Girlfriend of a recovering alcoholic
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Originally Posted by PickMe 
.....it seems very rigid and I thought that these were supposed to be just "suggestions."
........thanks everyone for support and please don't be put off by my occasional temper tantrums. I am a little lost right now.
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Right now I am dealing with finally finding a man as great as my dad. This man is a lot like my dad...all the wonderful qualities, and also the alcoholism. Oops. I think I have "Pick Me" stamped on my forehead in some ink that only addicts can see.
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Oh man.....while I'm not saying I have "all the wonderful qualities" you're describing, but it sounds as though I could be your dad. I have two daughters and a son as well as a great lady - and grandkids, too - and they mean the world to me. Alcoholism has been my only downfall - maybe not as severe as some - but it's certainly been enough of an issue for me to want to quit.
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Oops, sorry, I missed where you said you were going to Al-Anon already.
Well, it sounds as if you are being appropriately cautious. I wish you both the best, honestly. Not saying it can't work, just that it's risky--for both of you.
Well, it sounds as if you are being appropriately cautious. I wish you both the best, honestly. Not saying it can't work, just that it's risky--for both of you.
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Originally Posted by LexieCat
Oops, sorry, I missed where you said you were going to Al-Anon already.
Well, it sounds as if you are being appropriately cautious. I wish you both the best, honestly. Not saying it can't work, just that it's risky--for both of you.
Well, it sounds as if you are being appropriately cautious. I wish you both the best, honestly. Not saying it can't work, just that it's risky--for both of you.
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My ab did the same thing. I feel like he didn't trust me enough in the beginning to confide his "secrets" to me. Once we dated for about 5 months, I began to notice the drinking little by little. But like you said, I had already fallen in love with him. I believe that everyone and every relationship is different. I am trying very hard to be supportive of my ab but I have also let him know that I will not tolerate his drinking. I told him that it's not like one slip up and I will dump him but it's more like - is he willing to play russian roulette with our relationship? Good luck to you. You sound like you are on the right track!
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