. Or push past my "this is the last thing I want to do today" attitude and do something that I know helps. And things are changing. Being willing to believe that there is hope for me was enough to get the ball rolling. Wanting a life other than my life of active addiction, got the ball rolling. This recovery gig is nothing like I imagined. The more and more I realize that, the easier it is to step out on faith again, to take the next suggestion etc. It really has been some of the simplest little things that have made a big difference. |
I know a guy who hates A.A., he's only 27 and the doc gives him three years before he'll be dead; and I think the doctor is being generous here. He gets drunk and phones me up, and he's like "I don't care, I won't do A.A., I'd rather die first!" I accept some people never recover and they die; my father died of his alcoholism; but this guy sounds like he wants songs sung about what a hero he is, or something? Like Frank Sinatra I did it my waaaaaaaay. But all his family just call him an *******. |
I'll never be able to learn my lesson, I just have to live with that. Some people are able to learn their lesson, but I can't. And that is the bottom to which I am doomed, because I will never learn my lesson. Have you ever read anything about the brain and addiction? what about AVRT? |
Originally Posted by Impurrfect
(Post 3181692)
However, there are a couple decades, in there, when I didn't want help, I didn't want rehab, etc. |
Well I have been quite stubborn. Why am I being so stubborn? Just a guess, but I think there's part of you that doesn't want to quit drinking. And you are pissed that you are in this predicament where you are talking about never drinking again. |
Originally Posted by Seared When looking at different choices for recovery, I never admit that I feel like something is for me. There are many, many people here on SR and out there in the "real" world that have put together their own program of recovery. You can do this too, if that is your desire. |
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