LeadHatter

i find myself wanting to use owing to this feeling - not sure what to do since im not sure i can handle myself in internet chat either

TotallyOverIt

:ghug3

GodsHolyWill

I hope you don't use! You're doing so good! Loneliness is hard, but we're here for you! It's great that you came here rather than use. I don't like internet chat either! i feel so uncomfortable in them!

LeadHatter

maybe i should read a book on lonliness - there is something about recovery that makes me want to tell everyone just what new improvements im having - - then when there is nobody to share it with.............................................. ..........................zeeeem.....down

GodsHolyWill

We at SR would love to hear about your improvements! What improvements have you been making? I'm sure there are some! You made it this far!

LaFemme

I've never done chat so I'm not sure what you mean by having a hard time handeling it. I understand loneliness...my family is not on board with my sobriety...I live alone with my two dogs...all my friends are married with a couple of kids....etc etc.

I drank because I was lonely and could not stand my own company. When I got sober I had to address that. Through hard work and therapy I am now happy when I am alone. I still hope some day to meet someone and have a family but I am finally comfortable in my own skin.

What are you doing other than SR and not drinking?

JoeCree

Loneliness can be a sign of depression, and depression can be treated with meds. All sorts of people feel lonely, even if they have a family. It is important to feel comfortable being yourself without social interaction, but it is not uncommon for people to feel lonely if nobody is around - humans are social creatures by nature.

Perhaps you should find a hobby that involves being around people without having to be their "friends"?
If you enjoy sports - join a league for fun.
If you enjoy knitting - find a group to knit with
Book clubs,
AA,

all sorts of groups out there - a good place to find them is at Do something, Learn something, Share something, Change something - Meetup
I own a Boston Terrier, and joined a BT group for fun - there are all sorts of people I have met through my dog. just a thought.

LeadHatter

i have had a lust addiction which i have now broken also thats a major step, actually im only 5 weeks 5 days on that one. i now meditate. i get on better with my mum my sister and my friend j[couldnt say full name here]. i feel less paranoid although i still am quite.

GodsHolyWill

That's a lot! Good for you!!! You can have a great life if you keep it up!

LeadHatter

thanks everyone with your help i was touched and managed to get into the shower to get clean it was warm and aswell as being clean i was able to have a think.

i think my pride has been eating me up i will look after myself and socialize when i feel able to do so and where i feel able

Dee74

I was always very lonely...even in a crowd...I think a lot of that was fear - I was afraid of putting myself out there, of losing control of situations, and being hurt.

Since getting sober and working hard on myself, I've grown a lot in self confidence, I've become comfortable with who I am, I'm happy in my own company and in the company of others....and I'm never lonely anymore

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TotallyOverIt

Yay for the magic shower!

LexieCat

AA helps with loneliness, too.

Just sayin'...