Not always going to be easy.
Toro Solo
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Join Date: May 2010
Location: san francisco
Posts: 103
Not always going to be easy.
So I made it through the day. Spent the day with friends at a beautiful house in the woods with a pool, geese peacocks and booze... I skipped the booze but it was the first time I've had to really say no in front of my friends (this time)
"are you on the wagon?" ah, yeah sort of just not drinking..
"sure you don't want a nice cold Corona?" ah, no.. "you should really try this wine it's amazing" ah thanks but no...
came clean with my wife, told here that I don't really want to drink, that I'm over it... don't want to waste the next ten years in the same cycle...
even briefly let my friends know. Didn't make a production out of it just let the know that it's something that i don't really like in my life... hated hearing one say "oh, but your a happy drunk" cause I'm not really, I'm a sloppy drunk, and friends, like myself will forget that... to be nice or because they care..
All and all it was bearable and hopefully will get easier.
Did enjoy the 2 hour drive home, sober and not worried about getting pulled over. for sure if this was a few weeks ago I'd have made the drive drunk..
I like me better when I don't drink.
Day 8
"are you on the wagon?" ah, yeah sort of just not drinking..
"sure you don't want a nice cold Corona?" ah, no.. "you should really try this wine it's amazing" ah thanks but no...
came clean with my wife, told here that I don't really want to drink, that I'm over it... don't want to waste the next ten years in the same cycle...
even briefly let my friends know. Didn't make a production out of it just let the know that it's something that i don't really like in my life... hated hearing one say "oh, but your a happy drunk" cause I'm not really, I'm a sloppy drunk, and friends, like myself will forget that... to be nice or because they care..
All and all it was bearable and hopefully will get easier.
Did enjoy the 2 hour drive home, sober and not worried about getting pulled over. for sure if this was a few weeks ago I'd have made the drive drunk..
I like me better when I don't drink.
Day 8
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Join Date: Dec 2008
Location: moving target
Posts: 956
very inspiring- I needed that. Keep it up my Friend. I am on my second stint now, well ah,,,,18 hrs sober since last drink...and feeling it. I drank a few the last two days knowing I was going to quit this week. Maybe not a good idea but whatever, at least I am quitting. Catch you later
Dub
Dub
Laozi Old Man
Join Date: May 2008
Location: Detroit, MI
Posts: 6,665
I find the easiest way to say no to booze is to demand something a health-nut would ask for, such as, bottled water.
It not only deflects the offer but makes it look like you are adamant enough to argue till the cows come home.
It not only deflects the offer but makes it look like you are adamant enough to argue till the cows come home.
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Join Date: Nov 2006
Posts: 1,237
Good going!! 
I have friends that have done that to me as well....you can't really blame them though..they have known us to be such drinkers...and probably don't believe we have really given it up......I think it does get easier, the stronger you get in your recovery makes a difference, and how committed you are to it....I still don't really like being around people who drink...I just don't stay long......
I like me better sober too!!!
BIG HUGS!!
I have friends that have done that to me as well....you can't really blame them though..they have known us to be such drinkers...and probably don't believe we have really given it up......I think it does get easier, the stronger you get in your recovery makes a difference, and how committed you are to it....I still don't really like being around people who drink...I just don't stay long......I like me better sober too!!!
BIG HUGS!!
SR Fan
Join Date: Apr 2010
Location: Mississippi
Posts: 7,910
Congratulations on staying sober with all that temptation. When I think about being somewhere where people are drinking, I try to remember that chances are someone in the crowd may have serious consequences from it someday. Makes me want to stay sober even more, just to say "hey - you can enjoy life without it."
Best wishes on many many more sober days ahead!!!
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Join Date: Sep 2005
Location: Houston, TX
Posts: 2,126
Goodonya 'nn' !!!!
You said a couple of things that struck me, as perhaps needing repeating....(?)......
1) "...hated hearing one say, 'Oh, but you're a happy drunk' ..." (we'll forget the true, sloppy drunk for now...lol).....; and
2) "...I like me better when I don't drink..."
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1) Regardless of whether you were a happy drunk, a sloppy drunk, a sad drunk, or whatever...........you were still a DRUNK.
2) Absofriginlutely!!
(o:
NoelleR
You said a couple of things that struck me, as perhaps needing repeating....(?)......
1) "...hated hearing one say, 'Oh, but you're a happy drunk' ..." (we'll forget the true, sloppy drunk for now...lol).....; and
2) "...I like me better when I don't drink..."
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
1) Regardless of whether you were a happy drunk, a sloppy drunk, a sad drunk, or whatever...........you were still a DRUNK.
2) Absofriginlutely!!
(o:
NoelleR
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Join Date: Mar 2010
Location: ATL
Posts: 835
Excellent work! Remember the feeling you had driving home, how you felt more safe and secure not having to worry about getting pulled over and arrested. I think all the time about how scared I used to be to drive around drunk. And yet I still did it. The insane mind, I reckon.
Keep up the good work! 8 days is a great start to a new life.
Keep up the good work! 8 days is a great start to a new life.
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Join Date: May 2010
Location: Florida
Posts: 83
Notnormal,
Thanks for your post, I'm working on 26-27 hours now of sobriety, and It's awesome that you were able to
1. Refuse Booze!!
2. In front of friends and loved ones (I think that's the hardest!)
and your 8 days in, great job keep going. I hope I make it that far this time. Since my big Geographical I have a new set of friends, and it's going to be difficult to explain my not drinking without stirring up some mud. That was actually my biggest fear in comming back to the AA rooms, sounds like you handled it nicely! Keep Going!
Cheers
Lithobid
Thanks for your post, I'm working on 26-27 hours now of sobriety, and It's awesome that you were able to
1. Refuse Booze!!
2. In front of friends and loved ones (I think that's the hardest!)
and your 8 days in, great job keep going. I hope I make it that far this time. Since my big Geographical I have a new set of friends, and it's going to be difficult to explain my not drinking without stirring up some mud. That was actually my biggest fear in comming back to the AA rooms, sounds like you handled it nicely! Keep Going!
Cheers
Lithobid
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