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Hello everyone. I am on day one alcohol free. I have been drinking for about 15 years and lately I have been forgetting things and this morning my boyfriend turned to me and said he can't do this anymore..this has been a wake up call for me. I quit smoking cold turkey about two years ago and I am not sure how this is going to pan out for me. I am going to attend my first AA meeting in a few hours and I have to tell you I am little scared by it. Any and all advice is appreciated.
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Welcome to SR! 
There is no reason to be apprehensive about the meeting. THey are all there for the same reason as you: to learn to live a good life sober. Congrats on deciding to live sober. :ghug3
There is no reason to be apprehensive about the meeting. THey are all there for the same reason as you: to learn to live a good life sober. Congrats on deciding to live sober. :ghug3
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Good to know you are checking out local support.
Please try to listen for similarities when others share.
Welcome to our recovery comunity
All my best to the two of you
Please try to listen for similarities when others share.
Welcome to our recovery comunity
All my best to the two of you
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Welcome to SR. I think we all get our wake up calls and thank God yours is from your boyfriend and not something worse. Catch it now and you will save yourself a lot of anguish later in life.
Look forward to hearing how your first meeting went. I can understand the nervousness. You don't know what to expect, but after the first one it will be cake. Good to have you here.
Look forward to hearing how your first meeting went. I can understand the nervousness. You don't know what to expect, but after the first one it will be cake. Good to have you here.
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Couldn't do it
Could not bring myself to going to the meeting. Just don't feel ready for that quite yet. I have been reading a bit on this site and I have been reading The Big Book online. I have not touched a drop since Saturday at about 5:30. Taking it one day at a time. I feel fine so far. I just got home from work and this has always been the tough part for me....get home and pour a glass of wine. I am trying to do things to keep me occupied and my glass of diet coke full....
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Welcome VAJ,
AA is not for everybody. It is a great place to meet other sober people f2f tho - connecting with people who know what you're going through - like we do here at SR, but the f2f aspect is helpful too.
In early sobriety, it's also a really good idea to change the patterns and behaviors that we associated alcohol with in the past. Passing a liquor store on the way home from work and popping in for a bottle of wine, take a different route; coming home and pouring a glass of wine, change the way or place where you relax after work.
It may seem like it, but it's not doom and gloom - it's just important to change the behaviors in early sobriety while we learn how to handle every day life without the crutch of alcohol.
AA is not for everybody. It is a great place to meet other sober people f2f tho - connecting with people who know what you're going through - like we do here at SR, but the f2f aspect is helpful too.
In early sobriety, it's also a really good idea to change the patterns and behaviors that we associated alcohol with in the past. Passing a liquor store on the way home from work and popping in for a bottle of wine, take a different route; coming home and pouring a glass of wine, change the way or place where you relax after work.
It may seem like it, but it's not doom and gloom - it's just important to change the behaviors in early sobriety while we learn how to handle every day life without the crutch of alcohol.
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Thank you....I went through the same thing when I quit smoking...I was not able to go out to my back patio for about four months...I am taking the same approach....the only thing is that smoking was pretty much socially unacceptable where drinking is not. So that makes it a bit harder.
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I understand completely,
But in time I think we'll discover more advantages than disadvantages to our disease.
We have to dig deeper in our minds and hearts in order to keep our sobriety, compared to some people that don't have "it" and when I read some of the posts of people that are into it longer, I often see a very deep appreciation for life and just being able to walk this planet.
By the way, if you like you can still join the class of April 2010 :-))
But in time I think we'll discover more advantages than disadvantages to our disease.
We have to dig deeper in our minds and hearts in order to keep our sobriety, compared to some people that don't have "it" and when I read some of the posts of people that are into it longer, I often see a very deep appreciation for life and just being able to walk this planet.
By the way, if you like you can still join the class of April 2010 :-))
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dunno if I'm doing this right, but here's the link
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...il-2010-a.html
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...il-2010-a.html
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End of day two...
Wooo Hooo...so incredibly grateful...day two almost over and feeling great! Diet coke has become my friend... Had a craving here and there but nothing terrible...so far so good...one day at a time!
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