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Old 12-28-2015, 08:35 PM
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There are many recurrent themes on SR. In fact, really most of what we confront is simply a variation on the same theme. So the feedback we see posted in response is always helpful.

Please, though, take a moment to look at the dates posts were made. This thread is more than five years old.

Posting in current threads is likely to have greater impact, both for those who respond as well as the original poster.

That said, welcome to SR, Wrenbird. This is a place of great hope and support.
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Old 07-31-2018, 06:53 PM
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Originally Posted by lkc2010 View Post
I have no idea WHY I cannot stay sober. I just cannot and I'm very tired of the mayhem that I continue to create for myself.

I'm hung over and really sick again. I'm not going into work. I was so ridiculously drunk this weekend that I had the worst hang over I've ever had on Saturday and Sunday. It actually scared me how sick I got.

I had a horrible day at work yesterday and drank myself into another oblivion. Ive been on a binge. I'm going to hurt myself accidentally or find myself in a terrible situation if I don't knock it off.

You would think I'd learn. I cannot express enough how tired of being a drunk I am. I don't want my bottom to get any worse. I need to go back to AA but feel like I've failed at it (I know they'll take me back). I just feel like an idiot 'oh there's that girl that can't stay sober'.

Yuck. I need to help myself. I made myself yet another promise this am to get sober and stay sober. I'm going to try very hard to stick to it.
Have you ever tried another sobriety program? Maybe AA has failed you...i dont know you so maybe it is for you but I have seen too many people die believing they failed AA. Don't hate me. I just am curious how they are helping you? It seems like you've tried a lot. I have no agenda btw I genuinely wanted to know
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Old 07-31-2018, 06:55 PM
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Originally Posted by lkc2010 View Post
Hi Guys - Thanks for the responses. I know I need to get my head straight and make the commitment not to drink. Why's it SO HARD. Like its JUST alcohol. You'd think we could just stop - we don't need it to live. I'm such a mess and I'm making a mess of my life. I go to crazyland when I drink and my behavior is out of control.

I keep trying to stay positive but its really hard.
What ways have you genuinely tried to stay sober?
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Old 07-31-2018, 07:04 PM
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Originally Posted by DayTrader View Post
Lkc..... a couple suggestions to consider

It's SO hard because, of our own willpower, we can't stop.....we do need it to live - not from a nutritional standpoint but from a spiritual and mental standpoint (given the physical craving that kicks in once the first drink is taken, I can argue that physically we "need" it as well but I'll leave that alone for now).

Why's it so hard - That's true if you're part of the "we real alcoholics" - aka the chronic alcoholic. The chronic alcoholic cannot, under any circumstances, stop drinking and stay stopped given any human power.

It's just alcohol - no....it's alcoholism (if you're a real alcoholic). The drinking of alcohol is just an outward manifestation of in internal condition. Drinking alcohol treats alcoholism. So, it's more than just the booze - A LOT more. Treat that core problem, the alcoholism, and the drinking problem goes away on it's own.

We don't need it to live - in his/her present untreated alcoholic state, the real alcoholic generally needs alcohol to live. Stopping drinking, and failing to treat one's alcoholism.......for the chronic alcoholic......will lead to death just as surely and just as quickly as drinking one's self to death would. Typically, the dry and untreated alkie will take their own life because they just don't see how life is worth living.

For the real alcoholic, treating alcoholism involves a whole lot more than "not drinking anymore." Everything's got to change......everything - and I don't know too many people who would tell you that's something they run to do......or even want to consider doing. Nope, the average alkie is so self-centered and so selfish that they'd usually rather cling to their current lifestyle right up to the doors of death rather than admit their plan isn't working and start to do something about it.

IF you're a real alcoholic, you're in a fight for your life, no question about it........though you may not realize it presently.

This disease is deadly serious.....and it beats us more often than we beat it - not because we can't win.......but because our pride and our egos keep us from taking the necessary action to implement the necessary changes to bring about the changes required to conquer it.

It doesn't HAVE to be that way though.... there's one solution I know works for sure and it's by implementing 12 little steps into one's life. That one works 100% and has never failed.......IF it's done completely.
How do you know this to be true? There is no science to back up this claim. Why is AA the true way to sobriety? Why are alcoholics failing AA not AA failing them? Why would we not look for other answers if one treatment doesn't work? People die believing they failed because they didn't listen to their sponsor, or go to enough meetings. That is really sad. You have no right to say AA is the ONE cure. I am aware it does for a few but clearly it isn't the only way to stay sober
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Old 07-31-2018, 07:29 PM
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Originally Posted by RandyLee1015 View Post
How do you know this to be true? There is no science to back up this claim. Why is AA the true way to sobriety? Why are alcoholics failing AA not AA failing them? Why would we not look for other answers if one treatment doesn't work? People die believing they failed because they didn't listen to their sponsor, or go to enough meetings. That is really sad. You have no right to say AA is the ONE cure. I am aware it does for a few but clearly it isn't the only way to stay sober
You realize you are responding to a years old thread?
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Old 08-03-2018, 02:38 AM
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I'm not going to be of much help because I am new to sobriety but i just wanted to post and say I relate to everything you've said SO MUCH!!! Thank you for sharing. <3

I've never tried to quit in the past, only tried to control. And I end up not being able to stop drinking after I stop, miss work, feel terrible, endless shame cycle that would eventually lead to another binge.

I believe in you! Every day is a new day.
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Originally Posted by Venecia View Post
There are many recurrent themes on SR. In fact, really most of what we confront is simply a variation on the same theme. So the feedback we see posted in response is always helpful.

Please, though, take a moment to look at the dates posts were made. This thread is more than five years old.

Posting in current threads is likely to have greater impact, both for those who respond as well as the original poster.

That said, welcome to SR, Wrenbird. This is a place of great hope and support.
This thread is 8 years old.
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This thread is 8 years old.
Oh I'm sorry! I'm new to this site and it spoke to me, didn't see the date.
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Oh I'm sorry! I'm new to this site and it spoke to me, didn't see the date.
No worries. I think we've all done it at some point or another.
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Didn't check date AND I double posted.

Need more coffee....
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Derp.

Didn't check the date.
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