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Old 01-03-2010, 07:26 PM
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A smidge of a crush

Hi everyone,

My perspective is new. I am sober. I am finding that I have crushes on people. My husband, my daughter's hockey coach, my neighbor, someone here, etc. Is this 'normal'? Am I just awakening to what the world has to offer or ????

I feel so alive and a little embarrassed as well. I am 47 after all and should be so far past this. :-)

All feedback is welcome.

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Old 01-03-2010, 07:31 PM
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55438 -

It's actually rather ... I don't want to say 'normal' ...
but at the same time, don't want you to feel ...'common' either.

It's to do with having been sedated
literally
for however many years you drank.

Also, a factor is
that other behaviors
come to the surface
when that drug (doc)
is removed from the picture.

I've seen alcoholics
not drink
but get a touch of cleptomania
or
gamble a bit much
or
over eat
or
starve
or
shop too much
or even
become promiscuous

from time to time in their sobriety.

Some of it
is part of the process.

I'd say if you can feel it
and not ACT on it...

... as long as it's not hurting anyone ...

just be happy to be ALBE to feel ... anything for now.
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Old 01-03-2010, 07:38 PM
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I wouldn't say it's not normal, but I think it's important to find balance. I have an addictive personality and I tend to overdo things. Balance is crucial to my sobriety. It's also important to feel your feelings, acknowledge them and let them go. They are just feelings. It was mind-blowing for me to learn that my feelings didn't contrtol me.
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Old 01-03-2010, 07:40 PM
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barb dwyer,

I always look forward to your posts. This one reminds me why.

I am feeling so 'alive' again. I am cherishing my time with people, seeing their impact on me and my family. My 'loving' gene is coming forward so it makes sense that I would see that in others as well.

Being 'alive' and seeing things differently is lovely and makes me question too.

Thank you for reminding me that I am not really that much of a freak barb.

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Old 01-03-2010, 07:45 PM
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Anna,

You seem to have an easy center, I don't have that yet. I am still swinging back and forth. There will be a time when I get there.

Thank you for your reminder that my emotions are just one part of who I really am.

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Old 01-03-2010, 08:25 PM
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I used to be very prone to crushes and have had the opposite occur in sobriety. I seem to have developed an immunity to masculine charms, it makes me a little sad.
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Old 01-03-2010, 09:13 PM
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I don't know what's normal...and what's not, anymore! I'm making my new normal...thankfully!

I think sobriety just puts you in touch with feelings that you never knew were there.
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Old 01-03-2010, 09:28 PM
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Congratulations on your new found feelings 55438!!!

I am enjoying reading the insight of the members here!!
I am looking forward to my feelings coming back too,
I fall so deeply in love with the bottle that I can not see those
around me losing me, it only comes clear as I sober up!!

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Old 01-03-2010, 09:46 PM
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Wink

..human sport..it's natural..
..that's why we're here..

..but early days of sobriety does make you think about life..

thanx for the post....ozy
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Old 01-03-2010, 10:07 PM
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Originally Posted by Ninsuna View Post
I used to be very prone to crushes and have had the opposite occur in sobriety. I seem to have developed an immunity to masculine charms, it makes me a little sad.
I share this too but even in my drinking days......I am wondering if the immunity for me, just doesn't come with the wisdom of age!
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Old 01-04-2010, 01:38 AM
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I share this too but even in my drinking days......I am wondering if the immunity for me, just doesn't come with the wisdom of age!
..don't think like that..we're only human...
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