Dealing with alcohol in the house
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I remember talking and talking and getting no change. It was when I began to act on the things I knew must happen.....that is when I got free and began to finally live.
Wishing you well DV. You can do this but you need to make the change my friend.
I encourage you to get face to face support.
Wishing you well DV. You can do this but you need to make the change my friend.
I encourage you to get face to face support.
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DV she made this mess, not you. That means she needs to sleep her a** on the couch. Good for you for sticking to your guns.
As far as the slip, it coulda happened to any one of us FORCED into that situation.
You are dearly missed in chat!!
As far as the slip, it coulda happened to any one of us FORCED into that situation.
You are dearly missed in chat!!
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Join Date: Jul 2010
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Hey buddy,
sorry about the couch! But you are doing the right thing for YOU right now. I hope you are feeling all the love we have for you here! Stay strong, you will get through all of this.
a
sorry about the couch! But you are doing the right thing for YOU right now. I hope you are feeling all the love we have for you here! Stay strong, you will get through all of this.
a
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Hang in there, DV. It probably wouldn't be polite for me to admit that I'm giving your GF the middle finger right now...I'm so sorry you're going through all this. My situation isn't exactly like yours but there are some similarities...check your pms.
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DV, the slip is over. I think you did great because it was only Friday night. You handled this like a heavy-weight champion of something or other.
I hope the girlfriend is not coming back from her friend's (unless you want her to, of course).
But . . . if she does come back, perhaps you could meet her at the door wearing one of those gorilla costumes? Say, "Ready for some real fun and games?" That should make her run screaming.
(Lildawg wants to drive around town in a gorilla costume, but Mr. Lildawg said he wouldn't get her out of jail.)
I hope the girlfriend is not coming back from her friend's (unless you want her to, of course).
But . . . if she does come back, perhaps you could meet her at the door wearing one of those gorilla costumes? Say, "Ready for some real fun and games?" That should make her run screaming.
(Lildawg wants to drive around town in a gorilla costume, but Mr. Lildawg said he wouldn't get her out of jail.)
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what bothered me most when you started this thread is that your GF seemed to plan this weekend party at your house surrounding your with booze.....this comes across like a deliberate attempt to draw you back into drinking....as you said, you "couldn't help yourself"....that is not an act of love and caring...an analogy would be if you had lung cancer she's running out to charge a carton of cigarettes on your credit card.
if you want to dig deeper, it also looks like an act to control your behavior....and when we are newly newly sober (not that i have so much experience)...we have more fragile behavior anyway, our brains are re-charging, our sleep patterns are wacky and physically you are just rebounding....you may have extra tiredness, physical aches, etc.
THIS is the time when you need your "loved ones" to be the most compassionate and kind.
whatever you decide, i hope you feel better.
if you want to dig deeper, it also looks like an act to control your behavior....and when we are newly newly sober (not that i have so much experience)...we have more fragile behavior anyway, our brains are re-charging, our sleep patterns are wacky and physically you are just rebounding....you may have extra tiredness, physical aches, etc.
THIS is the time when you need your "loved ones" to be the most compassionate and kind.
whatever you decide, i hope you feel better.
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Originally Posted by DrivingVacation 
Who cares lol
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Hey DV,
I also thought it looked like a deliberate attempt to keep you "partying" and paying for the party too, cheeky mare!
When we are trying to get clean and sober we need support and understanding from those who live with us. If you're not getting this and have spoken to her about what you need, then yes maybe it is time to say GTFO.
As far as pms goes.....lmao.....take care big fella.
Annette
I also thought it looked like a deliberate attempt to keep you "partying" and paying for the party too, cheeky mare!
When we are trying to get clean and sober we need support and understanding from those who live with us. If you're not getting this and have spoken to her about what you need, then yes maybe it is time to say GTFO.
As far as pms goes.....lmao.....take care big fella.
Annette
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