Stupid...but was there a choice?
Congrats on your sobriety. From your second post, it sounds like the urge has lessened. I hope you are feeling better.
I can relate to feeling like a kid hiding. I hid my drinking from my husband so I often felt that way. And unfortunately, him leaving town is a trigger for me too. I have to plan what to do when he is away.
I can relate to feeling like a kid hiding. I hid my drinking from my husband so I often felt that way. And unfortunately, him leaving town is a trigger for me too. I have to plan what to do when he is away.
Restless irritable and discontent unless some substance can make me feel better.
My lungs hurt so bad I can barely breathe...what a stupid. But it is better than having a hangover and going through all that again. Think I will just keep this little "secret" between you guys and me. eh?
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Hehe no problem
Hey loves to travel!
You might check out the website XA-speakers. There is a well known speaker called Clancy who got drunk the first couple-three times he was approaching his first year anniversary.
Now he is sober for many years, he is a great speaker and hilarious actually.
There can be a lot of doubt and nervousness around the first year.
You might check out the website XA-speakers. There is a well known speaker called Clancy who got drunk the first couple-three times he was approaching his first year anniversary.
Now he is sober for many years, he is a great speaker and hilarious actually.
There can be a lot of doubt and nervousness around the first year.
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That just isn't what is offered by sobriety as I know it. Freedom from those obsessive thoughts is entirely possible and realistic. It requires more than just not drinking, but that is the hopeful goal that real recovery offers.
Not this fear-based, looking over my shoulder for that next drink to sneak up on me thing. Real freedom, to go where I want and do what I want, feeling content and peaceful regardless of my life circumstances.
Don't sell yourself short in what recovery can mean.
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By whom? Occasionally, I will have the thought that I might not be an alcoholic, that perhaps I could drink on occasion. .. but then I think about how it was at the end. If even one drink started me on that path again, I really don't want it. I don't want to have to control my drinking. If I drink, I want to be able to drink. But that's no good. Not if it starts to control me again.
Whether I am an alcoholic or not, whether I could control it or not, I don't want to find out. It isn't worth it to me. I feel much healthier and overall happier not drinking than I ever did drinking.
No thanks!
Keep your head up. You can get through it!
Whether I am an alcoholic or not, whether I could control it or not, I don't want to find out. It isn't worth it to me. I feel much healthier and overall happier not drinking than I ever did drinking.
No thanks!
Keep your head up. You can get through it!
A few weeks before I started recovery, I was told to control it. I took the advice, stop after you start feeling good, and for the first few times, I did just that. Then it was only a matter of time before i lost control. I then started going to counseling and my counselor recommended me to a day group and that was when I was told that drinking has made my life unmanageable, which it sure has. We wrote on note cards the other day about triggers that make you want to drink, such as boredom,loneliness, being angry, feeling low and depressed and wrote on the back what positive coping skills we could use to combat those feelings,such as writing, exercise, going to a meeting, taking a hot bath,reading a book etc. We were also advised to take home the triggers that affected us the most, and turn the card over whenever we felt like that and use the suggestions to combat the triggers. It sounds like a pretty good solution to me.
I'm glad that you decided not to drink
I'm glad that you decided not to drink
Thanks all. I had a few cigarettes and I am glad that I did that instead of drinking. I feel terrible and smell terrible and my lungs hurt....what a stupid. Anyway is it better than kicking myself for drinking. I really am a non-smoker and a non-drinker. Yes I remember how bad it was and I certainly don't want to go back there! I don't see a problem with making it for the year. And this cigarettes just gotta go. I can't understand how I "liked smoking"? Yuck!
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That's how I feel as well, I'm not willing to risk discovering that I can not control it it's not worth it.
Lots of triggers here. Husband gone away! I remember when my wife went travelling. Driving back from the airport I felt high as a kite even though I hadn't started to drink. My brain was just saying, "Hey! It's party time again!". Went to a meeting and somehow got things under control.
"Someone" suggested you might start drinking "moderately". Bet it wasn't a doctor or an alcoholics counselor. Maybe a friend who was looking for a drinking buddy? Yes, after seven years of sobriety I figured I might try a glass of wine "occasionally." It seemed to "work" O.K. for awhile but soon I was back on the slippery slope. Thirteen years and three hospitalizations later I finally quit and it's been 22 years of sobriety now. No more "moderate" drinking for me! I remember the AA folks calling this "doing research". I was a "researcher" for 13 years. So much "research" that I should have received the Nobel Prize but I guess they don't hand out a Nobel for booze.
Interesting things to ask that brain that's playing tricks on you...Hey brain, what kind of "pleasure" do you think I'd get from "just one" drink? (Been there, done that!) And brain, do you remember what withdrawal was like? Do you think one drink's worth going back to square one and doing all that. A very very high price for one drink!
As for the cigarettes, well eventually they too will kill you. Which is your death of choice? Liver failure or lung cancer? I had a pal up in New Hampshire who couldn't kick the cigarette habit. I was there when he collapsed and eventually died. He said, "Call 411!" I reminded him that 411 was "Information". I called 911 and they took him away. I went to his funeral a little later on. I miss him dearly.
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"Someone" suggested you might start drinking "moderately". Bet it wasn't a doctor or an alcoholics counselor. Maybe a friend who was looking for a drinking buddy? Yes, after seven years of sobriety I figured I might try a glass of wine "occasionally." It seemed to "work" O.K. for awhile but soon I was back on the slippery slope. Thirteen years and three hospitalizations later I finally quit and it's been 22 years of sobriety now. No more "moderate" drinking for me! I remember the AA folks calling this "doing research". I was a "researcher" for 13 years. So much "research" that I should have received the Nobel Prize but I guess they don't hand out a Nobel for booze.
Interesting things to ask that brain that's playing tricks on you...Hey brain, what kind of "pleasure" do you think I'd get from "just one" drink? (Been there, done that!) And brain, do you remember what withdrawal was like? Do you think one drink's worth going back to square one and doing all that. A very very high price for one drink!
As for the cigarettes, well eventually they too will kill you. Which is your death of choice? Liver failure or lung cancer? I had a pal up in New Hampshire who couldn't kick the cigarette habit. I was there when he collapsed and eventually died. He said, "Call 411!" I reminded him that 411 was "Information". I called 911 and they took him away. I went to his funeral a little later on. I miss him dearly.
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LTT - I'm very happy you came here to talk it out. Everyone has you covered already, so I'll add one thing. When I had those thoughts after three years I went ahead and bought the liquor. The first night I was ok with it, just had a few. The second night I drank everything in sight and there was no control. I didn't get sober again until finding SR 7 years later. Yes, 7 years. Just because I talked myself into thinking I could use willpower to control it.
You are doing great, and we are very proud of you. Sending love your way.
You are doing great, and we are very proud of you. Sending love your way.
..Mike
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