Emptied out all the beer
Wandering Student of Life
Join Date: Apr 2010
Location: MSP MN
Posts: 126
Good for you backtender! When you're sleepless, just hop online here and see if there's anyone online to chat with. Or go exploring the endless list of google results when you do a search for something like "sober recovery" or "alcoholism support".
My support to you!
WW
My support to you!
WW
Member
Join Date: Dec 2009
Location: Buzz-free Zone
Posts: 1,372
Hey, Backtender!
I'm with Dee on this one; loneliness and boredom are choices, not requirements, for sobriety.
My life isn't boring, it's predictable and that is so okay with me 'cause I've had enough drama-rama to last me a lifetime.
Like anything, learning to live in recovery takes time and patience and the desire to want to make a change. It's so much more than just putting down the bottle.
Just staying sober, to me, is a life of anxiety, frustration, impatience and yep, boredom; trying to keep yourself so pre-occupied doing nothing and everything just to pass the time away to be able to say, "I didn't drink today."
That kind of life and living in recovery are worlds apart in meaning.
Take the time to learn about living in recovery and prepare to be amazed.
I was and wouldn't have it any other way.
I'm with Dee on this one; loneliness and boredom are choices, not requirements, for sobriety.
My life isn't boring, it's predictable and that is so okay with me 'cause I've had enough drama-rama to last me a lifetime.
Like anything, learning to live in recovery takes time and patience and the desire to want to make a change. It's so much more than just putting down the bottle.
Just staying sober, to me, is a life of anxiety, frustration, impatience and yep, boredom; trying to keep yourself so pre-occupied doing nothing and everything just to pass the time away to be able to say, "I didn't drink today."
That kind of life and living in recovery are worlds apart in meaning.
Take the time to learn about living in recovery and prepare to be amazed.
I was and wouldn't have it any other way.
Member
Join Date: Nov 2006
Posts: 1,237
Dear backtender 
I felt like you did too in the first days/weeks of sobriety...but I can honestly tell you, it does get better!! You can fill your life with positive things!! things that alcohol could never ever give you!!
Welcome to SR! and all the best!!!
I felt like you did too in the first days/weeks of sobriety...but I can honestly tell you, it does get better!! You can fill your life with positive things!! things that alcohol could never ever give you!! Welcome to SR! and all the best!!!
SR Fan
Join Date: Apr 2010
Location: Mississippi
Posts: 7,910
Hi backtender - We're all here rooting for you! Be good to yourself, enjoy waking up without a hangover, and don't drink just for today. Things will get better and you'll discover that boredom and loneliness are just temporary moods while we learn (practice) how to reenter the real world.
Take it one hour at a time if you have to, find something positive today, and be proud of yourself for doing this!
Take it one hour at a time if you have to, find something positive today, and be proud of yourself for doing this!
Member
Join Date: Jul 2008
Location: Los Angeles, California
Posts: 8,326
Good job on dumping the beer! I can't add much to what the others have said but for me, I am much happier over all in sobriety.
As far as the loneliness and boredom go, get out and see some new stuff. Check out what's going on at your local community college or museums. There are many activities that might be of interest to you that are free or low cost.
You might check out the YMCA too for some swimming or exercise classes.
Love,
Lenina
As far as the loneliness and boredom go, get out and see some new stuff. Check out what's going on at your local community college or museums. There are many activities that might be of interest to you that are free or low cost.
You might check out the YMCA too for some swimming or exercise classes.
Love,
Lenina
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Join Date: Jan 2010
Location: Germany
Posts: 2,058
Backtender - GOOD FOR YOU!!!! The boredom sets in from us not finding new ways to handle our newfound sobriety. I know when I first quit.....well I was really sick after the last bender so that was enough to keep me sober for a lifetime....but....I would sit idle in the evenings trying to figure out what to do. My mind was racing.
I spent much time on SR, reading books and researching new activities I wanted to try. Sometimes it was as simple as taking my dog for a walk and just taking everything in around me. For so many years, my brain was always thinking alcohol regardless of what I did. If I were on a trip then it was thinking - when are we going to get dinner so I can drink. At home it would be....when will this person leave so I can drink. Even at work I thought - do I need to pick up booze before I go home? is there enough to last me this weekend?
I tossed the bottle and have taken all that freetime and applied it to productive things. You can do this friend~~ Stay strong
I spent much time on SR, reading books and researching new activities I wanted to try. Sometimes it was as simple as taking my dog for a walk and just taking everything in around me. For so many years, my brain was always thinking alcohol regardless of what I did. If I were on a trip then it was thinking - when are we going to get dinner so I can drink. At home it would be....when will this person leave so I can drink. Even at work I thought - do I need to pick up booze before I go home? is there enough to last me this weekend?
I tossed the bottle and have taken all that freetime and applied it to productive things. You can do this friend~~ Stay strong
bona fido dog-lover
Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: SF Bay area, CA
Posts: 99,780
My life isn't boring, it's predictable and that is so okay with me 'cause I've had enough drama-rama to last me a lifetime.
Now I handle being bored as my 'down time', time to take it easy, take a nap, do something different. Yes, I'm bored a lot but drinking will only make it worse.Hang in there. Find yourself a new hobby. Clean your house top to bottom. Join a club or group and make new friends. Do anything but drink. It WILL get better.
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