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Old 08-26-2011, 07:48 PM
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what is it going to take for me?

I don't know. no idea
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Old 08-26-2011, 07:51 PM
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Old 08-26-2011, 07:57 PM
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Hi again Dub

Well for me it took nearly dying - really genuinely feeling I'd gone too far.
I don't wish that on anyone, and I don't recommend it.

I was really dumb for a really long time - I really hope you find your way forward before you get to the lows I did.

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That simple question is why I will not pick up even when I want to so bad, it is too hard to get over the fence again but now that I am here I am afraid I will never be here again.

If you could just tough out some crazy cravings man, it is worth it, even though I may be one that seems to have issues after 6 months I feel so much better ‘after’ I didn’t drink.

I recently seen a post dug up by someone that you started, I looked and seen you haven’t been around or posted much, why not make a commitment to read here every day and post at least once a day, it could help.

Good to see you around!
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((((dubs))))

I don't know how to make someone want to quit. You were enjoying your AA meetings, right?

I have to go now but Ill PM you when I get a chance.

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Old 08-26-2011, 08:11 PM
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Dub! So great to see you. Coming back here means you have hope. Never lose that.

I was like Dee - I had to almost lose my life to finally get it. I had crashed & burned terribly - and each time I took a sip I had no idea where it would take me.

When you are totally fed up with feeling the way you do right now, you will try again. Maybe you're ready for your new life to begin? We are here for you.
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Old 08-26-2011, 08:15 PM
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thanks Friends- you make me have happiness. I really dont need this drug. and Ive done them all. I have quit for now. wish me well i hope. YOU mean a lot to me.
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wishing you all the best Dub, as always

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Old 08-26-2011, 08:28 PM
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It's going to take trying again. I'm super glad to see that you are.
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Old 08-26-2011, 09:05 PM
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Old 08-26-2011, 09:13 PM
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I used to ask myself that every morning. . Those were sad days and I am so scared of the possibility of those days coming back. I wish I never took that first drink! I hate what alcohol has done to me and my relationships, it sucks!

I'm holding on to the, " it will get betters" I hear every day. I wish you all the best! This is one tough journey.
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Old 08-27-2011, 06:40 AM
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what is it going to take for me?
Action. Preferably some action that's worked for others.
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Old 08-27-2011, 07:21 AM
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Action. Preferably some action that's worked for others.
For me, action started with surrender.
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I do hope you can get some ideas and knowledge to put to practice as to stop and stay stopped. You can do this deal!
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If I don't stand for something, I'll fall for anything.

Have a plan for staying sober, Dub. I don't know about you but flying by the seat of my pants never worked.
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Hi again Dub

Well for me it took nearly dying - really genuinely feeling I'd gone too far.
I don't wish that on anyone, and I don't recommend it.

I was really dumb for a really long time - I really hope you find your way forward before you get to the lows I did.

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This ^^^ in spades. It took the same thing for me, almost dying. I had already lost just about everything I had accumulated in life ... but still I kept right on trucking, drinking my face off. At a certain point I was drinking BECAUSE of the damage I had done. Vicious bloody circle. It wasn't until I stared death straight in the face that something clicked and I saw past the booze to what my life had become as it's result. That was a killer moment of clarity. Was like someone had woken me from a 25 year coma. Hell it hit me like a Mack truck.

Towards the end of my boozing it felt like I was just a frikin zombie under complete control of Jack Daniels and Grey Goose. When I first smartened up I felt like such an idiot. It took a while to shake that. No, scratch that, it took finding out that I wasn't the only one with this enormous illness before I stopped beating myself up over it. And it took knowing that folks with hella bigger issues and problems than me managed to get past their personal hell, get better, and have very fulfilling sober lives. Once I saw that it really was possible, I latched on to the recovery process that worked for them and threw myself at that process with every fiber of my being. After all, by that point my life depended on it. Your life does as well brother.

Dub, I know you've been struggling. Read your threads and posts a lot when I first got here. My prayers are with ya. Good to see ya posting again, I missed ya lately 'round these parts.
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Old 08-27-2011, 12:43 PM
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Hey, Dub, good to see you!

I nearly lost everything too. I hope you find your way.
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I sincerely hope and pray that what it takes to get you sober is not a life-altering event or illness. Drinking never gets better, only worse. I hope you can give it up before you lose it all. I'm going on 21 months sober and never thought I'd make it a year. But it's worth the effort. I'm enjoying my life for the first time in a long while. I've still got the same ol' problems, just dealing with them a lot better and smarter. I still have the same worries and fears, I just don't drown them in alcohol anymore.

I love my sober life and hope you can find your way to a sober life too.
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Good to see your post, dub!

I'd almost given up on myself by the time I got here..... It seemed like I couldn't stay sober, even for a day. I had to borrow hope from the people here, since I didn't have any of my own.

I don't want to go back to that place and I know you don't want to be there, either. You deserve better - we all do!:ghug3
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