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Originally Posted by foxy0116 
Well its now late on my day of being sober. 23:41pm and not a drop has passed these lips! I even managed to watch my beloved Arsenal FC draw against Barcelona with only Coffee to drink. Im feeling really proud of myself at the moment but tomorrow is another day.
I have been invited to the pub (bar) by some friends tomorrow. I said id come. Thoughts?
I have been invited to the pub (bar) by some friends tomorrow. I said id come. Thoughts?
In terms of going to the pub, I found that I had to change my playground (bars and pubs) and playmates (drinking buddies) in order to achieve lasting sobriety.
Where are you in the UK? There are plenty of your countrymen here if that's the case. Let us know how that first AA meeting goes.
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Im based in Leicester dgillz very near the city centre. Im feeling very strong today and really want to test my resolve tonight. It may sound stupid, and probably is, but I want to prove to myself that I dont need booze to be sociable. Im going to this and if the urge gets too much get a taxi and go home or tell my mate I cant stay and see if he will leave with me. Im not sure about AA at the moment as I have never believed in spirituality or god. I hope not to offend anybody that does. My strength right now is my children. I need to prove to their mother that I can do this and be a responsible Dad. Your comments and advice are an inspiration to me. Wish id found this place years ago!!!! Would prob not be in this mess now 
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Originally Posted by newagain
hi foxy, glad to hear your positive outlook. well can't chat long, have work to do. just wanted you to know i am thinking about you and praying/sending good vibes your way. :ghug3
I actually feel full of energy today, I have written practically an essay to my wife, written a poem and done 30 push ups and 30 sit ups. Now eating a salad, and guess what? Its not making me feel sick!!! I think all the water I have been drinking may have flushed out most of the alcohol. Now comes the mental part I guess?
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Glad you're doing well, foxy. Keep it up!
I find that I have to speak to other people who have suffered the same problems as myself. This site has fantastic people that fit that bill perfectly. I've also found fact-to-face conversations to be extremely helpful. AA has been my source for that, but I'm sure there are many options available to you in the UK. Keep looking and trying until you find what works.
I find that I have to speak to other people who have suffered the same problems as myself. This site has fantastic people that fit that bill perfectly. I've also found fact-to-face conversations to be extremely helpful. AA has been my source for that, but I'm sure there are many options available to you in the UK. Keep looking and trying until you find what works.
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Originally Posted by Snarf
Glad you're doing well, foxy. Keep it up!
I find that I have to speak to other people who have suffered the same problems as myself. This site has fantastic people that fit that bill perfectly. I've also found fact-to-face conversations to be extremely helpful. AA has been my source for that, but I'm sure there are many options available to you in the UK. Keep looking and trying until you find what works.
I find that I have to speak to other people who have suffered the same problems as myself. This site has fantastic people that fit that bill perfectly. I've also found fact-to-face conversations to be extremely helpful. AA has been my source for that, but I'm sure there are many options available to you in the UK. Keep looking and trying until you find what works.
Talking on here is really helping me to get through this. A lot of people just dont seem to understand what im going through but here there are people who know what they are talking about. Fells like home and i have only been here 2 days
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Originally Posted by foxy0116
Thank you for your support!
Talking on here is really helping me to get through this. A lot of people just dont seem to understand what im going through but here there are people who know what they are talking about. Fells like home and i have only been here 2 days
Talking on here is really helping me to get through this. A lot of people just dont seem to understand what im going through but here there are people who know what they are talking about. Fells like home and i have only been here 2 days
Agree with you about this place, though. I'm very glad I found it.
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Ok right so I have just looked again on the AA site and have found a meeting quite close by on Saturday. Problem is, I really do not believe in GOD and never have. Im actually not too sure whether to attend or not?!? I know id lose nothing for attending but am actually quite scared to go. Silly I know 
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Originally Posted by FrankBarone
This has actually been the easy bit in the past for me, believe it or not. It's a week or two down the line when you feel 'good' and you think that you could maybe 'go for a couple of pints' or if a party comes up or even going to a football match that I find I always fall down and invariably 'a couple of pints' ends up multiple day bender that ends in myself being in tears and feeling alienated and depressed.
