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traderjane 06-11-2010 10:32 AM

Welcome AddingItUp, Almay and LittleChicklet! Hope I didn't miss anyone! Lots of newcomers lately, which is awesome!!!

I am actually literally (almost) out the door for my yoga retreat... just have to pack (minor detail....ha ha) then I'm on the road.

To those struggling, just try to focus on today -- not the whole weekend! That's when I start messing with my mind, when I start thinking too far ahead.

Happy Friday Junebugs. Catch you later!!!

Laura

sleepie 06-11-2010 10:47 AM

Can I rejoin tomorrow? I fell off the wagon yesterday and today.... sorry.

TwelveSteps 06-11-2010 11:35 AM

Hey Sleepie, don't be sorry, just start over again today. JUST FOR TODAY, you can do it. Tomorrow, if you want to drink, that's a different story. Just try to stay sober for today.

LittleChicklet, I can relate about getting some sobriety and falling off. I had 60 days sober and drank again after a big argument with my significant other. Just keep coming back, keep trying and you will get there.

Anyway I'm just posting to say hi. Working on Day 6 after my relapse. I'm excited for the weekend -- for me the triggers aren't actually being out with friends, I'm happy to be seeing the people I love and catching up with them, even if I'm drinking and they're not. For me it's the nights at home alone when the liquor store calls to me... funny how we are all different.

Happy Friday, everyone. Hang in there this weekend. I'm off to my lunchtime AA meeting. :)

GG

TwelveSteps 06-11-2010 11:36 AM

sorry I obviously meant "even if they're drinking and I'm not" :)

soap 06-11-2010 12:11 PM


Originally Posted by MelindaFlowers (Post 2622458)
Hey June Group,

I was thinking that maybe we could bounce some around some ideas/habits/helpers that we find work to curb the cravings/urge to drink. I'll share a few things that are helping me.

1. Drinking regular soda. The kind with sugar. CocaCola classic and Dr. Pepper have been my beverage of choice. Soda has majorly curbed my cravings. Even if you like diet, but you're still having sugar cravings, give regular a shot. I eat candy too but I find that drinking sugary liquid helps to satisfy more than just the sugar. Or juice too of course but I like the fizziness.

2. Lifesaver "Pep-O-Mints." I have bowls of them all around my house.

3. Let yourself indulge a bit more in food. This has been a big one for me. Just knowing that I am consuming 1000 less calories a day in alcohol takes away my guilt from eating a piece of cake or pizza.

I think these are all out of the "textbook" but these have been my best three tools to curb the cravings.

drinking a coke does help me sometimes. i can get so low sometimes when going through withdrawals where i have difficulty thinking straight. a coke gives me a little kick that can really help. but i really want to stop this habit sometime in the future as coke is not the healthiest of things and it gives me a high that can sometimes causes a comedown.

exercise, going outdoors and getting natural vitamin d, and eating healthy can really subdue some of the withdrawal feelings. i can really feel the effect of these things and curse myself for not doing them as much when drinking.

and finally a hot shower really helps me sometimes. i will take a 20 to 30 minutes shower and sweat out some toxins. if i have the urge to drink a long shower will get me through it. it is kind of a waste of water but i live in the pacific northwest and my sobriety is that important.

day 10 for me :)

soap 06-11-2010 12:31 PM


Originally Posted by sleepie (Post 2622811)
Can I rejoin tomorrow? I fell off the wagon yesterday and today.... sorry.

it's ok sleepie. i'm guessing it has happened to everyone or we wouldn't be here. get back on board the june train and realize what you want to do with your life.

shelly009 06-11-2010 01:12 PM

Hey Sleepie.. wagon has pulled off to the side and there are a whole bunch of us with our hands out to help you back up. C'mon and get back on.. theres a seat right beside me :)

MelindaFlowers 06-11-2010 01:51 PM


Originally Posted by soap (Post 2622885)
drinking a coke does help me sometimes. i can get so low sometimes when going through withdrawals where i have difficulty thinking straight. a coke gives me a little kick that can really help. but i really want to stop this habit sometime in the future as coke is not the healthiest of things and it gives me a high that can sometimes causes a comedown.

exercise, going outdoors and getting natural vitamin d, and eating healthy can really subdue some of the withdrawal feelings. i can really feel the effect of these things and curse myself for not doing them as much when drinking.

and finally a hot shower really helps me sometimes. i will take a 20 to 30 minutes shower and sweat out some toxins. if i have the urge to drink a long shower will get me through it. it is kind of a waste of water but i live in the pacific northwest and my sobriety is that important.

day 10 for me :)


Hey Soap and the June Group!

