Class of May 2010
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Join Date: May 2010
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Hi everyone
Been pretty busy this weekend, which is a good thing. I think I 've caught up on all the posts and just in case I forget to mention any of the newcomers I will just say hi to all of you now.
Hi, all newcomers!
Took the bus down to Philly this weekend to see and old friend of mine. A guy I knew from hi school. We actually used to do quite a bit of drinking together back in the day including college. He's a good friend though, not just a drinking buddy. Anyway, he was one of the first friends I told about my decision to stay sober. Kind of awkward leading up to it since he seemed to really want to go on a tare. In the end I just told him outright, along with my reasoning and my terrible experience with detox. He didn't seem too taken aback, maybe a little surprised, and yes, supportive. I wonder if anyone has had a similar experience ...
Also tonight I went to my first AA meeting. SR has been great but thought I might as well put a few more shots in my locker just in case. There were some very inspiring people there and some great sharing, i even contributed a little but frankly didn't know what the hell was going on. I'm definitely dedicated to staying sober but I am not so sure about the whole 12 steps aspect. Well, another question and another day I guess.
Best wishes everyone
Been pretty busy this weekend, which is a good thing. I think I 've caught up on all the posts and just in case I forget to mention any of the newcomers I will just say hi to all of you now.
Hi, all newcomers!
Took the bus down to Philly this weekend to see and old friend of mine. A guy I knew from hi school. We actually used to do quite a bit of drinking together back in the day including college. He's a good friend though, not just a drinking buddy. Anyway, he was one of the first friends I told about my decision to stay sober. Kind of awkward leading up to it since he seemed to really want to go on a tare. In the end I just told him outright, along with my reasoning and my terrible experience with detox. He didn't seem too taken aback, maybe a little surprised, and yes, supportive. I wonder if anyone has had a similar experience ...
Also tonight I went to my first AA meeting. SR has been great but thought I might as well put a few more shots in my locker just in case. There were some very inspiring people there and some great sharing, i even contributed a little but frankly didn't know what the hell was going on. I'm definitely dedicated to staying sober but I am not so sure about the whole 12 steps aspect. Well, another question and another day I guess.
Best wishes everyone
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Join Date: Apr 2010
Location: Nashville, TN
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Thanks Crow!
I've been to just a few meetings & I haven't spoken up yet, still in observation mode, but feeling closer to sharing--it makes me a little anxious though. I haven't gotten a sponsor or anything yet--I'm taking it slow for the most part too, been reading the big book & such. It's a good way to meet other sober people for sure. Glad you had a good experience & that you are doing well
it's nice to have an understanding oldschool friend that you can talk about this lifestyle change with too, that's awesome
I've been to just a few meetings & I haven't spoken up yet, still in observation mode, but feeling closer to sharing--it makes me a little anxious though. I haven't gotten a sponsor or anything yet--I'm taking it slow for the most part too, been reading the big book & such. It's a good way to meet other sober people for sure. Glad you had a good experience & that you are doing well
it's nice to have an understanding oldschool friend that you can talk about this lifestyle change with too, that's awesome
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Originally Posted by artsoul 
Thanks, Dee. And thanks for your hard work at SR! 
Hi Spen - 2 weeks and quitting two habits - that's wonderful! I know exercise really helps when I get anxious. Have to confess, I've only been on the eliptical once, but I can hear it calling me.
Anything else you're doing to stay sober and cig free? And what is " Entered a couple of halfs in the Autumn to give me a goal to aim for' Just curious!
Atlas - I'll be thinking of you tonight. Keep going for those burgers!
Hi Spen - 2 weeks and quitting two habits - that's wonderful! I know exercise really helps when I get anxious. Have to confess, I've only been on the eliptical once, but I can hear it calling me.
Anything else you're doing to stay sober and cig free? And what is " Entered a couple of halfs in the Autumn to give me a goal to aim for' Just curious!Atlas - I'll be thinking of you tonight. Keep going for those burgers!
