loubylou

hi i keep messing up n going bk to drink in stressful times i make out am ok that am not going too far with it but i am i swore i wouldnthavedrink in house and i have again i need to stop completely n finding it hard so thought i would try this site for support feeling really hungover n sad i lost my friendto alcohol yesterday she was 34 i actually went in n nsw her dead my heads allover the place

Dee74

Hi loubylou

Welcome - I'm sorry for your loss, but I know you'll find a lot of support here

Have you thought of real life support as well - have you seen your Dr, or thought about counselling or a recovery group like AA?

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Anna

Hi and Welcome,

I'm very sorry for your loss.

There is lots of support here, so I hope you keep reading and posting.

LaFemme

So sorry about your friend. I can't imagine how awful that must be for you and her family. I don't know what your beliefs are, but ihope and believe she is at peace now.

The best thing you can do now is get help. Real help. Quitting on your own is possible but only rarely. The best way to get help is with a program. There are many options out there the most popular being AA.

Tall to your Doctor, read and post on SR and have hope.

Hugs, Tina

least

Welcome to SR! I'd suggest seeing your doctor for help in quitting. I hope you can find the support you need to stop drinking. Your life will be so much better without it.

CarolD

Sorry to know your friend died so young...how tragic


Welcome

loubylou

i tried aa here in uk maybe i should try that again my heads allover i did 3mth sober n the first sign of stress ni was out again drinking to excess but i thought i had a handle onit it was a one off it isnt easy n i dont think i can do it alone i tried n failed miserably

LaFemme

The one thing I learned really fast when I finally quit for good was that I needed to change more than just my drinking. I needed to change the way I approached life and handled stress. That is where support groups come in really helpful. For most people a face to face group is best...but posting and reading on SR isn't a bad alternative...especially while you figure out a plan.

artsoul

We've all tried and failed, so don't feel alone. Personally, all those "tries" to quit led me to realize I was an alcoholic. It was a relief to come to terms with it finally.

Take it one day at a time. You can get through the next 24 hours sober, so don't look ahead to what's going to happen tomorrow. I'm sure your friend would have done differently if she could have - that's the tragedy of addiction. But you can take your life back, so give yourself another chance at it. Sending prayers and hugs for you and everyone who cared about your friend....

Kmber2010

Glad you are with us sharing Lou. I am sorry for your loss.

You have our support and know that you can do this. Its baby steps my friends and it begins with the desire to quit and willingness to take the positive journey.

All the best.

ozgoddess

Hi Loubylou,

Well done on reaching out for help. I too am sorry for your loss.

One thing you will learn is that life's stresses are there regardless if you drink or not. I have found it is much better to deal with these stresses with a clear head. As time has gone on, and the anxiety has disappeared, I have come to realise that things are not as bad as I thought.

Be strong, and get the help you deserve.