aasharon90

Hi Im sharon and Im an
Alcoholic.

By the Grace of my HP
and people like you here
in SR I havent found it
necessary to pick up a
drink of alcohol since
8-11-90.

For that and you I am
truely grateful.


For me, alcohol was my
drug of choice. Was too
nieve back in the day
about drugs.

Just because I can't drink
alcohol like a normal
person doesn't mean I'm
dead, boring, miserable,
contagious.

I'm a human being.

I have feeling. I care. Im
concerned. I appreciate.
I admire. Im healthy. Im
cute ....Well...
I think I am...lol
Im clean, happy,
energetic....

and so on.....

I'm sure each of you
have many fine qualities
within urself. And u
know it. See it...feel it.

So why do people who
sit next to us think we're
contagious? Walk by us
like were wearing a sign
that says "stay away"

People that do know us
keep their because they
are scared or afraid of us.

I wouldn't harm a hair on
ur head. I would be kind
to u if you gave me a chance.

Im a human being just like
you....so what's the problem?

Arn't you suppose to treat
others the way you would
want them to treat you?

I do in many cases and yet
I am still treated like cr@p.

Evon

Thank you so much, this is definitely something I needed to read. I feel that way about people sometimes, because it's as though they just don't understand. My true friends do, but I'm talking about the ones who are totally oblivious to what an alcohol problem really is and how it has changed your life for the worst. The ones that think you're weak because you can't control your problem. However, I can just put them in the naive box and either hope that they get a clue or let them stay there, because I've got to focus on me and not what others perceive me as those same things you said ,dead, boring,miserable etc. Thank you again for sharing this and congrats on your many years sober

bellakeller

Here are some things I've been learning in recovery.

1. Life is not always fair
Some serious wrongs cry out to be righted but many more are best dealt with by moving on and not getting ensnared in a negative energy cycle.

2. People are not loving and loyal all the time
We are social, gregarious creatures. We depend on each other. But people are human and inevitably let us down. Our work as healthy adults is to feel this fear of betrayal and abandonment and deal with it, embrace it, learn from it, grow beyond it, NOT run from the fear. Running only strengthens fear.

These concepts are taken from the book Five Things You Cannot Change by David Richo. I am not here to tout this book, I've just found some of the ideas helpful and wanted to share it in this thread.

Brucel

Thanks Sharron, I do feel that way sometimes too. Sometimes I'm not sure when to filter my AA life from my regular one. They are both in the same. The problem comes up, when I talk about spiritual things to people who might not agree or might not try and live that way. See, I have to, same as you. Most of them dont. Then there's the religious people who do try and live that way, spiritual, but they lack the same humor and compassion for life. It's wierd. Maybe that was one of the reasons I drank in the first place. The thing I know, sure as the nose on my face, I'm not alone in this struggle. I got you and the rest of my peeps in AA and that's just fine with me.

least

I heard a saying many years ago that still rings true for me. "Expecting the world to treat you fairly 'cause you're a good person is like expecting the bull not to attack you 'cause you are vegetarian."

So yes, you can be the nicest person in the world and still get treated like poop. The important thing is to be nice anyway.

aasharon90

I love all my SR PEEPS, too...!