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Kat
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Join Date: May 2011
Location: Long Island, NY
Posts: 13
New Here
Well, here goes...I am new to this site...had a bad weekend (again) as another new comer explained...so tired of humiliating myself and friends...I don't get "tanked" all of the time but as far as I am concerned it's no excuse, I have a problem with alcohol...I need to do something about it...
Hopefully I can find support here.
Hopefully I can find support here.
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Join Date: Apr 2011
Location: CO.
Posts: 141
This forum is an awesome place to find support. I have really turned my life around since stumbling across "SR" late last month. Certainly don't expect things to change overnight, but if you are diligent about checking in on the site a couple of times a day, it really seems to help! Welcome to the club, and good luck with your efforts!
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i've done my almost
Join Date: Aug 2009
Location: Atlanta, GA
Posts: 1,934
Hi RunningKat-
Yes, except most people knew I was a party animal, even the ones I didn't think did.
...but I had secrets too.
Maybe it's time to let go of some old ideas and get with some people who know how to get and stay sober?
We can and do recover and you can be living proof.
The guilt, shame, and remorse can go away, by the way.
Kjell~
Yes, except most people knew I was a party animal, even the ones I didn't think did.
...but I had secrets too.
Maybe it's time to let go of some old ideas and get with some people who know how to get and stay sober?
We can and do recover and you can be living proof.
The guilt, shame, and remorse can go away, by the way.
Kjell~
to SRKat
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Join Date: May 2011
Location: Long Island, NY
Posts: 13
Thank you Kjell...I really need to hear that...still feeling like garbage for behavior Saturday night ...what I remember is haunting enough....ugh...I knopw I just have to do this...
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Join Date: May 2011
Location: Watsonville, ca
Posts: 1
Thom
My first day on this site. I'm new to soberity. This is my 3rd day. Need all the support I can get. I have been drinking daily for quite some time. Usually start around 4:30pm Drink Vodka. I want to stop. and i will stop. There was something I read yesterday and I can't find it now. It talked about the "booz brain" If someone could direct me to that post again it would be great.
Thank You
Thank You
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Join Date: May 2011
Posts: 1,028
Welcome to all new comers! This is a very supportive group of people! I had/have a lot of guilt and shame too but I try to remember that I am sick. I don't use it as an excuse but I do know I'm "wired" a bit differently than the "normal drinker." Please share your stories. 
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Join Date: Apr 2011
Posts: 400
Welcome runningkat and thom! This is a wonderful support site.
runningkat, I can completely relate to the dirty secret thing. The only one who knew my secret was my husband. The problem was he didn't see a problem with it (I was never drunk, always took care of my responsibilities, etc.). If I told anyone else that I was drinking a bottle of wine almost every night, I would have felt extremely ashamed. That's just not what girls like me do! Anyway, I can relate and that's why I'm here and living wine-free; I'm ready to be free of the guilt and shame that I carried for so long. Not to mention the fatigue, red eyes, yucky skin, extra few pounds, wasted money, etc. etc. etc.
Welcome and best wishes in the days ahead. You can do this.
runningkat, I can completely relate to the dirty secret thing. The only one who knew my secret was my husband. The problem was he didn't see a problem with it (I was never drunk, always took care of my responsibilities, etc.). If I told anyone else that I was drinking a bottle of wine almost every night, I would have felt extremely ashamed. That's just not what girls like me do! Anyway, I can relate and that's why I'm here and living wine-free; I'm ready to be free of the guilt and shame that I carried for so long. Not to mention the fatigue, red eyes, yucky skin, extra few pounds, wasted money, etc. etc. etc.
Welcome and best wishes in the days ahead. You can do this.
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Join Date: Mar 2011
Location: Michigan
Posts: 111
Welcome Runningkat and Thom. I had the secret shame stuff going on too - I now read here regularly and occasionally post, go to AA every day, have a sponsor and go to therapy once a week or every other week. I also started off by doing an outpatient treatment program. I recommend AA - it's not as scary as it seems (in fact it cah be fun) and there are people who will identify with you in person.... although this site is good too. And Thom, I'm not sure what you're referring to, but there is a condition nicknamed "wet brain" - if you do a search for it you will come up with some information.
If you can let go of the shame of recognizing that you are an alcoholic (or have a problem), it will be so much easier to move forward. I know from experience (though I'm still early). Keep coming back!
If you can let go of the shame of recognizing that you are an alcoholic (or have a problem), it will be so much easier to move forward. I know from experience (though I'm still early). Keep coming back!
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Join Date: Apr 2010
Location: Mississippi
Posts: 7,910
Hi runningkat and welcome! We all know what it's like to have those bad weekends (again)..... When I realized I would keep repeating the same scenario over and over again, I knew that I had to get support and get sober.
My life is much better sober...... Keep reading and posting!
Welcome to you, too, Thom. Stick around - it's a great place!
My life is much better sober...... Keep reading and posting!
Welcome to you, too, Thom. Stick around - it's a great place!
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Join Date: May 2011
Location: San Diego
Posts: 77
I feel so ashamed...like I have this dirty little secret...does anyone else ever feel this way or remember feeling like this?[/QUOTE]
I have felt the same way. This site definitely has helped, and amazingly, each person I have told has reacted with support. I have not told anyone at work, just close friends and family.
Know that you are not alone.
I have felt the same way. This site definitely has helped, and amazingly, each person I have told has reacted with support. I have not told anyone at work, just close friends and family.
Know that you are not alone.
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