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Join Date: Feb 2009
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Ok, I'm back. I saw no stars, except in the sky, I didn't even go to see a film, but that's ok, I spent the whole weekend with my kids and my grandaughter who is 2 today! We wandered down the "Croisette", and Saturday we went to Nice. We went people watching at the beach, and I window-shopped in Cannes. There is sure some really nice clothing if you wear a size 6 and have a thousand dollars or more to spend!
Welcome to all the newcomers, hey there's a batch of us now!!! I think that's really great we need all the moral support we can get, I really believe it helps!
Hello to all the "ancient" Mayflowers, and to Dee of course, what month and year were you?
Keep up the good work everyone, today is a beautiful day, I got a great night's sleep, and I've got loads of energy today. I've gained 5 pounds in the last 2 weeks, I think it's about time to get myself moving more and stuffing my face less. Today I plan to get out in the vegetable garden, and I bought myself some new carrots I'll cut up some carrot sticks to eat instead of bread and butter. It sure doesn't seem quite as fullfilling, but it will have to do for today.
Catch you all later
Welcome to all the newcomers, hey there's a batch of us now!!! I think that's really great we need all the moral support we can get, I really believe it helps!
Hello to all the "ancient" Mayflowers, and to Dee of course, what month and year were you?
Keep up the good work everyone, today is a beautiful day, I got a great night's sleep, and I've got loads of energy today. I've gained 5 pounds in the last 2 weeks, I think it's about time to get myself moving more and stuffing my face less. Today I plan to get out in the vegetable garden, and I bought myself some new carrots I'll cut up some carrot sticks to eat instead of bread and butter. It sure doesn't seem quite as fullfilling, but it will have to do for today.
Catch you all later
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Join Date: May 2010
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Thanks everyone for the updates. It is fun to be part of a like minded group with the same positive life changing goal - I definitely feed off the momentum.
Welcome Sayonara!
Margareth - I can see how your situation would be isolating - but makin' bacon? Wow, that IS impressive, I always see it in the package and assume it was "born that way". Good for you for keeping busy and I look forward to hearing about how you are doing and when you reunite with your husband. The two of you will really have many notes to compare!
For the women out there, I just completed reading a book entitled The Nine Rooms of Happiness. I really enjoyed it. It isn't about addiction, but more in handling personal relationships (and baggage) as it correlates to different rooms in a house - basement being the past and memories that shape behaviour, attic being expectations and those of your ancestors, etc. Just a way to think and compartmentalize some issues that many women deal with daily.
Crow and Atlas - way to be! Sober around people with whom you drank. I really do enjoy hearing these stories. What do you think made the difference for you in wanting to abstain and not be sucked back into old habits?? Congrats!
Think today I can no longer procrastinate on filing. I bought this book on Financial Organization in a Year - takes you through week by week as far as getting more aware of where you are and where you want to go, and getting a will in place etc. I even bought this sexy labeler so the tabs on all the files will match - the thing looks like the cockpit of an airplane!! So many buttons and fonts, oh my. Anything to try to make drudgery more fun - will have to crank some tunes as well!
Wishing the Mayflowers their personal best today. Thanks to you all for what you are offering me, which is lots of hope and inspiration
Welcome Sayonara!
Margareth - I can see how your situation would be isolating - but makin' bacon? Wow, that IS impressive, I always see it in the package and assume it was "born that way". Good for you for keeping busy and I look forward to hearing about how you are doing and when you reunite with your husband. The two of you will really have many notes to compare!
For the women out there, I just completed reading a book entitled The Nine Rooms of Happiness. I really enjoyed it. It isn't about addiction, but more in handling personal relationships (and baggage) as it correlates to different rooms in a house - basement being the past and memories that shape behaviour, attic being expectations and those of your ancestors, etc. Just a way to think and compartmentalize some issues that many women deal with daily.
Crow and Atlas - way to be! Sober around people with whom you drank. I really do enjoy hearing these stories. What do you think made the difference for you in wanting to abstain and not be sucked back into old habits?? Congrats!
Think today I can no longer procrastinate on filing. I bought this book on Financial Organization in a Year - takes you through week by week as far as getting more aware of where you are and where you want to go, and getting a will in place etc. I even bought this sexy labeler so the tabs on all the files will match - the thing looks like the cockpit of an airplane!! So many buttons and fonts, oh my. Anything to try to make drudgery more fun - will have to crank some tunes as well!
