what_has_sobriety_taught_you?
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Join Date: Feb 2011
Location: I'm exactly where I should be.
Posts: 1,889
What have I learned in sobriety? Good question...I've learned that I really don't know the correct way to cope with problems or situations. There is no class in coping. Without booze I am finding it easier to inititate coping skills to get along.
I've learned that my life is proving itself to be a pleasurable journey not a chore that has to be lived in denial or with resistance to what will be. I've learned not to go against the grain of the path that's being layed out for me and that if I follow it life goes much more smoothly.
I've learned that even the bad things that happen aren't that bad...they are just magnified with drinking and handled in an appropriate manner they do away and rest easier. Yes, there are things that remain...but I've learned that lying awake worrying isn't gonna make them go away nor is passing out drunk. Every day is a fresh new day to try again.
Since I've never lived my adult life completely sober or alone, I find that I'm ok...I know what needs to be done and can take the responsiblity of handling it instead of expecting a SO to take over.
I'm learning that ALOT more people are struggling with this disease than imaginable and hopefully I can pay forward help that was given to me.
And I don't have to drink to be a friendly outgoing person...it does come naturally.
I've learned that my life is proving itself to be a pleasurable journey not a chore that has to be lived in denial or with resistance to what will be. I've learned not to go against the grain of the path that's being layed out for me and that if I follow it life goes much more smoothly.
I've learned that even the bad things that happen aren't that bad...they are just magnified with drinking and handled in an appropriate manner they do away and rest easier. Yes, there are things that remain...but I've learned that lying awake worrying isn't gonna make them go away nor is passing out drunk. Every day is a fresh new day to try again.
Since I've never lived my adult life completely sober or alone, I find that I'm ok...I know what needs to be done and can take the responsiblity of handling it instead of expecting a SO to take over.
I'm learning that ALOT more people are struggling with this disease than imaginable and hopefully I can pay forward help that was given to me.
And I don't have to drink to be a friendly outgoing person...it does come naturally.
Today's Muse
Join Date: May 2007
Location: West end
Posts: 1,081
I learned:
Everything isn't always about me.
I don't have to be right.
I can heal from my pain and from my past.
Perfection is a fleeting moment. If I can achieve it momentarily it will be gone again. Why bother?
There are new beginnings and second chances.
I deserve happiness and respect.
Life is meant to be enjoyed without living in a haze.
My soul can shine.
There is always hope.
There is goodness and light. The dark cloud was from my own making.
Everything isn't always about me.
I don't have to be right.
I can heal from my pain and from my past.
Perfection is a fleeting moment. If I can achieve it momentarily it will be gone again. Why bother?
There are new beginnings and second chances.
I deserve happiness and respect.
Life is meant to be enjoyed without living in a haze.
My soul can shine.
There is always hope.
There is goodness and light. The dark cloud was from my own making.
Member
Join Date: Jan 2011
Posts: 873
I've learned:
- "Sobriety" isn't instantly attained; it's a process and takes some work.
- Drinking is not as woven into the fabric of our society as I thought it was.
- Life is good if you let it be.
- Instead of always searching for what isn't, pay attention to what is.
- "Sobriety" isn't instantly attained; it's a process and takes some work.
- Drinking is not as woven into the fabric of our society as I thought it was.
- Life is good if you let it be.
- Instead of always searching for what isn't, pay attention to what is.
i've done my almost
Thread Starter
Join Date: Aug 2009
Location: Atlanta, GA
Posts: 1,934
Some GREAT stuff on here.
Why would we even consider giving this up?
It must be protected and worked for (in my opinion) just like anything of value.
Have a wonderful weekend!
PS - I just played tennis with some old friends (neighborhood group) and it's been a while since I've been invited to hang out with this group. Most of them are drinkers, but tennis was the main reason we got together.
It felt good to get invited again. I even got a lot of compliments and smiles.
Kjell~
Why would we even consider giving this up?
It must be protected and worked for (in my opinion) just like anything of value.
Have a wonderful weekend!
PS - I just played tennis with some old friends (neighborhood group) and it's been a while since I've been invited to hang out with this group. Most of them are drinkers, but tennis was the main reason we got together.
It felt good to get invited again. I even got a lot of compliments and smiles.
Kjell~
~ still a believer ~
Join Date: Dec 2009
Posts: 141
LosingmyMisery's
I learned:
Everything isn't always about me.
I don't have to be right.
I can heal from my pain and from my past.
I learned:
Everything isn't always about me.
I don't have to be right.
I can heal from my pain and from my past.
that, AND..........4) I am not in charge!!!.......
God will NOT allow me to drive the bus (even if I ask him nice)
5) I am going to make it
........(one day at a time tho)
Today's Muse
Join Date: May 2007
Location: West end
Posts: 1,081
And there is this...I can think it, but I don't have to say it. Some things are better left unsaid.
I was drinking to find strength, but in reality it was making me weak. My real strength came from living life sober.
I was drinking to find strength, but in reality it was making me weak. My real strength came from living life sober.
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