I have decided today is the day
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I have decided today is the day
I know this will be tough, I have done this in the past and a few days in IT calls me back, but today is the day I say goodbye to the dependent, reclusive drinker and hello to the rest of my life.
I no longer can justify drinking a 12 pack a night to deal with normal, every problems. I am done with excuses and admit that I am an alcoholic.
I no longer can justify killing myself because my Dad left me as a kid. That my shyness and embarrassment scarred me. I live a good life now with my wife and two kids, I need to be a husband / father that they can 100% respect.
I have had a lengthy talk with my wife over the past few days and I see the glimmer in her eyes. Our good life can be great. She will be there with me as I crawl out of this hole and into the bright sunshine.
I welcome a good nights sleep, a clear mind and a clean soul.
I have never said the words to her, but I did today, I am an alcoholic.
I am on my way, taking my first step of a long journey, wish me luck.
Toss
I no longer can justify drinking a 12 pack a night to deal with normal, every problems. I am done with excuses and admit that I am an alcoholic.
I no longer can justify killing myself because my Dad left me as a kid. That my shyness and embarrassment scarred me. I live a good life now with my wife and two kids, I need to be a husband / father that they can 100% respect.
I have had a lengthy talk with my wife over the past few days and I see the glimmer in her eyes. Our good life can be great. She will be there with me as I crawl out of this hole and into the bright sunshine.
I welcome a good nights sleep, a clear mind and a clean soul.
I have never said the words to her, but I did today, I am an alcoholic.
I am on my way, taking my first step of a long journey, wish me luck.
Toss
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Oh what a wonderful post to read on this stressful day of mine. HOPE! Hope is where it's at.
Keep us posted, Toss! Listen out for that 'alcoholic voice' in the back of your mind telling you to just drink and start another time. Or whatever nonsense it comes up with (at least, that's what mine does
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Keep us posted, Toss! Listen out for that 'alcoholic voice' in the back of your mind telling you to just drink and start another time. Or whatever nonsense it comes up with (at least, that's what mine does
)
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Way to go, Toss!
It's sometimes a tough and difficult road, but the first and most important things you need are willingness and hope. Sounds like you've got plenty of both right now.
Good luck.
It's sometimes a tough and difficult road, but the first and most important things you need are willingness and hope. Sounds like you've got plenty of both right now.
Good luck.
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Toss - this is wonderful news. I was up to a 30-pack a day before I crashed & burned with DUI's, health issues, & chaos in my life. The drinking road leads nowhere, and you've discovered this way before I did. You won't lose everything that matters - you will heal and have a beautiful life.
Let us know how you're doing, & be proud of yourself for seeing the light.
Let us know how you're doing, & be proud of yourself for seeing the light.
It's well worth the effort it takes. 
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Thank you all for your responses. I have only been on this site for a week, and it has inspired me to get on with a sober life. The first two weeks will be tough, but I know that I need to change my behavior, insert heathly, useful activities to replace the destructive ones.
My wife is very supportive and I have two wonderful, active kids to keep me occupied.
Toss
My wife is very supportive and I have two wonderful, active kids to keep me occupied.
Toss
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Congratulations on your decision, Toss.
For me, I wouldn't think 2 weeks ahead. Live in, and for, today. No one knows what'll happen in those two weeks. But today, just don't drink, and enjoy it. Live in the day.
Just some advice from another alcoholic.
Best to you.
For me, I wouldn't think 2 weeks ahead. Live in, and for, today. No one knows what'll happen in those two weeks. But today, just don't drink, and enjoy it. Live in the day.
Just some advice from another alcoholic.
Best to you.
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In my experience, a decision is best backed up with a plan, followed by action.
Do you really think that just having moral support from your wife and keeping busy with the kids is going to be enough?
You've admitted you're an alcoholic--why not check out an AA meeting?
Do you really think that just having moral support from your wife and keeping busy with the kids is going to be enough?
You've admitted you're an alcoholic--why not check out an AA meeting?
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Good for you Toss your doing the right thing, its a far better life without Drink believe us all. Im so glad I gave it up, it doesnt even cross my mind now because Im too busy enjoying my Soberlife..I love it honestly!
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I concur with LexiCat about trying a meeting. Going, of course, is not the same as joining. It's an hour of your time and you might find it very helpful. Another way to think about it is: suppose you found out you were diabetic, and had the opportunity to meet and talk to long-time diabetics.
Congrats again!
Congrats again!
With this site, this first week for me has been a blessing. Good luck to your sobriety. Easy does it today. You'll be fine and I'll say a prayer for you..Member
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Originally Posted by LexieCat 
In my experience, a decision is best backed up with a plan, followed by action.
Do you really think that just having moral support from your wife and keeping busy with the kids is going to be enough?
You've admitted you're an alcoholic--why not check out an AA meeting?
Do you really think that just having moral support from your wife and keeping busy with the kids is going to be enough?
You've admitted you're an alcoholic--why not check out an AA meeting?
Originally Posted by Isaiah
I concur with LexiCat about trying a meeting. Going, of course, is not the same as joining. It's an hour of your time and you might find it very helpful. Another way to think about it is: suppose you found out you were diabetic, and had the opportunity to meet and talk to long-time diabetics.
Congrats again!
Congrats again!
Thanks for your concern.
Toss
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welcome to SR and to sobriety. It is good that you have an open mind about AA. I am also a really private person but I know I couldn't have stayed sober for 97 days (not that I'm counting lol) without AA. You don't have to say anything to anyone to sit in on a meeting, and you might be surprised how much better you feel.
Good luck and stick around!
Good luck and stick around!
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Thank you, I am reading and relaxing. In the past when I have stopped, I did it physically, but with no thought of how to maintain sobriety mentally. Again, I am closing off no options, and am more open to maintaining this then ever before.
Toss
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