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Join Date: Dec 2009
Location: Louisville, Ky.
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Dari,
I know what you're talking about with that little voice. After 24 years of incorporating drinking into everything I do my mind is conditioned that drinking = fun. Therefore, no drinking = no fun. Without psychoanalyzing myself too much I think this is the main reason I relapse. I just get bored.
I know what you're talking about with that little voice. After 24 years of incorporating drinking into everything I do my mind is conditioned that drinking = fun. Therefore, no drinking = no fun. Without psychoanalyzing myself too much I think this is the main reason I relapse. I just get bored.
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Join Date: Mar 2009
Location: Dallas, Tx
Posts: 2,405
Welcome Dari I too was just a 'social drinker' for 20+ years I knew I drank too much when I drank but I only drank on the weekends...then I started drinking couple nights during the week,...then most every night...gradually there was nothing social about my drinking at all. The hardest part about stopping drinking for me was figuring out who I was sober and learning to love myself. The last couple of years have been the happiest of my life because I am free of my crutch; like blackbirdsing's avatar I now have wings to fly. The rewards of sobriety are endless.
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Join Date: Dec 2009
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Hi everyone....I've been lurking here for about a week and finally decided to join today.
Reading all of your posts has made me determined to change my life. It's good to know that I am not alone.
I've only been sober 1 day, but I feel a new strength within me that I can beat this.
Should I tell my family what I'm feeling or wait a while?
Reading all of your posts has made me determined to change my life. It's good to know that I am not alone.
I've only been sober 1 day, but I feel a new strength within me that I can beat this.
Should I tell my family what I'm feeling or wait a while?
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Join Date: Mar 2009
Location: Dallas, Tx
Posts: 2,405
Hi Patty, welcome. YES tell anyone and everyone what you are feeling. Some won't understand a bit and some won't believe but some will be there to support you and those are the ones to stay close with.
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Join Date: Dec 2009
Posts: 2
Originally Posted by jamdls 
Hi Patty, welcome. YES tell anyone and everyone what you are feeling. Some won't understand a bit and some won't believe but some will be there to support you and those are the ones to stay close with.
I have always ran from the beast....I've never looked it in the eye and embraced it. I need to stop running.
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Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Australia
Posts: 211,427
Hi and Welcome PattyPete 
Some of us told everybody and everyone - some of us didn't.
I think you know your family best....there's no problem with waiting a while until you're sure what to do anyway
D
Some of us told everybody and everyone - some of us didn't.
I think you know your family best....there's no problem with waiting a while until you're sure what to do anyway
D
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Join Date: Dec 2009
Location: Buzz-free Zone
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Welcome Patty!
The first 24 hours is HUGE, it's not "only one day sober." Congratulations.
For me, I told close family members who I knew would support me when I was feeling different emotions in the beginning - they kept me going with their love and support.
Other people I didn't tell since it was a personal decision and I didn't need to worry about any judgements against me while I was beginning my recovery. Everyone's different.
My best decision was finding another woman early on who had been through exactly what I was going through. Someone I could call day or night and who would talk me through things that kept me from picking up again. I met this woman through AA but I'm a firm believer that everyone needs to find their own way. AA is still part of my recovery program, but it's not the only part.
There's lots of support out there and awesome support right here on SR. Welcome and Happy New Year!
The first 24 hours is HUGE, it's not "only one day sober." Congratulations.
For me, I told close family members who I knew would support me when I was feeling different emotions in the beginning - they kept me going with their love and support.
Other people I didn't tell since it was a personal decision and I didn't need to worry about any judgements against me while I was beginning my recovery. Everyone's different.
My best decision was finding another woman early on who had been through exactly what I was going through. Someone I could call day or night and who would talk me through things that kept me from picking up again. I met this woman through AA but I'm a firm believer that everyone needs to find their own way. AA is still part of my recovery program, but it's not the only part.
There's lots of support out there and awesome support right here on SR. Welcome and Happy New Year!
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