bosco

Im the spouse of an addict, this is my first post not sure how to work this but ill give it a go. been married a year and a half dated 4 years had no clue what was going on a year and half into figured out there was a problem oxys i think as well as meth. tryed will support but no good got her help started suboxon a year later seems to be going good, now the money is missing the cell phone call and messages are deleted and were back to 105lbs but its all my fault as i been told, its never there problem. help

Kyomi

First of all, it is not your fault at all. Relapse does happen, but she needs to fess up... She may not be ready yet. I'm sorry that she has relapsed, and I'm sorry that you are going through this.

When did you find out that money was missing? Is she still on the suboxone a year later?

Anna

Hi and Welcome,

I suggest that you seek help and support for yourself at AlAnon or NarAnon.

Hopefully your spouse will decide that she needs help for herself.

bosco

no not on sub anymore she went cold turkey haha all her family has delt with this for so long they wont even talk about it. checked phone bill on friday noticed some calles to bast dealers, checked bank right then bingo money gone get home that night and the fight is on and agin up all night

least

Please check out this link to our friends and families of addicts forum. Take care of yourself, no matter what!

Friends and Family of Substance Abusers - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information

WElcome to the family!

Dee74

Welcome to SR Bosco.

Please do check out our FF forums. I also think Ann's suggestion of Alanon or naranon is great.

It's important you not forget to take care of yourself in all of this.

D

bosco

i cant do it anymore i give up i give up i give up

LaFemme

I'm so sorry for your pain bosco. Sadly, sometimes the best thing for both the addict and the spouse is to separate. I don't speak from personal experience but from what a friend has gone through.

Hugs.

Dee74

Did you go reading down in F and F Bosco?

you'll find a lot of people who know exactly what you're going through down there too.
Friends and Family of Substance Abusers - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information

I'm sorry for yr situation and sorry you're upset but you'll find a lot of support here

D

Hevyn

Bosco, please don't go without starting a thread in the Friends & Family forum. I know you feel alone, but you are not. Many have been in the same exact situation. We care about you and don't want you to leave without getting the help you seek.