Thanks for the extra tips/helpers. I'm thinking of writing these all down and posting it on my fridge. You're right, cocacola is not very healthy and certainly not a good habit. For me (who has always been subconscious about my weight) and not a big soda drinker before, this is my mantra, my sobriety chant:::::;

I would sooner drink 19 cokes in one day than one cocktail. Or a family size pizza, or an entire cheesecake. I'd rather pour and entire bag of brown sugar into my mouth. I'd rather gain 30 lbs in my first two weeks than have to worry/obsess about pouring a solvent into my body.

Okay that was a bit silly, but this is what works for me. I've been in love with good my whole life so letting myself indulge in it now is a big reward for not drinking. And honestly I'm not even eating that much. I think the calories still end up being less than my old daily food + 1200 alcohol calories. I did however have a cheeseburger, fries, and a huge Dr. Pepper for lunch. :lala

They say to make sobriety your number one priority and I am. Doesn't mean it's easy but anything to make it less painful for the first week. I've read some people who start crazy diets/detoxing right when they stop drinking. I wish I had that discipline but I don't.


Day 5 today for me! Being part of this group is helping me so much.

shelly009 06-11-2010 01:53 PM


I would sooner drink 19 cokes in one day than one cocktail. Or a family size pizza, or an entire cheesecake. I'd rather pour and entire bag of brown sugar into my mouth. I'd rather gain 30 lbs in my first two weeks than have to worry/obsess about pouring a solvent into my body.
Ha haaaa I LOVE IT!!! Totally agree... and I am very weight concious!

Severian 06-11-2010 02:49 PM


Originally Posted by TwelveSteps (Post 2622844)
For me it's the nights at home alone when the liquor store calls to me.

Yup, +1

Ozgirl 06-11-2010 05:25 PM

Day 3 for me. Woke up feeling really groggy and sore, though did go for a jog yesterday so that could explain the soreness. Major withdrawal symptom I have been noticing is a restless feeling in my thighs when I lay down like my skin is crawling. I feel a bit like a newborn taking baby steps into a new world (wow that sounds really cheesy!). My skin looks better than yesterday.

lyddie 06-11-2010 06:21 PM

Made it home after work without buying wine so I am safe for today.

sleepie 06-12-2010 04:16 PM

Back on the wagon today- Thanks all, for being so supportive and understanding :)

Grace2 06-12-2010 04:40 PM

new day 1
 
Its my new day one today and the day is nearly over now. I feel a bit better for knowing I'm not the only one who fell at the wayside! Your support means the world to me.

MelindaFlowers 06-12-2010 04:46 PM

I'm glad you're back Sleepie!

LookingForMe 06-12-2010 04:49 PM

Oh, oh, pick me, pick me!!
 
LOL

GREAT IDEA....please count me in!!!

June 9...day 4 & counting :)

Dee74 06-12-2010 04:50 PM

way to go June bugs! :scoregood

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MelindaFlowers 06-12-2010 04:53 PM

Thanks Dee! Feeling great here. I never knew how much being a part of a group would help me.

AddingItUp28 06-12-2010 05:07 PM

Hey all - Just received my copy of the most recent AA book - strongly reccomend it as it is very inspiring and makes me feel not alone.

Wanted to say this as well - We've all been saying we drink to numb ourselves, but why else? For me, I drank because I earned it. I was a kid who was asked to grow up too soon, too often taking care of my siblings and sometimes parents (more parents emotions than physically taking care). I have thought that as a responsible person in other areas of my life, I get to drink to the point of inebriation. Somehow I managed to keep other areas of my life together (truly and oddly successful in most relationships). Although the compromise is that I live my life lying - pretending I am not hungover, not wondering why people won't drink faster, and not overly excited when I see a bottle of wine open. Anyway...its interesting to explore why we drink, and then to realize how those reasons don't add up. I thought having a difficult childhood meant I 'got' to poison myself both with alcohol and dishonesty, but it doesn't add up does it?

Interested in everyone else's thoughts. (Also, I work part time at a pub and had my first shift today working where I refused drinks from customers all night - my last shift is at the end of the week though - spending money isn't worth potentially messing up my so far short but sweet sobriety. )

Ozgirl 06-12-2010 05:49 PM

Hi Adding it up,

I used whatever excuse was available to drink. If I was upset, the weather was nice, it would help me to relax, to party, to help my hangover etc. Any excuse that my addiction could latch onto. Sometimes no excuse, just that I wanted to and it's what I did.

