This is a tough one...
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Join Date: Jul 2009
Location: Milwaukee, Wisconsin, USA
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This is a tough one...
Just got the news that my favorite aunt (my mom's sister) passed away suddenly yesterday. She was one of those people that always understood and supported me, especially when we lived in the same neighborhood during my college years. I'm being hit with emotions that, in the past, I'd try to drown out with massive quantities of beer. I feel like I've got a good foundation (a little over 2 years sober) and I don't really feel like drinking. I guess a big part of recovery is learning how to deal with those emotions again.
She was 84 years-old, yet she had the mind and spirit of someone half her age. She never took a drink her whole life. She was one of the first ones I told when I decided to quit and she was one of my biggest supporters. She lived a full life and she'll be missed by many.
She was 84 years-old, yet she had the mind and spirit of someone half her age. She never took a drink her whole life. She was one of the first ones I told when I decided to quit and she was one of my biggest supporters. She lived a full life and she'll be missed by many.
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Sorry to hear, BeerLover
I dread the day MY favourite aunt (MY Mom's sister) passes away...she is also my Godmother.
A man at one group mentioned, on 2 separate occasions, that his wife died of cancer last year...he didn't pick up.
DON'T PICK UP.
Kelly
A man at one group mentioned, on 2 separate occasions, that his wife died of cancer last year...he didn't pick up.
DON'T PICK UP.
Kelly
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I'm sorry for your loss FBL.
I've never mentioned this to you but I have followed your story here on SR and it is truly inspirational to me.
Take care and please don't pick up. Alcohol is a big lie.
-SD
I've never mentioned this to you but I have followed your story here on SR and it is truly inspirational to me.
Take care and please don't pick up. Alcohol is a big lie.
-SD
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My aunt's funeral yesterday (Saturday) was lovely. Turns out she had everything pre-arranged a few years ago, right down to which bible verses would be read and which songs would be sung. Got to see lots of relatives/family friends I hadn't seen in ages.
It's been a challenge dealing with my grief totally sober, but it's also been rewarding to know that I can deal with these feelings without the crutch that I leaned on for 30 years.
It's been a challenge dealing with my grief totally sober, but it's also been rewarding to know that I can deal with these feelings without the crutch that I leaned on for 30 years.
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I am sorry for your loss. One thing that helped me the most, is the thought, yes I miss her or him, but he moved to a better place where she or he can be more happy and young again. How dare it is for me to be sad about her/him progressing to a better place for her/him.
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She sounds like a wonderful person. And her life is proof that one can have a full happy life without drinking. Let that be an example for you. Nice to hear you did not pick up through it. Be strong
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