6yearsold

I spoke with someone today and I spoke of how I had drank recently and they said this "Okay, so you drank 2 days out of 9, this time drink 2 days out of 18." I felt like thi made sense. I don't know if it is a good mentality or not???

Dee74

That kind of thinking never worked for me because I never had that kind of control.

I might drink 2 days out of 18...or I might drink solidly for the next few months.

After the first drink? I never knew - and until I admitted that it was never really up to me what happened after that first drink, I was doomed to repeat my mistakes.

D

MsCooterBrown

I know I tried the experiment...some days you are in control..but then..you go on a roll. I only tried it one time since I quit..reset my date and NEVER AGAIN..not sure how much a person can quit after walking on the other side again. The people that try to talk me into drinking again either don't care about me..or don't understand the severity of the problem. BUT you may be different. Only you know. Or are about to find out!

MsCooterBrown

I should have said not sure how MANY TIMES a person can quit..not how much. My brain gets ahead of my typing sometimes.

6yearsold

I don't know how I feel about it. I honestly have no clue. The person that told me that wasnt encouraging my drinking- I suppose they were just trying to say make some progress.

DayTrader

It's been around since 1935, the AA Big Book (the book with "Alcoholics Anonymous" on the cover) was written in 1939. The book basically explains the difference between "problem drinking" and "alcoholism." From there, it centers on the alcoholic and explains what the founders of AA (Bill W and Dr. Bob S. + the first 100 recovered alcoholics in the program at the time the book was written) did to recover from their alcoholism.

Basically, AA meetings are just gatherings of ppl who have a problem with alcohol. Hopefully, there are also a lot of people who are working the AA program of recovery too - the 12 Steps, but that's not a requirement. AA doesn't require that you recover or work the 12-Step program. You're allowed to "keep coming back" and die an alcoholic death if you want to - although it's not suggested or recommended.

Some folks (at the meetings) are new, working on their recovery and are there to learn the program / find a sponsor to help them through the process......others are there because they've recovered but know that to keep their sobriety and continue to grow, they need to carry the message to the newer ppl (in addition to being "necessary".....carrying the message and helping newer folks is just plain fun).

Hope that helps.

.......and as for not wanting to look like a failure..... if you're a real alcoholic, booze will make you look that way whether you like it or not. (Layne Staley learned it the hard way)

SDSurfn

Betterlife, I can relate. It's amazing, I could have typed your exact words. 27 years for me. Drunk, hungover, or thinking about my next drunk.

I am always so amazed at how similar our experiences with booze are.

All of us here are strangers (well, we start out as strangers) posting anonymously on an internet chatboard, yet I feel I have more in common with you people here than with anyone I know in "real" life.

Anyway, just wanted to share that.

Have a good sober day everyone,

-SD

drent

If this was me. Im not saying its you, but if this was me and i was looking at myself. Id say that I was looking for a way to remain a baby and giving myself an excuse to fail because being a baby is so much more attractive and easy. Why wouldnt u want to be a baby and have alcohol make life better. take away all the hard stuff and make life easy again.

You stopped drinking for a reason. I would focus on that. Not excuses for failure. Good luck.