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Old 11-21-2011, 08:38 AM
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Hello. I have been sober for over 3 years now. I actually came here because I have recently left an alcoholic man I was engaged to. I feel like it is an emotional roller coaster and I am looking for others who have gone through this. I really need to let go of this man fully.

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Old 11-21-2011, 08:42 AM
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Welcome, Colleen!

I'm glad you found us.
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Old 11-21-2011, 08:48 AM
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Welcome to the family. YOu may want to check out our friends and families of alcoholics forum, midway down the index page. Lots of support there from people who have been in your shoes.


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Old 11-21-2011, 08:57 AM
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My two cents: Marriage is hard. Really hard. It is hard enough to make things work even when one into it with a non-alcoholic. Maybe you have friends that say; "if you love him that much, then confront him, and help him work it out". Or something similar. I bet it is hard enough for an already married person to successfully help their spouse! My wife does not even know I need help!!! I can't personally see putting that kind of work into changing someone your not yet even married to.

Even if he agrees to get help, I think one needs to change or not change, in the absence of what one thinks their girl-friend/boy-friend wants them to do.

I hope you do well no matter what you choose.
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Old 11-21-2011, 09:00 AM
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Smile

Also, multiply my comments by one-tenth in comparison to what others say.
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Old 11-21-2011, 12:55 PM
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welcome to SR Colleen
do check out the link least posted - lots of support here

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