Relapsed
You got yourself mad because your husband asked about your relapse. I imagine he was concerned, interested? Sponsors are there to be honest with or what's their point? Maybe take the emotional energy expended in shame and embarrassment and turn it in resolve to return to your sobriety. One of the hardest things I ever had to do was to identify myself as in my first 24 hours to my AA group I had attended over 6 months soberly. It didn't kill me but I was a little bit humbled, then grateful. Thanks for your post and all my best for you.
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Join Date: Aug 2009
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Well he is your husband and I would think she should know about your problems. Does your husband know that you have a sponsor and do you have ground rules on what you can talk about in your relationship?
Just get back on train and thing should be okay.
Just get back on train and thing should be okay.
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Join Date: May 2011
Location: Sunny FL
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so sorry
I am sorry you relapsed. You did so well. Best thing for you to do is go to an AA meeting, pick up your white chip and pick yourself up. Most of us have relapsed. Important thing is to figure out what went wrong and do things differently this time. HUGS
I'm sorry to hear that 1undone.
I do encourage you to tell your sponsor - clear the decks and start again - hit the ground running...look at where you went wrong and what you might do differently this time
welcome back
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I do encourage you to tell your sponsor - clear the decks and start again - hit the ground running...look at where you went wrong and what you might do differently this time
welcome back
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Sorry about the relapse. That's a shame. But I'm kinda getting the feeling here that you are very upset with yourself right now...I can understand your shame and guilt but taking it out on your husband is not productive energy. Trying to understand why you relapsed is. He just happen to be a good target for your emotions.
Hopefully, you get back on track. Wishing you peace and strength.
Hopefully, you get back on track. Wishing you peace and strength.
I had to surrender to the fact that I am powerless over alcohol, people, places, and things. I can't rule my world and something had to change. It took me 25 years and I changed my santa list of "not yet happened to me" to a "list of 5 things not yet happened to me."
It WILL get worse. Your choice.
It WILL get worse. Your choice.
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Join Date: May 2011
Location: Sunny FL
Posts: 647
Just try to be patient, Friend.
If you could only see how brave you are for changing that date in your signature instead of allowing a relapse to consume the next month/year/decade of your life.
Clearly you are in charge of your life.
If you could only see how brave you are for changing that date in your signature instead of allowing a relapse to consume the next month/year/decade of your life.
Clearly you are in charge of your life.
Isn't this what we used to do all the time and think it was no biggie? Self criticism is only useful in that it forces an appraisal and hopefully a sensible plan. You are here posting. That is one hell of an achievement.
Take care
Take care
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