Four-day weekend coming up
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Four-day weekend coming up
So I've been keeping good since deciding to quit on August 1. It wasn't hard for me... I am (was!) a weekend warrior. Get stone drunk on Saturday, recover Sunday, go to work. I have no problem staying sober if I'm at home... but man, friends call wanting to 'hang out'... it's so hard to not drink.
But I feel like I need to be able to say no. That's why I'm here. I've gone into plenty of social situations saying I won't get drunk... I'll just have one and drive home... and it never happened. I'd buy everyone's booze just so they could be drunk with me, so I didn't feel ashamed of it. What's worse is that I'm such a functional drunk, nobody cares if I do it or not.
I used to be even more addicted to fast food, and tonight I went with my friends to a fast food joint, watched them ate, and didn't want any. Booze has been way tougher. Alcoholism and addictive/obsessive personality are in my genes hardcore.
So I'm trying to exercise mind over body. I've got a four day weekend coming up... it will be a definite trial.
MM
But I feel like I need to be able to say no. That's why I'm here. I've gone into plenty of social situations saying I won't get drunk... I'll just have one and drive home... and it never happened. I'd buy everyone's booze just so they could be drunk with me, so I didn't feel ashamed of it. What's worse is that I'm such a functional drunk, nobody cares if I do it or not.
I used to be even more addicted to fast food, and tonight I went with my friends to a fast food joint, watched them ate, and didn't want any. Booze has been way tougher. Alcoholism and addictive/obsessive personality are in my genes hardcore.
So I'm trying to exercise mind over body. I've got a four day weekend coming up... it will be a definite trial.
MM
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Hi MathMajor
The common thread running through all my drinking history - from starting as aweekend warrior to becoming a daily drinker - is I could never say no to my friends.
When it came down to it, I wanted to be like them - no matter how much the evidence of my problem and negative consequences piled up.
I needed to make a choice - sobriety or my lifestyle.
My body eventually chose for me.
Away from the gang I did some really serious thinking - my head finally cleared and I realised what I really wanted above all, was to not be that guy living that life anymore.
You've been sober 4 days. There'll be other trips and other long weekends.
Maybe you need some time out from the gang to think too?
D
The common thread running through all my drinking history - from starting as aweekend warrior to becoming a daily drinker - is I could never say no to my friends.
When it came down to it, I wanted to be like them - no matter how much the evidence of my problem and negative consequences piled up.
I needed to make a choice - sobriety or my lifestyle.
My body eventually chose for me.
Away from the gang I did some really serious thinking - my head finally cleared and I realised what I really wanted above all, was to not be that guy living that life anymore.
You've been sober 4 days. There'll be other trips and other long weekends.
Maybe you need some time out from the gang to think too?
D
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Learning to say 'NO' when I began recovery was life-changing for me. I realized that I could think what was important to me, rather than what other people wanted me to do.
And, changing your routines can be so helpful.
And, changing your routines can be so helpful.
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