Amazing how being a 'non drinker' becomes the norm
Amazing how being a 'non drinker' becomes the norm
I have been sober for 7 mos. We had people over for dinner today (a family). I used to love having them over because one of them is a drinker.
Today they came over. Everyone was drinking, some more than others. It just didn't matter. I noticed that after a few drinks people become a little annoying (although nobody really drank all that much tonight. That's something I've noticed more on other nights). And then one person seemed to be drinking but when I looked at the bottle I see she only had about 2 glasses (in 4 hours).
It wasn't boring. In fact it was a little more interesting than usual because I could focus on what was going on instead of drink counting/obsessing. Pacing myself against people. Gulping wine in corners where I wouldn't be seen.
I don't really know what my point is in posting. Just that it's not a big deal I guess? Like the Emperor's new clothes. I used to think drinking was the be all and end all of a social event. It's totally not. It was just a normal night and my kids still got bedtime stories That didn't always happen in my drinking days after a party.
And tomorrow I will wake up and make breakfast. I won't feel sick. I won't worry about having made a fool of myself. I won't count the hours to my 'cure' drink. I'll just eat breakfast with my family and get on with my day.
Today they came over. Everyone was drinking, some more than others. It just didn't matter. I noticed that after a few drinks people become a little annoying (although nobody really drank all that much tonight. That's something I've noticed more on other nights). And then one person seemed to be drinking but when I looked at the bottle I see she only had about 2 glasses (in 4 hours).
It wasn't boring. In fact it was a little more interesting than usual because I could focus on what was going on instead of drink counting/obsessing. Pacing myself against people. Gulping wine in corners where I wouldn't be seen.
I don't really know what my point is in posting. Just that it's not a big deal I guess? Like the Emperor's new clothes. I used to think drinking was the be all and end all of a social event. It's totally not. It was just a normal night and my kids still got bedtime stories That didn't always happen in my drinking days after a party.
And tomorrow I will wake up and make breakfast. I won't feel sick. I won't worry about having made a fool of myself. I won't count the hours to my 'cure' drink. I'll just eat breakfast with my family and get on with my day.
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Awesome post. I look forward to becoming that "observer" as well when I am ready to be around people at a party. 7 months is incredible. I am almost at two months and it's so exciting to think where I'll be 5 months from now. Thanks!!
Great post: So glad Im back here reading this forum.
Im on day 14. This is only the second time in my life I have tried to stop drinking as my health is now being affected and my body is screaming out that enough is enough. The first time I lasted 9 months (nearly 3 years ago) and although I relapsed the lessons I learnt from that are now driving me on:
Namely: My life didnt stop when I stopped drinking. Summer days can be enjoyed without a drink.Christmas still happens without alcohol. When people come over the evening is not ruined because I stay sober.. I can still have a good internet debate without being drunk.
I will be going to a wedding next week, now this fills me with fear as it was a similar occasion that caused me to relapse, If I can get through that it will be another milestone .
Im on day 14. This is only the second time in my life I have tried to stop drinking as my health is now being affected and my body is screaming out that enough is enough. The first time I lasted 9 months (nearly 3 years ago) and although I relapsed the lessons I learnt from that are now driving me on:
Namely: My life didnt stop when I stopped drinking. Summer days can be enjoyed without a drink.Christmas still happens without alcohol. When people come over the evening is not ruined because I stay sober.. I can still have a good internet debate without being drunk.
I will be going to a wedding next week, now this fills me with fear as it was a similar occasion that caused me to relapse, If I can get through that it will be another milestone .
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