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Old 07-02-2010, 05:12 PM
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Hi Almay-

I am sorry that you are having a hard time. When I feel this way, I try to surround myself with other people who have been successful at getting through this thing.

For me, that is AA but for others there are other very successful programs of recovery.

Is there another alcoholic (a recovering alcoholic, not an active one) you can call? I find that during these times, the only one who understands me is another alcoholic.

Hang in there. It sucks now, but it does get better.
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Old 07-03-2010, 01:05 AM
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Morning Almay its a beautiful bright day in SA, i hope you were able to find some comfort and stayed strong? Your body just needs to heal, im sure all this is heavy on your body as you were a heavy drinker for so long, give it time, do something that is your passion and try to keep focused, step by step u will do this, I KNOW YOU CAN! Praying for you. Hugs xxxx
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Old 07-03-2010, 01:18 AM
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Originally Posted by MelindaFlowers View Post

There is a certain time of day, each day, when I feel like someone is scratching a cheese grater down my face. That's how much I want to drink.
Bwwwaha...Melinda, you crack me up with your metaphors! I love that one.

Almay, it will pass! Our minds take some time to adjust. Your body will eventually resume itself. Try to think how hard it is working to heal from the toxins of alcohol. Give yourself permission to be irritable. It especially helps if you can call someone and have them just listen to your irritability without judging.
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Old 07-03-2010, 02:15 AM
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How are you doing Almay ?

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Old 07-03-2010, 12:53 PM
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''For who is GOD besides the LORD? and who is the Rock except our GOD?'' 2 Sam. 22 v 32 - Don't under estimate the power and love of GOD. - The only true and effective remedy is to be found in the encompassing love and tender care that JESUS gives to all who turn to HIM. - Complete healing flows from an absolute and unconditional trust and surrender to the Living CHRIST. - It doesn't matter what the problem is, the only lasting solution is to be found in the unfathomable love which GOD, through JESUS bestowed upon mankind.
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Old 07-03-2010, 09:55 PM
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I just read through this whole thread. I'm here. we are all here to support you. If the withdrawls get to the point where you can't take it anymore, go to the doctor. There are other worst-case options than drinking. Going ot the doctor if you need to is one of them.

I promise you that you will feel better. Just trust the process and trust that everyone in this thread has been through something similar. For some it takes longer.

This is my day 20. I finally have energy again, and it feels wonderful. I'm sure you can't wait to feel good. Your day is comming. Until then, we're here!!!
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Old 07-03-2010, 11:26 PM
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Originally Posted by anvilhead View Post
there's a saying, don't give up ten minutes before the miracle. yes you are having a rough time RIGHT NOW....your body is attempting to heal from years of abuse - believe it or not feeling lousy right now is a good thing....it means you are detoxing all that crap out of your system!!!! IF you hang tough and don't drink, this too shall pass and you NEVER have to feel like this EVER again. once and done. do all you can to be kind and gentle with yourself, just as you would if you were getting over a bad flu....lots of healthy fluids....water, juice, tea....lots of rest....warm shower or baths......some ibuprofen maybe....vitamins, FOOD. if i was there i'd fluff your pillow and tuck you in a nice cozy blankie!!!!
Wow. This was an awesome post Anvil.

I'm thinking of printing this one out and sticking it on my fridge.

How are you doing Almay?
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Old 07-04-2010, 04:48 AM
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Good morning my dear Almay.

Listen, don't you give up now, you've come this far and you can do it. It took you a long time to get to the way you are now, so things are not going to be 'normal' overnight you know. You're body has some adjusting to do. I thing keeping your self busy, busy, busy helps. I've been suffering from bad constipation too (sorry everyone, a bit too much info, I know) despite eating more fruit than anyone I know, and drinking gallons of water.

I do think though, that it would be a good idea for you to go and see your G.P and tell him how you feel. It's hard I know, but I think you will be surprised at how understanding he will be and all Doctor's love it when You ask them for help!

Don't give up now, share with your H how bad you feel and let him support you.

I'll p.m you later as have to go now.

