Looking for a Sponsor
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Join Date: Dec 2010
Location: TN
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Looking for a Sponsor
I am still looking for a sponsor but I have faith I will find one this week. Tonight I have a meeting I have been looking forward to for a week. On Friday there is a women's meeting I am looking forward to as well.
Does anyone have any questions I should ask? Things I need to look for? Or anything that might help me find a good sponsor (even if she is a temp)?
Does anyone have any questions I should ask? Things I need to look for? Or anything that might help me find a good sponsor (even if she is a temp)?
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Join Date: Apr 2009
Posts: 3,095
"Have you had a spiritual awakening as the result of the Steps?" is a question that will filter out most of the BS, sponsor in name only, working their own program instead of the program in the BB, control your life kind of people.
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Join Date: Nov 2010
Location: NJ
Posts: 96
MariahM,
When I first started attending meetings, I was in a panic to find a sponsor. I just kept hearing to get one, etc.. I talked to a guy who has been around for a long time & he suggested taking my time & I'm glad I did. It took me about 2 1/2 months and a funny thing happened. I attended a meeting that I had never been to before. A guy I know from my past sits down on the other side of the room. He's been clean a long time & he shared a bunch of wisdom with the group. He's very involved in service & helps a lot of addicts. I approached him after the meeting outside & we exchanged numbers. Turns out that the meeting we met at is one that he never attends either, but just happened to be in the area.
He is a guy that I always liked a lot & respected the way he handled himself, but never knowing anything about his past or involvement in the program. A week later I finally mustered up the courage to call him & set up a time to meet. He is now my sponsor & I couldn't be happier. I just knew that when I ran into him that he was the guy. I think you will just know when you find the right person. It depends what you're looking for to help you recover. I eventually want to get involved in service, so that's why I chose him. I just wanted to learn to live my life in a more positive way, and he is a good example for me.
Hope this helps.
When I first started attending meetings, I was in a panic to find a sponsor. I just kept hearing to get one, etc.. I talked to a guy who has been around for a long time & he suggested taking my time & I'm glad I did. It took me about 2 1/2 months and a funny thing happened. I attended a meeting that I had never been to before. A guy I know from my past sits down on the other side of the room. He's been clean a long time & he shared a bunch of wisdom with the group. He's very involved in service & helps a lot of addicts. I approached him after the meeting outside & we exchanged numbers. Turns out that the meeting we met at is one that he never attends either, but just happened to be in the area.
He is a guy that I always liked a lot & respected the way he handled himself, but never knowing anything about his past or involvement in the program. A week later I finally mustered up the courage to call him & set up a time to meet. He is now my sponsor & I couldn't be happier. I just knew that when I ran into him that he was the guy. I think you will just know when you find the right person. It depends what you're looking for to help you recover. I eventually want to get involved in service, so that's why I chose him. I just wanted to learn to live my life in a more positive way, and he is a good example for me.
Hope this helps.
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Join Date: May 2010
Location: West Bloomfield, MI
Posts: 5,797
Rather than picking who you think might be good, I believe it's good to ask ppl you respect who they'd recommend. I think you'll find that only a couple names will be continually mentioned. Those are the folks to go see, ask the question that Keith posted, then tell them you're looking for a sponsor and want to be a recovered alcoholic and ask them if they can show you how to do that.
I WISH I had that advice when I started. Instead, I picked someone I could "identify with, thought they were sober, and figured they could teach the program to me." Instead, what I got was someone who had several years of not drinking, he went to meetings, is crazier than hell, and is about as far from what I want to do/be in life that someone could be. I guess that's to be expected though, I trusted MY best judgment which was the same judgment that GOT me to where I was in the first place.
I WISH I had that advice when I started. Instead, I picked someone I could "identify with, thought they were sober, and figured they could teach the program to me." Instead, what I got was someone who had several years of not drinking, he went to meetings, is crazier than hell, and is about as far from what I want to do/be in life that someone could be. I guess that's to be expected though, I trusted MY best judgment which was the same judgment that GOT me to where I was in the first place.
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