Another person gone...
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Another person gone...
This probably mean very little to anyone outsde Australia...and possibly very little to anyone not in my age group, but James Freud, a well known face of 80s music here, and a long battler against his alcoholism, succumbed to it yesterday.
James Freud's Suicide | James Freud Loses Battle With Alcohol
I never knew him, but his music is part of the soundtrack of my youth, and it's sad to think alcoholism can push someone like that, someone who I used to think had it all, to such an untimely end.
RIP
D
James Freud's Suicide | James Freud Loses Battle With Alcohol
I never knew him, but his music is part of the soundtrack of my youth, and it's sad to think alcoholism can push someone like that, someone who I used to think had it all, to such an untimely end.
RIP
D
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(((Dee))) - how sad, yet a good reminder that we can't ever take being clean/sober for granted. That stupid little voice that says "it's okay, just one more time" is always more than willing to come out if we don't keep recovery a priority.
Hugs and prayers,
Amy
Hugs and prayers,
Amy
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I haven't heard of him, but that is very sad to hear.
Musicians and alcoholism are often mutual; people often turn to music to release pain, and alcohol often follows.
October 21st marked the death of one of my favorite musicians, also an alcoholic and a suicide.
Some of the music I've made dealt with both topics as well, and both also nearly took my life. Thank God for all of us being here.
Musicians and alcoholism are often mutual; people often turn to music to release pain, and alcohol often follows.
October 21st marked the death of one of my favorite musicians, also an alcoholic and a suicide.
Some of the music I've made dealt with both topics as well, and both also nearly took my life. Thank God for all of us being here.
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Dee, thank you. I have heard his song, "Barbados" & found it haunting. I will look for the memoirs he wrote about his addiction. His death is not in vain if someone is made wiser by this tragic event.
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Very sad,
I hate suicide! It is so dreadful to be so sad and hopeless.
I always defend people who do it because how can taking one's own life be selfish?
How absolutely desolate do you have to be that you can actually believe that people will be relieved? Or better off? I have seen my younger brother gutted due to the death of a close friend in particular and so angry! He said to me, "He had no right to do that, we were in this together" They had suffered the losses of friends and a brother through accidents in the recent past. I have said, "I wish people would put the effort of taking their own lives in to living!" But I know that is not the way it works.
RIP Mr Freud
I hate suicide! It is so dreadful to be so sad and hopeless.
I always defend people who do it because how can taking one's own life be selfish?
How absolutely desolate do you have to be that you can actually believe that people will be relieved? Or better off? I have seen my younger brother gutted due to the death of a close friend in particular and so angry! He said to me, "He had no right to do that, we were in this together" They had suffered the losses of friends and a brother through accidents in the recent past. I have said, "I wish people would put the effort of taking their own lives in to living!" But I know that is not the way it works.
RIP Mr Freud
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It's a terrible place to be with no hope, alone, in complete despair and out of options...hopefully family and friends are able to not resent his decision too much as they will have seen how tormented he was although i doubt they will understand...yeah its sad especially with the efforts he obviously put into getting sober and, unfortunately like most alcoholics, never getting it!
His books look worth a read Dee!
His books look worth a read Dee!
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Sadly, at least speaking from personal experience, the knowledge that one's suicide would harm your loved ones can only feed the guilt and shame that makes suicide seem the only option. So I've heard from others too. Like alcoholism, as it's so often tandem with alcoholism, suicidal behavior usually bears a lot of contradictions and illusions. Which is also why both are so hard for others to deal with.
Best to do is just honor their memory and the good they've done.
Best to do is just honor their memory and the good they've done.
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Dee ur not the only one to remember James. My 1980's pulse always beat a little faster when I heard James and his "Teenage Radio Stars" belt out "Modern Girl" on Countdown. My heart goes out to his family and friends. We all know the despair that alcoholism generates in lives. RIP James.
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Thanx Dee, not on topic sorry but still sober (7 months now) and going to AA meetings once a week when I can get a lift. Best news is I am getting a sponsor and going to start working the steps. Getting my drivers license back in 2 weeks (cant wait) so getting to meetings will become much easier then. Spending a lot of available spare time on tha net learning about AA. Best advice that I got this week at my meeting from an oldtimer 37 years sober - keep it simple Julie, keep it simple. May God bless you all.............
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