Lots of love

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Old 07-04-2010, 06:03 AM
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Almay, I keep my sobriety for 15 months so far. I had a craving yesterday. I drank coca cola a lot and survived. Today I am very happy and no craving at all. Craving does not last long. Just be patient!
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Old 07-04-2010, 10:05 AM
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Have you read about PAWS? It is what happens to our brains when we take the alcohol away. I made it to Day 11 a few months ago, then to Day 8, Day 4 messes me up. Hang in there, you are feeling normal things.
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Old 07-04-2010, 04:31 PM
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Have you read about PAWS? It is what happens to our brains when we take the alcohol away. I made it to Day 11 a few months ago, then to Day 8, Day 4 messes me up. Hang in there, you are feeling normal things.
PAWS = Post Acute Withdrawal Syndrome - it's what happens to you after you get over the initial primarily physical withdrawal from alcohol or drugs. Terence Gorski is one of the experts on this subject. See attached link for excerpts from him about PAWS.

Post Acute Withdrawl - Relapse Prevention Specialists - TLC The Living Center

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Old 07-04-2010, 05:22 PM
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I am struggling because all I want to do is feel normal again. I was drinking so much for so long I am not sure I can even remember what normal is. My eyes are so dull I feel depressed every time I look in the mirrior and see what i have done to myself. Does this ever go? When I was drinking I didnt care. But now I do care and want to get better. Just praying I can get through the weekend without picking up a drink.
I never thought I'd ever sleep again for longer than three hours max. for more then eight years getting drunk every night and it took me a torturous four weeks but I say grace now because I do sleep. I still look like crap and I know I've got a long way to go but I'll be damned if I go back to not sleeping again. Trust me, when I first stopped drinking I was the one writing here about the agony but they are right; It does get better.

Keep it, up be gentle on yourself and i.t. w.i.l.l. g.e.t. b.e.t.t.e.r.
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Old 07-05-2010, 02:16 AM
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Morning All - thank-you so much for your messages. I am on day 11 without a drink and feel ok. I am very tired and not making very good food choices (too much choc) but am going to start eating healthly today and have loads of fruit and water to hand. Had cravings over the weekend but just concentrated on not drinking until i was practiaclly screaming at myself not to drink. Despite feeling like I was going crazy, it worked and i did not drink!. I still look quite bloated and my eyes are still dull :-(. This is the key thing for me as when this starts to go, it means this evil poison is finally starting to leave my body.
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Old 07-05-2010, 04:07 AM
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It is so wonderful Almay, 11 days! Yes soon you will feel all the good and positive results of your hard work, keep it up, remember beauty comes from within!
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Old 07-05-2010, 09:26 AM
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Way to go Almay!! I knew you could do it! I am so happy to hear it. Day 10 for me and I am hanging in there with you!

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Old 07-05-2010, 09:49 AM
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Thats great news Melissa - I hope you feel better then me :-). Or at the very least not quite as tired. Congrats I know how hard it is to get to where we are, let alone the people on here who have been 6 months sober +. Hope thats us one day.x
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Old 07-05-2010, 05:25 PM
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Hi Amay, sorry not p.m'd you yet. Didn't forget, just ended up having a hectic time as my baby grand daugher broke her arm yesterday, she's only one!!

Anyway I've been thinking about how tired you are feeling etc. I have been advised that a bottle of wine is equivelent to eating six sugary doughnuts, so a bottle and a half or so each night over a long period, is some sugar intake. You could be feeling so tired because your sugar intake has reduced dramatically! Treat yourself to a bar of chocolate or something ( not six doughnuts) each day, you can afford it with your figure, I've seen your pics and you have a body to die for!!

I'm finishing work early tomorrow, so I'll p.m you when I get home.

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Old 07-05-2010, 05:29 PM
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Oh and it's past midnight now, so you'r 12 days now, just two off a fortnight!
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Old 07-05-2010, 07:43 PM
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Glad to hear you made it Almay! Woohoo! Every time you make it through a tough time or craving without giving in, your sobriety gets stronger.
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Old 07-05-2010, 11:10 PM
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Morning Almay, hope you are well, been thinking of you. Keeping you in my prayers. Have a wonderful day, you have been doing a great job, keep it up. Hugs xxx
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