Today is day 4 for me, it's the morning here. I feel really lethargic, body still adjusting to being without it's poison. I slept in later than usual. I had my Dad and step-mother over for dinner last night. She bought a bottle of red. She was surprised when I didn't have a glass. She was the only one that did, my Dad is a recovering alcoholic and hasn't drunk in a few years and he brought some non-alcoholic beers. I had a creaming soda and my fiancee had a red cordial (in sympathy to me I think, he does like his beer). It was fine, I felt proud to not be drinking, though it probably would have been harder if everyone else was.

Hope everyone else has a great sober day!

OZboy 06-12-2010 06:00 PM

..day 4 ..4 me too!!!:grouphug:


(my 'avi' has reproduced...LOL....ozy..):lmao

lillyrose 06-12-2010 09:34 PM

Day One again for me. Gonna need all the help I can get but it's my final week of exams and its gonna be a sober one! Sorry for pulling away from the group for a while. I'm glad I still made it into the June group at least. And I'm here to stay this time! ;)

Dee74 06-12-2010 10:27 PM

I'm glad you're back on the right track lilyrose :)

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karma35 06-13-2010 06:18 AM

Hi Traderjane
how are you keeping... i'd like to be part of this group - i'm a heroin addict who is at
present getting a reducing methadone/codeine detox and am on my way to this being the last of that too so yey!!
i am looking to b opiate free by the end of this month!!! i;ve been here on and off for a while but havent joined a group before so i hope its ok ...
good luck to all of us
Karma

KC1 06-13-2010 01:32 PM

Karma35 - welcome aboard. Everyone is welcome here.

KC

traderjane 06-13-2010 04:28 PM

Hi and welcome Grace, LookingForMe and Karma! All are welcome, of course.

And Sleepie, yes, anyone is welcome to join and re-join! Look at the date I joined SR -- as long as we keep getting back up after we fall, we can do it!

LillyRose, hope you are okay!! And you, too, Severian!

I just got back from my yoga retreat. It was AMAZING. Dare I say life-changing.

We had 3 two-hour intense yoga sessions and one yoga trance dance, which was just amazing. We ate healthy organic foods all weekend and I drank nothing but water with lemon, some herbal teas and coffee (in the mornings... I'm a coffee addict :))

I cleared a lot of sh*t out of my brain and realized that I have do this even more. I came back feeling refreshed and like a new person. I made some new friends -- really interesting people. The kind of people you meet on a yoga retreat are really thoughtful, instropective and as one person put it "anyone who comes on a yoga retreat has lived several past lives." I wouldn't have traded this experience for anything. I took my journal with me and wrote down every revelation I had -- and I had many!

The weird part is that the minute I got back home and my kids came back from their Dad's house, I had a craving for a glass of white wine. One glass --- LOL, do we ever have one glass? Fortunately I was able to just observe the craving and not give into it. I had an early dinner, brewed some decaff coffee and had a dessert. Much better than "rewarding" myself with wine.

So I'm doing very well ... got through 13 days now. I'm still trying to stay with the "stay sober for one day" attitude as it's the least overwhelming way for me.

Later everyone!

Ozgirl 06-13-2010 06:34 PM

Welcome back Trader Jane, your yoga retreat sounds fantastic. Well done on not drinking. Rewarding yourself with a coffee and desert rather than wine is a great idea.

I'm on day 5 here. Am feeling really lethargic in the morning. It is a public holiday and I didn't get up until 11 (though I did get up for a couple of hours at 4.30am to watch the Australia v Germany world cup match, we got thrashed). I have no motivation to do any housework etc which is unusual for me (as I have OCD and am usually a clean freak), but figured it can wait till next weekend, hopefully ill feel more energetic then. I feel really happy though. I couldn't keep the smile of my face yesterday.

Have a great sober day everyone!

lillyrose 06-14-2010 05:48 AM

Trader that yoga retreat sounds amazing! I have a big break from university coming up, I really wanna find time to look after myself holistically like that. But in my last week of exams for this semester I am getting in to the vegetable and fruit juices.

I hope everyone in the June group is well. It's been a struggle for me so far this month. But I'm trying, I'm always gonna keep on trying. :grouphug:

dancinggirl 06-14-2010 06:20 AM

Hey all, I'm now officially a June gal. :) I'm on day three. I began here as a July '08 girl...wow, that's a long time ago...but only lasted a few months then. I seem to get "in check" and am able to be social for a period of time, but as soon as something happens in my life, I spiral. I'm at the "spiral" time now. Had a breakup that just rocked me. Anyways, I'm committed to getting healthy and smartening up. :)

TwelveSteps 06-14-2010 07:31 AM

Hey Melinda,

I just wanted to second your notion of eating whatever you like while trying to get sober. Like you, I'm a neurotic eater, and pizza or whatever was always WAY off limits to me... Not anymore. The calories from the 2 bottles of wine evry night that I'm not drinking balance it out, I figure!!

GG


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