Wishing the Mayflowers their personal best today. Thanks to you all for what you are offering me, which is lots of hope and inspiration
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I need to buy that book Porkchopped. And that other books sounds interesting as well!
Good morning all -- I have a headache waking up. Nothing to do with alcohol, thankfully. Should be fine with a little Advil. I'm excited to be a part of this group and see where this can take me. I know I can accomplish so much more and be the person I want to be without alcohol.
Later, all!
Good morning all -- I have a headache waking up. Nothing to do with alcohol, thankfully. Should be fine with a little Advil. I'm excited to be a part of this group and see where this can take me. I know I can accomplish so much more and be the person I want to be without alcohol.
Later, all!
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Originally Posted by porkchopped
Margareth - I can see how your situation would be isolating - but makin' bacon? Wow, that IS impressive, I always see it in the package and assume it was "born that way". Good for you for keeping busy and I look forward to hearing about how you are doing and when you reunite with your husband. The two of you will really have many notes to compare!
I only just learned and it's really easy. I also make my own bread and grow our own veggies, chickens, pigs and eggs. (What's more we even legally distilled our own very clean and good vodka. Hmm.) In fact you can almost live of the land this way and with the global economy going the way it is I'm very happy about that.
Quite strange really to live so simple and yet to be able to find people such as the good people of this forum via broadband from such an isolated place.
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I'm on day # 14 as well. And the good news is my head doesn't seem as cloudy as it once did. The bad news is my energy levels are still way low and depression really seems to have me in a head lock right now...
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Join Date: Apr 2010
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Scoob, 
Always room for one more
Snowman, congrats on making it to day 14. That sucks about the low energy and depression though. You're not alone in that regard; Yesterday (Day 15 for me) I was up for three hours before almost falling asleep while driving. And the bouts of insomnia are irritating too. As far as the depression, what's up? This place is as good a place as any for talking things out.
Happy Monday, everyone.
Always room for one more Snowman, congrats on making it to day 14. That sucks about the low energy and depression though. You're not alone in that regard; Yesterday (Day 15 for me) I was up for three hours before almost falling asleep while driving. And the bouts of insomnia are irritating too. As far as the depression, what's up? This place is as good a place as any for talking things out.
Happy Monday, everyone.
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Welcome to the group scoob, so great to see so many new faces in the last few days. 
Made it to Day 10 and feeling great today. Day went quick at work and felt like I actually got somewhere today. Really feeling positive and hope it stays like this for a while. Couldnt have made it this far without all you Mayflowers, its great to get on an read everyones updates.
Made it to Day 10 and feeling great today. Day went quick at work and felt like I actually got somewhere today. Really feeling positive and hope it stays like this for a while. Couldnt have made it this far without all you Mayflowers, its great to get on an read everyones updates.
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Thanks. I have been a flake about this for a long time, it's time to recommit. I saw my dad on Saturday and you can tell he's started drinking again, it makes my heart hurt, but it also makes me see what my future will look like in 25 years if I don't just accept the facts now and stop.
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Join Date: May 2010
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Hi Scoob
Welcome!! I used to Love Scooby Doo when I was a kid and I still get a kick out of it.
Thanks Atlas... it is nice to be able to talk it out with old friends, I just hope they don't feel they need to exclude me from any activities that might involve drinking. I feel like that should be my choice...
Which brings me to your great question Porkchop
"What do you think made the difference for you in wanting to abstain and not be sucked back into old habits??"
Saturday night my friend, his GF and I actually met up with a few of his friends at a Mexican restaurant. Everyone was drinking margaritas and we ended up waiting like an hour and a half at the bar. This would certainly be considered a situation where some people might get "sucked back into old habits." For me, at least, there wasn't so much temptation because a bar was never my problem area, I was actually a fairly "responsible" drinker while out on the town, so to speak. It was when i was at home (usually alone night after night) or at a late night party that things got out of hand. One thing I found annoying was deciding what to order that was non-alcoholic because I really didn't feel like dealing with any of the "why aren't you drinking" questions from people I don't know all that well and the last time I asked a bar tender for a soda she poured me one in this ridiculous little white plastic cup that might as well have been a sippy cup with a picture of Scooby Doo on it.
