kyb5

Just found out that a good friend fell and broke his collarbone.

Then found out that some close friends just separated (the kind you would never think this would happen to).

God help me!!!


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suki44883

Okay...are you feeling the desire to drink because you found out this news? You know that drinking won't change anything, right?

kyb5

yeah...i know. day 5 and i really don't want to blow it. just more depressed now than i was earlier.


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Andi

Hey Kyb,

Please just be honest with yourself. Wouldn't this be the old, any occasion will do to drink?
Beat that voice down!

Andi

Guess we are writing at the same time.. day 5 way to go, hang in there!

Peter G

Here's the thing. I'm in no position to be giving advice on staying sober since I'm just arriving at Day 4, but maybe this'll help you.

As bad as it gets, and as horrible as life can be at throwing crap your way, always remember this first... "nothing is as important as me staying sober, anything else is second place."

Knowing that has helped get me through a few bad times myself yesterday. Stay strong and congratulations on Day 5.

scoob

Don't pick up other people's garbage.

kyb5

Thanks. I was reminded of that after re-reading something I came across today.

It's just that I know it would be easier to "deal" with it the way I used to. But I guess that's not really dealing with it right?

I guess that's party of recovery is learning how to really deal with things instead of running away.

Still sucks tho.



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scoob

It's so easy to pick up other people's problems as our own. I'm bad for it too. Oh woe is me my aunt has a hangnail. If she doesn't drown herself in vodka over it, then neither should I.

Anna

Just feel the feeling and then let them go.

They are only feelings and they don't control you.

And, know for sure, that it will get easier to deal with emotions as time goes by.

coffeenut

You can use these things as an excuse to drink....or not drink and learn how strong you can be.

Welcome to SR....glad you are here.

Mark75

What coffeenut said...

You know, that alcoholic voice is sneaky... tells you that you are weak, especially now, now that your trying to get sober.... yea, very weak.... "it's OK, drink, you can always try again later, when your life is perfect... it'll be OK for today..." do you know that voice?

How about a new one...

"I won't drink, just for today."

kyb5

Thank you all for the encouragement. I think I was having an anxiety attack. When I used to feel that way I thought it was from the drinking. But I let it go pretty quickly which was kind of amazing to me.

I read through the Serenity Prayer, which I've never really paid much attention to before and it really seemed to help.

I know these things are not my fault and I can't do anything about them except offer my support to my friends.

Had a good night too. Day 5 down......bring on day 6!

Washburn

KYB5...how is everything going?

giveit2god

:day6It is easy to find a reason to drink even easier to find reasons not to...