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Old 10-25-2011, 07:18 AM   #1 (permalink)
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Honesty in Sobriety


Hi yall - I have been reflecting a lot over the past two weeks about how 3 years of sobriety has changed my life, and the one word that I keep coming back to is "honesty".

By the end of my drinking time, it wasn't a matter of whether or not to lie about things, it was a matter of which lie I was going to tell. Then I had to try, feebly, to keep them straight.

By the end of my drinking time, it wasn't a matter of whether or not I could hide the signs in my physical appearance, it was just a matter of how bad I would look. Then it was a matter of which lie to tell to try to cover it up.

I was lying to myself, my husband, my kids, my God, everyone I knew....about everything. Sometimes even when there was no reason to lie.

I just realized how lying has been removed from my life by becoming sober, and how much less of a drama daily life has become because of it. To me, the gift of simplicity is a hidden, unexpected gift in the treasure chest of sobreity.

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Old 10-25-2011, 03:06 PM   #2 (permalink)
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Life is a whole lot less dramatic and uncomplicated now that's for sure
Thanks for sharing that Jomey

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Old 10-25-2011, 03:52 PM   #3 (permalink)
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uhhhh....the one thing I haven't improved on is my typing....I'm 4 years sober....what a difference a keystroke (and a year ) can make! Thanks all!!!!!
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Old 10-25-2011, 03:52 PM   #4 (permalink)
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When I drink..you can tell when I'm lieing...

My lips are moving...LOL
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Boy do I know how it feels to be on the receiving end of that kind of drinker.

Glad you posted.
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Jomey - I read ya loud & clear, never mind the typos....

I agree with all that you said - and to think we start out drinking to calm our nerves, have fun, relax, and forget our troubles. In the end all we've done is create a nightmare world for ourselves. I'm so glad we don't live like that anymore!
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Awesome and thanks, Jomey. The lying prevented me from having an authentic relationship with anyone, including my dear wife. There has been and continues to be a ton of healing between us as a result of my years of addictive deception. Lots to tough, gritty repair work there, but entirely worth it.
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Old 10-25-2011, 05:03 PM   #8 (permalink)
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What you say is soooo true, Hevyn....where we started with our drinking, what we thought it would do for us....I truly shudder to think....so glad we are here together today, my sober sister!!!

You know what really shows the insanity of drinking, Itchy? My brother is just like me, except he is still drinking, and his lying drove me nuts, even when I was doing it too! When I get bitter with my brother's behavior now , humility is a useful tool in dealing with that. Thank you for your post.

And thanks to everyone here at SR that helps keep me sober!
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Not having to hid my drinking and all the crap that goes with it makes life a lot less complicated.
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Old 10-25-2011, 05:06 PM   #10 (permalink)
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Way to go on healing with your wife, Ranger....I'm glad it's going well for you.
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