well as my recovery goes on
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well as my recovery goes on
i have come to realize that a part of me thinks it highly likely that i will fail in my efforts to succeed in life.
quite what to do about that i don't know
bummer
quite what to do about that i don't know
bummer
Naa Kev...
Just keep with your sobriety efforts, keep banging your drum... and things just start to fall into place. Things seem to get better, because they are better. This helps maintain a more positive attitude and can become second nature as the Alcoholic way of thinking starts to fade. Then it seems as if your eyes become open, able to deal with more and cope better.
Its usually a long way off, but you can get there trust me.
Heck! just look at all the evidence here on this site!
Recovery has given no end of people a better life, from better attitude, that Alcohol was allowed to destroy.
A life in Sobriety presents endless opertunities rite there for the taking, and you will be in a much better position to see them.
Chin up mate, as you move forward :-)
Just keep with your sobriety efforts, keep banging your drum... and things just start to fall into place. Things seem to get better, because they are better. This helps maintain a more positive attitude and can become second nature as the Alcoholic way of thinking starts to fade. Then it seems as if your eyes become open, able to deal with more and cope better.
Its usually a long way off, but you can get there trust me.
Heck! just look at all the evidence here on this site!
Recovery has given no end of people a better life, from better attitude, that Alcohol was allowed to destroy.
A life in Sobriety presents endless opertunities rite there for the taking, and you will be in a much better position to see them.
Chin up mate, as you move forward :-)
One thing that has been very important to my recovery is that I work at my life now. It is up to me whether I sink or swim and I will do everything I can to ensure a positive outcome.
When I quit I was so wrecked inside I wasn't even sure I wanted to paint anymore...my lifetime dream had lost its appeal. Today I have commissions, a studio, a bunch of spec pieces under way. I am experimenting and having fun with it. It isn't supporting me yet but its moving in the right direction...more importantly my passion is back. It didn't happen overnight. It didn't happen without personal work and growth.
Sober you have a chances at life...but its still up to you.
When I quit I was so wrecked inside I wasn't even sure I wanted to paint anymore...my lifetime dream had lost its appeal. Today I have commissions, a studio, a bunch of spec pieces under way. I am experimenting and having fun with it. It isn't supporting me yet but its moving in the right direction...more importantly my passion is back. It didn't happen overnight. It didn't happen without personal work and growth.
Sober you have a chances at life...but its still up to you.
...more importantly my passion is back.
@Kev
Give/Allow it time... you wont look back in the same way. Thats sayin if you do... you'll be too busy!
It's hard to feel stuff at first - loneliness and boredom are two biggies for us. The thing is you can drink and still feel lonely (you just don't care quite as much temporarily).
The first few months all I did was put one foot in front of the other and stay sober. Things kept getting better though, and I take pride in myself today. The rewards are there - keep going kevin!:ghug3
The first few months all I did was put one foot in front of the other and stay sober. Things kept getting better though, and I take pride in myself today. The rewards are there - keep going kevin!:ghug3
Hmmm...
Well i doubt you on a desert island peddling like something 'rabid' to power your PC!
All you need is rite outside your door!
Get used to the new you
Get a hobby, meet folk through it
Maybe over step the mark with your confidence, who knows it mite work...
if no, you tried... you'll still have options.
Chatroom success? 'pfff...'
Anyway you on a learning curve with plenty of obsticals, and you will constantly find new ways at dealing with them.
Dunno what else to say really Kev... just get some plans drawn up in your nut and crack on. gl :-)
Well i doubt you on a desert island peddling like something 'rabid' to power your PC!
All you need is rite outside your door!
Get used to the new you
Get a hobby, meet folk through it
Maybe over step the mark with your confidence, who knows it mite work...
if no, you tried... you'll still have options.
Chatroom success? 'pfff...'
Anyway you on a learning curve with plenty of obsticals, and you will constantly find new ways at dealing with them.
Dunno what else to say really Kev... just get some plans drawn up in your nut and crack on. gl :-)
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thanks everyone i guess im about ready to add pride to my long character flaw list.
thats whats stopped me from getting to aa!
[ps im ok now had a shower and a think] just guess im not used to asking for help all the time - if i was gazing and pornographic images or downing cans of lager well thats what i used to do to deal with lonliness not ask for help!!!!
thats whats stopped me from getting to aa!
[ps im ok now had a shower and a think] just guess im not used to asking for help all the time - if i was gazing and pornographic images or downing cans of lager well thats what i used to do to deal with lonliness not ask for help!!!!
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