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xuse
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Join Date: Jul 2010
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new again
ive been here before thought i was fine like so many people do i started again after three months two months ago i am 33 year old husband father who has been drinking since about 18 or 19 i drink mostly on weekends beer but a couple always end at 12 or more and always say last time and feel guilty but always start back
I hope we can help you stay sober. This site has helped me so much. I hope we can be as much help to you.
Being Me for the first time
Join Date: Jul 2008
Location: Wishek, North Dakota
Posts: 1,160
welcome Xuse..
Leaning from your mistakes is a good first step , but what are you willing to do to change that bad habit ?
Theres so much more to weekends , and it dont include drinkin .
Hows bout trying a program of your choice there are many to choose from . It cant hurt and can definatly help you get and stay sober .. good luck and keep commin back and posting ~ huggles Endzy ~
Leaning from your mistakes is a good first step , but what are you willing to do to change that bad habit ?
Theres so much more to weekends , and it dont include drinkin .
Hows bout trying a program of your choice there are many to choose from . It cant hurt and can definatly help you get and stay sober .. good luck and keep commin back and posting ~ huggles Endzy ~
A work in progress
Join Date: Jul 2010
Location: South Jersey
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There isn't any "shame" in drinking when you are addicted. That's the nature of addiction--it keeps you on the hamster wheel even when you can see it's bad for you.
The real question is, are you DONE drinking? In my experience, you don't have to lose everything, but you do have to hit the point where you are willing to do what needs to be done in order to quit. As long as you want to keep experimenting with it, holding out some hope or belief that if you turn it around in just the right way you can continue to drink, you probably won't stay sober for long.
I struggled with attempting to moderate my drinking for four and a half years before I concluded I was DONE with it. It takes what it takes for each of us.
The real question is, are you DONE drinking? In my experience, you don't have to lose everything, but you do have to hit the point where you are willing to do what needs to be done in order to quit. As long as you want to keep experimenting with it, holding out some hope or belief that if you turn it around in just the right way you can continue to drink, you probably won't stay sober for long.
I struggled with attempting to moderate my drinking for four and a half years before I concluded I was DONE with it. It takes what it takes for each of us.
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Join Date: Jul 2010
Location: the high desert
Posts: 887
Shame is a part of the addiction's hold on us -- it shames us into thinking we are bad people, which allows us to drink again. One of the old timers at one of my meetings likes to remind us that shame is thinking "I am a mistake," whereas guilt is "I made a mistake." Don't beat yourself up. Congratulate yourself for taking the first step, even if it is "again."
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Join Date: May 2010
Location: chico, ca
Posts: 321
Welcome back. It says that an alcoholic is someone who has lost the ability to control their drinking, and that it is progressive and fatal. If you have what I have then I would suggest some support. SR is great, but you dont have the one on one contact, face to face. I have stayed sober with AA and this forum and there are other options. I know, for me, that if I try to stay abstinent on my own, all I have is MY opinion and that's rough. I hope you keep comin back. God Bless, Bruce
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