Agree with you about this place, though. I'm very glad I found it.
Agree with you about this place, though. I'm very glad I found it.
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I remember going into a pub for the first time and not drinking. I just drank diet tonic. It felt really really weird. In fact one of the surprising things looking around me was how many other people there were who were not drinking alcohol either.
Having said that I felt very uncomfortable and I tend to choose to avoid situations where alcohol is around.
All the best foxy!
Having said that I felt very uncomfortable and I tend to choose to avoid situations where alcohol is around.
All the best foxy!
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hey foxy
I'm not a AA member, but I'm sure others who are will be along to tell you that a belief in God is absolutely not necessary there.
Go ahead and hit a meeting - I'm reliably informed they don't lock the doors either so you can leave anytime - what have you got to lose?
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I'm not a AA member, but I'm sure others who are will be along to tell you that a belief in God is absolutely not necessary there.
Go ahead and hit a meeting - I'm reliably informed they don't lock the doors either so you can leave anytime - what have you got to lose?
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Hi Guys,
So I went to the pub tonight and have returned home sober, before closing time and right now am pretty damn pleased with myself
I wont deny that it was hard, no hard's not the word it was immensely hard! I got offered drinks but for the first time in my life I said NO! When asked why I told people, some got it, some didn't but I did it! Dont think it is something that I want to repeat any time soon though and I can understand why a lot of you advised against it.
There were a few moments where I really wanted a drink but I just hogged a pool table and for the first time ever, played well! Im looking into AA tomorrow, but a friend of mine has also given me the name of very good rehab counsellor. She is a youth worker and has had many positive results with the man. Im so glad I found this place, without all your advice I would have given into temptation long ago!!!
So I went to the pub tonight and have returned home sober, before closing time and right now am pretty damn pleased with myself
I wont deny that it was hard, no hard's not the word it was immensely hard! I got offered drinks but for the first time in my life I said NO! When asked why I told people, some got it, some didn't but I did it! Dont think it is something that I want to repeat any time soon though and I can understand why a lot of you advised against it.
There were a few moments where I really wanted a drink but I just hogged a pool table and for the first time ever, played well! Im looking into AA tomorrow, but a friend of mine has also given me the name of very good rehab counsellor. She is a youth worker and has had many positive results with the man. Im so glad I found this place, without all your advice I would have given into temptation long ago!!!
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Originally Posted by foxy0116
Hi Guys,
So I went to the pub tonight and have returned home sober, before closing time and right now am pretty damn pleased with myself
I wont deny that it was hard, no hard's not the word it was immensely hard! I got offered drinks but for the first time in my life I said NO! When asked why I told people, some got it, some didn't but I did it! Dont think it is something that I want to repeat any time soon though and I can understand why a lot of you advised against it.
There were a few moments where I really wanted a drink but I just hogged a pool table and for the first time ever, played well! Im looking into AA tomorrow, but a friend of mine has also given me the name of very good rehab counsellor. She is a youth worker and has had many positive results with the man. Im so glad I found this place, without all your advice I would have given into temptation long ago!!!
So I went to the pub tonight and have returned home sober, before closing time and right now am pretty damn pleased with myself
I wont deny that it was hard, no hard's not the word it was immensely hard! I got offered drinks but for the first time in my life I said NO! When asked why I told people, some got it, some didn't but I did it! Dont think it is something that I want to repeat any time soon though and I can understand why a lot of you advised against it.
There were a few moments where I really wanted a drink but I just hogged a pool table and for the first time ever, played well! Im looking into AA tomorrow, but a friend of mine has also given me the name of very good rehab counsellor. She is a youth worker and has had many positive results with the man. Im so glad I found this place, without all your advice I would have given into temptation long ago!!!
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hi foxy
i've just read through your thread for the first time and have really enjoyed your first couple days of sobriety. it is the hardest thing that i've ever done and am doing again today.
you dont' need to 'believe in god' to attend meetings or even to stay sober. many people say you do and the "big book" says that also...but people have and do get sober without god, and the big book also talks about that and that it worked for some back in the day (the 30's)
the important thing is to have an open mind towards spiritual principals. such would be: Honesty, Openminded-ness, willingness. the acronym of H.O.W.