I settled for a virgin margarita ... i think i will stick with cranberry and soda next time.
Welcome!! I used to Love Scooby Doo when I was a kid and I still get a kick out of it.
Thanks Atlas... it is nice to be able to talk it out with old friends, I just hope they don't feel they need to exclude me from any activities that might involve drinking. I feel like that should be my choice...
Which brings me to your great question Porkchop
"What do you think made the difference for you in wanting to abstain and not be sucked back into old habits??"
Saturday night my friend, his GF and I actually met up with a few of his friends at a Mexican restaurant. Everyone was drinking margaritas and we ended up waiting like an hour and a half at the bar. This would certainly be considered a situation where some people might get "sucked back into old habits." For me, at least, there wasn't so much temptation because a bar was never my problem area, I was actually a fairly "responsible" drinker while out on the town, so to speak. It was when i was at home (usually alone night after night) or at a late night party that things got out of hand. One thing I found annoying was deciding what to order that was non-alcoholic because I really didn't feel like dealing with any of the "why aren't you drinking" questions from people I don't know all that well and the last time I asked a bar tender for a soda she poured me one in this ridiculous little white plastic cup that might as well have been a sippy cup with a picture of Scooby Doo on it.
I settled for a virgin margarita ... i think i will stick with cranberry and soda next time.
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Welcome Scoob!
Crow, your post made me LOL. Drinking from a plastic sippy cup with a picture of Scooby Doo on it. I know the feeling. Everyone else drinking from elegant wine glasses and they give you this big ugly glass with a plastic straw in it that screams "soda."
I kind of struggle with that a bit, too, and have thought of ordering virgin margaritas, not only because of the look of it, but because I truly like the taste of margaritas. I have ordered cranberry on the rocks on occasion and that works out well. Looks pretty inconspicuous and many people assume you have a cocktail so no questions to deal with. One step at a time...I'm not going to a bar in the near future thankfully.
I'm only on Day 3 -- hard to believe. The last time I drank seems like another life. A life I'd rather leave behind, might I add! I'm very motivated right now because I don't think alcohol has much to offer me anymore (except being sick and depressed) and love the way I feel when I don't drink. I can't wait to see what it's like a week from now, two weeks from now, etc.
I had to fight off a very stressful moment last night. It was a moment that might have driven to me drink in the recent past, something that would have tipped me over the edge, but I just kept reminding myself that drinking would only be hurting me more. Why do that to myself. There are much better ways to deal with stress. It's like retraining myself out of old habits.
Hope everyone is doing well -- this group is really big now, isn't it?
Crow, your post made me LOL. Drinking from a plastic sippy cup with a picture of Scooby Doo on it. I know the feeling. Everyone else drinking from elegant wine glasses and they give you this big ugly glass with a plastic straw in it that screams "soda."
I kind of struggle with that a bit, too, and have thought of ordering virgin margaritas, not only because of the look of it, but because I truly like the taste of margaritas. I have ordered cranberry on the rocks on occasion and that works out well. Looks pretty inconspicuous and many people assume you have a cocktail so no questions to deal with. One step at a time...I'm not going to a bar in the near future thankfully.
I'm only on Day 3 -- hard to believe. The last time I drank seems like another life. A life I'd rather leave behind, might I add! I'm very motivated right now because I don't think alcohol has much to offer me anymore (except being sick and depressed) and love the way I feel when I don't drink. I can't wait to see what it's like a week from now, two weeks from now, etc.
I had to fight off a very stressful moment last night. It was a moment that might have driven to me drink in the recent past, something that would have tipped me over the edge, but I just kept reminding myself that drinking would only be hurting me more. Why do that to myself. There are much better ways to deal with stress. It's like retraining myself out of old habits.
Hope everyone is doing well -- this group is really big now, isn't it?
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Join Date: May 2010
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Hi everybody - just realized that coming here is like getting cards in the mail - and no bills!! I love hearing from everyone.
