ViciousCycle

Ok sorry to sound like a broken record, as some of you know I had to put a cat down of 16 years...........horrible experience. .........but.........I went and picked up his ashes........it was like living it over again.......they had a swatch of his hair on top...........I lost it...........my boyfriend finally took it away as I weeped........I miss my dude..........sorry to be redundant. Love to you all........

suki44883

Impurrfect

(((VC))) - I lost it when I had to throw away the scratching post my first cat used. Standing there at the dumpster, just bawling. I cried every time I drove by my vet's office for quite a while.

It hurts, it's normal, and I'm sorry. It does get better. My friend has his cat's ashes sitting on his desk, where he can be reminded of him every day, but it took a while before he could do that.

Hugs and prayers,

Amy

least

The best final resting place for an animal is in our hearts.

Hevyn

VC - the fur would've put me over the edge, and I would have lost it too. I'm sure it was meant to be a nice thing, but there's only so much we can take. This has been a horrible experience because you loved him so much - I don't understand how people can be calm about such things.

As time goes by the pain will subside & you'll be able to smile when you think of him. You'll be able to think how he'd never want to be the cause of your sadness. Not just yet, though. Glad to see you coming here to talk about it.

Dee74

I'm sure they meant it nicely but I wouldn't have liked the fur thing either VC.

I'm sorry for your pain - but don't give in to the desire to numb- let yourself grieve and get through it...

please be good to yourself.

D

Horselover

I am so sorry about your loss. It really is the hardest part of having them in our lives. We are certainly blessed to have them, but I know its the hardest part. We've had to do the same ourselves and we cried like babies. I wish you speedy healing and a time when you can smile about the love he brought you.

bellakeller

(((hugs)))

smacked

So sorry for your loss.. I'm sure the fur thing was certainly well intentioned, but I would have reacted the same way. Take good care of yourself.

wpainterw

Oh I've been there so many times! My deepest sympathies to you! The ashes of three English Setters are at this moment on my bookshelf. Only one of them died naturally. The other two I had to put down. When I put the first one down I was so upset that I went to a meeting and the man who was heading up the meeting told me that I was upset because I wasn't working the steps, that I hadn't been paying attention to my higher power. I felt like walking out of the meeting but I stuck with it. Oddly enough, despite his insensitivity, there was a grain of truth in what he said inasmuch as I had become very dependent on my dog, and this dependency has continued to this day. But being dependent on an animal is at least better than being dependent on booze or drugs. One of my favorite books is Caroline Knapp's "Pack of Two", relating how, when she managed to get into recovery she became dependent on her dog. She also wrote a book about her addiction and recovery: "Drinking. A Love Story."
Hope you feel better soon.

W.

LovesToTravel

I am so sorry about your cat. I know that my mother said that she didn't want to have anymore pets because it was so hard to deal with when they left us. I believe that is true but I think that we get much more out of loving them and them us. Take care! Your cat had a wonderful life and wouldn't want you to be sad. In time you will remember the good times without hurting so much.

Fandy

Baker loved you through thick and thin and you were there for him...please try to remember that....he wants you to not be sad...he no longer is in pain.

you might wish to honor his memory by keeping a young kitten from a sad life too. when you are ready, there are many.

Anna

It is so sad when our beloved pets die.

And, I think for many of us alcoholics, our pets were the only ones who were there for us when we were at our lowest.

I am so very sorry for your loss.

Hooped

You're not being redundant at all VC.
I'm so very sorry you have lost Baker.

The little fella is no no longer suffering.....
but you must be totally heartbroken.

You have my deepest sympathy. I'm so sorry you've lost him.
Hang in there my friend.

Surlyredhead

I am so sorry, I would have lost it too!! I cried for thre days when my cat Oscar died. When we were giving him his "funeral" My Son, he was 7 at the time, asked "Can't Jesus resurrect him Mommy?" I had to tell him that since Oscar was in heaven, he probably wants to stay with God now...I laugh now...out of the mouths of babes.

Cathy

Missybuns

Talk about it all you want. When something is so important to you it is ok to share your way through it. What ever it takes, just don't pick up and use.

cyber hug, !-!
Missy

ViciousCycle

Thanks everyone for your kind replies.......I will try to keep them all in mind...somehow.

EmeraldRose

People say "lighten up, it's just a cat"
If you think it's "just a cat" then you will probably understand phrases
like "just a friend," "just a sunrise" or "just a promise."
Hopefully someday they understand that it's not "just a cat"
but the thing that gives me humanity and keeps
...me from being "just a man."
So the next time you hear "just a cat."
just smile, because they "just don't understand."

It is never easy...I have been known to cry over a chicken! I am so sorry.

sleepie

That's sad, VC. I hope you will feel better soon. I understand how much a pet can mean.

MsCooterBrown

I am sorry about your cat.