First Day Sober
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Join Date: Oct 2010
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First Day Sober
Hey folks - I have been lurking on here for the past few weeks and decided to take the plunge and join up...
I am 30 years old and have been drinking since my teen years. The past 4-5 years have been a mess, and I have finally admitted that I am powerless over Alcohol and that I have a very serious problem. My father is in AA (~35 years sober) and I suppose I never wanted to admit to myself just how alike we truly are.
Anyway - I am looking for any support/communities/forums that I can get involved with. I am quite down right now, but also hopeful. I just wrote my mother telling her that I am indeed an Alcoholic - and it felt good to do so.
Thanks for any and all responses. Sad, but hopeful - thanks for listening.
I am 30 years old and have been drinking since my teen years. The past 4-5 years have been a mess, and I have finally admitted that I am powerless over Alcohol and that I have a very serious problem. My father is in AA (~35 years sober) and I suppose I never wanted to admit to myself just how alike we truly are.
Anyway - I am looking for any support/communities/forums that I can get involved with. I am quite down right now, but also hopeful. I just wrote my mother telling her that I am indeed an Alcoholic - and it felt good to do so.
Thanks for any and all responses. Sad, but hopeful - thanks for listening.
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Join Date: Jul 2010
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Hey, Spence,
Welcome! You're really very lucky to have a parent with so much sobriety. My ex-husband has 30 years, and it's reassuring to me to know our kids have that to look to as a model if they ever run into trouble with alcohol (me, I was a late starter--to alcoholic drinking and sobriety--I have two years and my ex was someone *I* looked up to).
Last night, the speaker at my meeting (celebrating a year after a relapse following many years of sobriety) had his daughter there, who is also now "one of us." She was very proud of her Dad, and said he was an inspiration to her.
It does feel good giving up that fight that we can never win, doesn't it?
Glad to have you on board.
Welcome! You're really very lucky to have a parent with so much sobriety. My ex-husband has 30 years, and it's reassuring to me to know our kids have that to look to as a model if they ever run into trouble with alcohol (me, I was a late starter--to alcoholic drinking and sobriety--I have two years and my ex was someone *I* looked up to).
Last night, the speaker at my meeting (celebrating a year after a relapse following many years of sobriety) had his daughter there, who is also now "one of us." She was very proud of her Dad, and said he was an inspiration to her.
It does feel good giving up that fight that we can never win, doesn't it?
Glad to have you on board.
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It is nice having a parent with so much sobriety - my father and mine's relationship is strained, obv. But I feel that with this new found Hope, we can somehow find each other friends again. I think that his sobriety was intimidating to me, and the fact that he knew I was an alcoholic in denial made things even worse...
One day a time, indeed. :-)
I'm really happy to have found this forum - I wasn't sure if people actively posted here or not; but again, thanks to you all for the support. I hope that I can learn from all of you - and that I can do my best to contribute to everyone else's trials as well.
One day a time, indeed. :-)
I'm really happy to have found this forum - I wasn't sure if people actively posted here or not; but again, thanks to you all for the support. I hope that I can learn from all of you - and that I can do my best to contribute to everyone else's trials as well.
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Join Date: Apr 2010
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Welcome to SR Spence, !
I work some longer hours & nights in a small town, so meetings are not as accesible as they may be for some, ....but, coming to SR the last 6 months has been a real blessing.
Congratulations on taking the first step,
I work some longer hours & nights in a small town, so meetings are not as accesible as they may be for some, ....but, coming to SR the last 6 months has been a real blessing.
Congratulations on taking the first step,
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Welcome Spence - so glad you've decided to take your life back. It's not easy admitting our problem (though it IS a relief). But the good news is that it gets better and better as we stop letting our lives be run by alcohol.
I had a lot of anxiety and bad hangovers at least 3 or 4 days a week, and I could see that it was continually going to get worse. I'm so glad I found this place and stopped when I did. You can too - and we're behind you!!!
I had a lot of anxiety and bad hangovers at least 3 or 4 days a week, and I could see that it was continually going to get worse. I'm so glad I found this place and stopped when I did. You can too - and we're behind you!!!
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I'm gonna keep this thread alive - feel free to talk about whatever. Gonna be tough getting to sleep tonight. Big time emotions (sad, angry, almost ecstatic). Wrote my mom a nice email, and got a great response. I've been downloading some AA speakers as well from a site I found.
I have some mp3s of good speakers - not sure what the rules are here (I should prolly read up!!!). Finding a lot of warmth in these speakers...
p.s. I will have to wait 7 days to post said links, oh well :0)
I have some mp3s of good speakers - not sure what the rules are here (I should prolly read up!!!). Finding a lot of warmth in these speakers...
p.s. I will have to wait 7 days to post said links, oh well :0)
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Welcome to the best recovery site everywhere!
Congrats and hugs on deciding to live sober. I've got ten months and my life is better now than I'd ever imagined possible. You'll find lots of support here any time of day or night.
Congrats and hugs on deciding to live sober. I've got ten months and my life is better now than I'd ever imagined possible. You'll find lots of support here any time of day or night. 12-Step Recovered Alkie
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Spence
One of the things I didn't like hearing but came to understand as the truth was that when I drank.....when I got drunk.....ALL of me got drunk.
I was physically drunk, mentally drunk and spiritually drunk.
Stopping....and getting some dry time in sobers up the physical me.....but I'm still 2/3's drunk.
Congrats on the awesome start...but don't rest on your laurels and fall victim to the delusion that sobriety = just not drinking.
...and welcome to the club!!
One of the things I didn't like hearing but came to understand as the truth was that when I drank.....when I got drunk.....ALL of me got drunk.
I was physically drunk, mentally drunk and spiritually drunk.
Stopping....and getting some dry time in sobers up the physical me.....but I'm still 2/3's drunk.
Congrats on the awesome start...but don't rest on your laurels and fall victim to the delusion that sobriety = just not drinking.
...and welcome to the club!!
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Join Date: Aug 2010
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Congrats Spence,This is my 3rd try at this I'm thankful for SR cause on days I don't have a meeting or can't get to one I come in here there's lots of people here who care no matter what time it is.I've learned that I have to keep working on recovery or I'll fall back into drinking it happens so fast too. This place helps me stay focused on staying sober. I wish you the very best.
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"but don't rest on your laurels and fall victim to the delusion that sobriety = just not drinking."
^^^GREAT advice - something my father would def stress as well!!!
thanks folks - day 2, and working on breating and ACCEPTING today
^^^GREAT advice - something my father would def stress as well!!!
thanks folks - day 2, and working on breating and ACCEPTING today
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Welcome Spence, only on day 15 myself with lots of ups and downs but defo more ups. This is the advice given to me 'BE KIND' to yourself over the next few days and do keep in touch, we are always here
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