TraderJ -sorry about the headache to start the day, hopefully it wore off quickly. The best thing about the 9 Rooms book is that is it is broken into sections and scenarios - no need to follow a convoluted plot so you can pick up and put down whenev (says the chick with a short attention span right now)
CApop- the trip to Nice sounds fabulous, glad that you got to enjoy your family as well as the scenery - laughed at the window shopping description, I always thought that if I had that kind of money I'd never spend it on a million dollar size six pants, but that is also a reminder that I don't have a million dolars!!
Margereth - The internet is magic!! You are a true farmer!! That is very cool. And you have the animals to keep you company!
Snowman - sorry to hear about the depression, like Drac said - it it an overall feeling or about a specific thing? If you can identify it and we can offer more support, let us know?
Drac sorry to hear of the insomnia. I find that some nights are definitely worse than others... ever try SleepyTime tea??
Fluxcap - rock on!
Crow - cracking me up with the sippy cup haha!! Really, it helps to put myself in your shoes and envision situations that will inevitably crop up in my sober debut
Welcome to the group Scoob and rki84!!
Yeah, it's about the filing... if I were my own administrative assistant I would fire myself LOL
Hope that you all are having a great day - weather is awesome here, so I can avoid the filing with a long walk. woohooo!!!
TraderJ -sorry about the headache to start the day, hopefully it wore off quickly. The best thing about the 9 Rooms book is that is it is broken into sections and scenarios - no need to follow a convoluted plot so you can pick up and put down whenev (says the chick with a short attention span right now
)CApop- the trip to Nice sounds fabulous, glad that you got to enjoy your family as well as the scenery - laughed at the window shopping description, I always thought that if I had that kind of money I'd never spend it on a million dollar size six pants, but that is also a reminder that I don't have a million dolars!!
Margereth - The internet is magic!! You are a true farmer!! That is very cool. And you have the animals to keep you company!
Snowman - sorry to hear about the depression, like Drac said - it it an overall feeling or about a specific thing? If you can identify it and we can offer more support, let us know?
Drac sorry to hear of the insomnia. I find that some nights are definitely worse than others... ever try SleepyTime tea??
Fluxcap - rock on!
Crow - cracking me up with the sippy cup haha!! Really, it helps to put myself in your shoes and envision situations that will inevitably crop up in my sober debut
Welcome to the group Scoob and rki84!!
Yeah, it's about the filing... if I were my own administrative assistant I would fire myself LOL
Hope that you all are having a great day - weather is awesome here, so I can avoid the filing with a long walk. woohooo!!!
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Join Date: May 2010
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Hello all! Sorry I haven't posted for a few days. It's 7 days today clean and sober today!! Yipee!
Yesterday was one of those days where your nerves feel like they are getting tightened with a screw-driver more and more every few minutes. I did something amazing -- I picked up the phone and told someone about it. It actually helped. Even wilder -- (with 25 yrs.) called me that and we held each other mutual hostage until our cell phone batteries were dying.
Today -- I feel oh-so-much better. And wouldn't you know it? The topic at the noon meeting was about "Finding Peace". I kinda laughed. I don't think that is a real goal for me right now. I'm still too stuck in that "fix me RIGHT NOW" thinking so typical of us addicts/alcoholics.
My thinking is a little perverse sometimes. It's like I forget the serenity prayer after the first line (God, Grant me the Serenity. Now.)
Yesterday was one of those days where your nerves feel like they are getting tightened with a screw-driver more and more every few minutes. I did something amazing -- I picked up the phone and told someone about it. It actually helped. Even wilder -- (with 25 yrs.) called me that and we held each other mutual hostage until our cell phone batteries were dying.
Today -- I feel oh-so-much better. And wouldn't you know it? The topic at the noon meeting was about "Finding Peace". I kinda laughed. I don't think that is a real goal for me right now. I'm still too stuck in that "fix me RIGHT NOW" thinking so typical of us addicts/alcoholics.
My thinking is a little perverse sometimes. It's like I forget the serenity prayer after the first line (God, Grant me the Serenity. Now.)
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