A Healthy Reminder for Us "Oldies" When Responding
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A Healthy Reminder for Us "Oldies" When Responding
Most of us I think are great with helping newcomers! I found this on another forum site and thought it would be a good reminder for us too:
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Responses should include only compassionate and helpful remarks. "Tough love" should be sandwiched between kindness and the truth. This is known as SET communication:
S = Sympathy
E = Empathy
T = Truth
Offering advice is more than welcomed if presented in a kind, compassionate way. Talk from your heart and soul. Make sure you are not projecting after being triggered. Walk in the other person's shoes before your advise them.
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Responses should include only compassionate and helpful remarks. "Tough love" should be sandwiched between kindness and the truth. This is known as SET communication:
S = Sympathy
E = Empathy
T = Truth
Offering advice is more than welcomed if presented in a kind, compassionate way. Talk from your heart and soul. Make sure you are not projecting after being triggered. Walk in the other person's shoes before your advise them.
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Empathy and truth........sure thing..
Sympathy.......mmmmmmmmmmm not sure about that..
for me anyhow when i was drinking sympathy was my favourite after booze.
id suck it up like a sponge....ohh poor poor me......
did it help.....nope....emotional vampire i was......
its the relatives that need the sympathy.
the drunk needs another drunk...to empathize and share the truth with.
maybe its just me but sympathy was about as useful as a chocolate T-pot.
just my experience.
Sympathy.......mmmmmmmmmmm not sure about that..
for me anyhow when i was drinking sympathy was my favourite after booze.
id suck it up like a sponge....ohh poor poor me......
did it help.....nope....emotional vampire i was......
its the relatives that need the sympathy.
the drunk needs another drunk...to empathize and share the truth with.
maybe its just me but sympathy was about as useful as a chocolate T-pot.
just my experience.
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Yers, but oldies should know by now how to give appropriate sympathy? Those who enable don't use the "T" for truth. That is where the difference lies. We need to use all three to be the most effective.
Food for thought.
Food for thought.
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I'm not an oldie at this, and I don't think the S E T items were involved, but I modified an answer to somebody today because I didn't like the initial one. Just because it was out of whack, I jumped or something. &#&*() !!
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sym·pa·thy (smp-th)
n. pl. sym·pa·thies
1.
a. A relationship or an affinity between people or things in which whatever affects one correspondingly affects the other.
b. Mutual understanding or affection arising from this relationship or affinity.
n. pl. sym·pa·thies
1.
a. A relationship or an affinity between people or things in which whatever affects one correspondingly affects the other.
b. Mutual understanding or affection arising from this relationship or affinity.
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Originally Posted by Alizerin 
Yers, but oldies should know by now how to give appropriate sympathy? Those who enable don't use the "T" for truth. That is where the difference lies. We need to use all three to be the most effective.
Food for thought.
Food for thought.
Can you define old
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Originally Posted by Alizerin
When you turn Republican! 
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If your NOT a Liberal when your young, you have no heart.
If your NOT a Rebulican when you old, you have no brain.
My grandfather told me this one...
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Washburn,
That is almost a direct quote from Winston Churchill. The original goes like this (googled it):
"Any man who is under 30, and is not a liberal, has not heart; and any man who is over 30, and is not a conservative, has no brains." -Sir Winston Churchill
- Tigger (a regular post-er on Family & Friends)
That is almost a direct quote from Winston Churchill. The original goes like this (googled it):
"Any man who is under 30, and is not a liberal, has not heart; and any man who is over 30, and is not a conservative, has no brains." -Sir Winston Churchill
- Tigger (a regular post-er on Family & Friends)
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Originally Posted by Washburn
You have to be careful with comments like that here... This is not a place for politics. But you started it so:
If your NOT a Liberal when your young, you have no heart.
If your NOT a Rebulican when you old, you have no brain.
My grandfather told me this one...
If your NOT a Liberal when your young, you have no heart.
If your NOT a Rebulican when you old, you have no brain.
My grandfather told me this one...
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