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Old 04-10-2011, 07:41 AM
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I don't know if it's the nicer weather or what, but I've been a little punchy the last couple days. I've really wanted to try a drink to see if I could actually just stop at one. I miss sitting out on our deck watching the sunset with a nice glass of wine or whatever. My mind is telling me probably not, but I'm curious. I've never quit drinking before and now that I have, I know I can control my urges. Would I throw it all down the toilet if I give it a try? This is probably stupid thinking, but I'm really wondering if I can drink in moderation....
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Old 04-10-2011, 07:46 AM
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Almost all of us tried the moderation thing, hoping against hope that we could be like "normal" drinkers and stop at one or two. It never worked for us. However, the only way you will know for sure it to try it. If it doesn't work, then you'll know.
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Old 04-10-2011, 07:55 AM
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All I have to do is play my drinking tapes again
in my mind and there I will have my answer if
I can do some control drinking. I tried so many
times before to control to only fail many times
again and again.

Yes the weather is awesome right now and I just
mentioned to my husband yesterday how nice it
would be to sit on a porch in duel rocking chairs
over looking a wide prairie and watching the birds
flying by and admiring the sunsets. Just being in
the moment. AND....NO Alcohol to give me that
natural feeling of uphoria.
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Old 04-10-2011, 01:35 PM
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I think most people have tried the moderation thing before they get to the point of signing up Tink...if we could stop at one, we would have.

Haven't you tried it before, tink?

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Old 04-10-2011, 01:46 PM
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If moderation works for you, then you aren't an alcoholic because alcoholics can't moderate their drinking.
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Old 04-10-2011, 03:45 PM
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Hi tink - I know that kind of thinking too: how nice it would be just to have a couple drinks and then get back to sobriety.....

When I have those thoughts, I try to remember what it was like and why I quit in the first place (reading on this forum helps me remember, too). I also know that if I drank, I'd still have to battle the same cravings the next day or the next week...... I'd be bargaining with myself once again, playing the control game and eventually losing.

It's the addiction talking, so don't listen to it!
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Old 04-10-2011, 03:54 PM
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I moderated for the last 10 years. Everytime I started drinking I was just gonna have one. Just to see......but ended up having not just one drink but one bottle -everytime. Didn't work for me...Good Luck.
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Old 04-10-2011, 03:55 PM
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I never could. I just think back to those early days of getting sober and that reminds me why.
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Old 04-10-2011, 04:12 PM
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Just yesterday I thought... wow, the weather's so nice. Surely I can just drink one and enjoy it.... eight beers later I was on here posting in remorse. Don't know about you, but I'm an alcoholic and I know I CAN'T control my urges... I'm also very, very hard headed and have to keep convincing myself... I'm finding the more I engage with other people who want to help me, the closer I get to sobriety.
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Old 04-10-2011, 05:01 PM
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I'm new to SR... I'm an opiate addict, sober 4 months and 6 days after 6 years of hell. Never thought of myself as an alcoholic, but since leaving opiates behind I've found myself chasing the beast through the use of alcohol several times and I'm sure if I continue to do so it will lead me back to my opiate addiction.. I agree that the only way to find out if you can do it would be to try it (but for sure not alone), but my experience with moderation and opiates over the last 6 years always lead me to a full blown relapse. Good Luck!!
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Old 04-11-2011, 03:27 AM
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I know it's delusional AND wishful thinking. I'm only a month sober, so I guess I have a ways to go. I always thought I would never be one to relapse, and now I see it is very easy to. I hope I can get over this latest hurdle without picking up a drink. Ugghh!
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Old 04-11-2011, 10:21 AM
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I never really understood the point of having one drink. I still feel like that now, so when i would have had one drink i would definetly want another.

I also believe that my world wouldnt fall apart if i have one drink. i reckon that i could have one and stop, i would be unsatisfied but i could do it. I just now that somewhere down the line in weeks or months i would end up having blackouts and hangovers again.
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