I'm proud of you. go ahead and try some meetings if you can muster up the courage. maybe try 3 or 7 or 90 meetings no matter what, before you begin to decide if it might be for you.
You can do this. You NEVER have to take another drink. One is too many and a thousand is not enough
i've just read through your thread for the first time and have really enjoyed your first couple days of sobriety. it is the hardest thing that i've ever done and am doing again today.
you dont' need to 'believe in god' to attend meetings or even to stay sober. many people say you do and the "big book" says that also...but people have and do get sober without god, and the big book also talks about that and that it worked for some back in the day (the 30's)
the important thing is to have an open mind towards spiritual principals. such would be: Honesty, Openminded-ness, willingness. the acronym of H.O.W.
I'm proud of you. go ahead and try some meetings if you can muster up the courage. maybe try 3 or 7 or 90 meetings no matter what, before you begin to decide if it might be for you.
You can do this. You NEVER have to take another drink. One is too many and a thousand is not enough
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So its now day 5, and I actually managed near on 6hrs sleep last night!!! I would only sleep for a maximum of 7/8 when drinking so I am almost, almost sleeping normally (still wake a few times and lots of sweats)
It is a very important day for me today, not only for a milestone of 5 days (has been many years since i abstained for this long) but today I meet my wife to try and sort out the mess I have created. I know the relationship is not salvageable but I hope to be able to get access to my children, and soon! I know its early days but I really think I can beat this! You guys, along with my best friend have been my rock and thank you all so much!
It is a very important day for me today, not only for a milestone of 5 days (has been many years since i abstained for this long) but today I meet my wife to try and sort out the mess I have created. I know the relationship is not salvageable but I hope to be able to get access to my children, and soon! I know its early days but I really think I can beat this! You guys, along with my best friend have been my rock and thank you all so much!
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Hey Foxy
We Shall Overcome! (M.L. King)
Good for you, your getting YOUR life back, your children will follow and let's hope your wife does, too. You are a great Dad, although giving up the beast is first and foremost for you, you are giving your children a gift that money can't buy!
Keep up the good work!:ghug3
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Good for you, your getting YOUR life back, your children will follow and let's hope your wife does, too. You are a great Dad, although giving up the beast is first and foremost for you, you are giving your children a gift that money can't buy!
Keep up the good work!:ghug3
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Originally Posted by LifeIs
We Shall Overcome! (M.L. King)
Good for you, your getting YOUR life back, your children will follow and let's hope your wife does, too. You are a great Dad, although giving up the beast is first and foremost for you, you are giving your children a gift that money can't buy!
Keep up the good work!:ghug3
Life Is....
Good for you, your getting YOUR life back, your children will follow and let's hope your wife does, too. You are a great Dad, although giving up the beast is first and foremost for you, you are giving your children a gift that money can't buy!
Keep up the good work!:ghug3
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It feels like I have turned a corner. I know its still (very) early days but I am better than this addiction and feel like kicking its ass for holding me down so long!!!
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Foxy, try not to give in to all-or-nothing thinking. Imagine the possibility that she won't let you see the children, now. You have five days sobriety. I don't know what has gone on in the past, but she may need a longer period of sobriety before she trusts you. that doesn't mean you'll never see your kids again if she says no today. You have to keep workiing at it, regaining her trust day by day, staying sober one day at a time. It took longer than 5 days to get to this point. You can do it, always keep your goal in mind. You're doing great!
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Originally Posted by NellieM
Foxy, try not to give in to all-or-nothing thinking. Imagine the possibility that she won't let you see the children, now. You have five days sobriety. I don't know what has gone on in the past, but she may need a longer period of sobriety before she trusts you. that doesn't mean you'll never see your kids again if she says no today. You have to keep workiing at it, regaining her trust day by day, staying sober one day at a time. It took longer than 5 days to get to this point. You can do it, always keep your goal in mind. You're doing great!
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